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Celibacy?
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I believe people can be called to celibacy but still have feelings for the opposite sex. A desire for close companionship is natural for humans. If it wasn't why did God need to create eve, even when adam was living in a sinless world in direct fellowship with God. There was still a need for a opposite mate.
I've also been fairly terrible in the female department. Never had a GF myself, barely even been on a date. None just seem interested to be more than friends. It's all the same story, they like me as a platonic friend, nothing more.
Because of my repeated bad experiences in this area i'm not sure if I trust my feelings anymore. I don't want to marry a girl just because she happens to be the only girl to show me any interest. (if one ever decides to at one point)
I guess on the positive side it's not hard to remain abstinent for me because I'm not even being tempted by any women.
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backspacekey
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I've thought the same thing being in my mid-30's and nowhere near the 'advanced' stages of relationships that I see people 10+ years younger than me at. It makes sense that if that were the case I wouldn't have the desire because God puts the desires in your heart. I have also had an interest in being a bodybuilder and thought that it was some strange perversion to want to show myself off to people. However, I have read several Christian bodybuilders say that God puts that desire in you as well so it can't be bad. He really does use different people different ways. I am trying my best to not go against His plan because I know He will make me happy but being human that is difficult. So I guess the best thing to do is wait. Don't try to ignore women (or men if you're female) as I have done in the past but don't try to speed things up either. Always remain open to the opportunities as God presents them to you.
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backspacekey,
I've never had an interest in body building so I know very little about it. A couple of storyies I read in the past gave me the impression that some people are pretty compulsive about it though. What are you thoughts about that?
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I've never had an interest in body building so I know very little about it. A couple of storyies I read in the past gave me the impression that some people are pretty compulsive about it though. What are you thoughts about that?
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I just thought of it as a way to "break out of my shell" so to speak. I'm a pretty shy person and it seemed a good way to step out of my protected/sheltered limits without going wild. Still, it was too extreme for some people around me who made derogatory comments. I'm still interested in it for some reason. The weird part is that I got interested in triathlon training as well which also involved the two things that I was scorned for in bodybuilding (minimal clothing and body hair removal - for the swim at least). I have stopped that training as well. Thing is I still don't see what the big deal about it was. I wonder if I am missing something wrong.
I didn't let either rule my life. You have to make changes to progress but it can be just a hobby. Anyway, that's how I looked at it.
I didn't let either rule my life. You have to make changes to progress but it can be just a hobby. Anyway, that's how I looked at it.
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They can but it's very difficult. It's like playing football without equipment. Sure, you can play, but eventually you will get hurt. The more I think about it and with my own experiences I now think that people who are naturally asexual or aromantic are much better suited for a life of celibacy.
That's a good idea. I've heard of people that did that and it seems more often than not it didn't turn out well for them in the long run.
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backspacekey,
I'd say anything that gets you out and interreacting with other people should help you with your shyness. I was kinda shy in high school, and I just kept getting out their even if I didn't talk much. Over time I got so I could talk more and now I love meeting people.
I don't see anything wrong with minimal clothing or shaving ones hair. But people in church tend to think skin is sinful for some reason. Ya, I erally know the the reasons ... LOL
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I'd say anything that gets you out and interreacting with other people should help you with your shyness. I was kinda shy in high school, and I just kept getting out their even if I didn't talk much. Over time I got so I could talk more and now I love meeting people.
I don't see anything wrong with minimal clothing or shaving ones hair. But people in church tend to think skin is sinful for some reason. Ya, I erally know the the reasons ... LOL
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Friend of mine married last year, white wedding and she did wait and she was in her early 60s.....
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Wow! Good for her! What about him, do you know? Did he wait or is this not his first?
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More older, unmarried singles are that way not by choice, and that does not suggest a gift, just lack of opportunity. Given the chance they would now be in a relationship.
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