- Sep 10, 2018
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Just a few thoughts I've had recently about causes of singleness. Maybe it will provoke some debate and be helpful, maybe not. They are not listed in any particular order.
1. Work/social/church doesn't result in contact with many potential matches.
2. Conversation style and strategy with potential matches is designed to only identify negative attributes in people rather than positive attributes.
3. List of wants is so long and desire for perfection is so great that there is no one who can measure up.
4. Rejecting lovely people for superficial reasons such as looks, height, money, clothes.
5. Thinking that God will provide a partner if He intends you to have one, but not putting in much effort to find someone.
6. Taking so long to get over previous relationships and crushes that little time and energy remains for finding someone new.
7. Suffering from shyness and anxiety when trying to meet and talk to potential partners.
8. Often being drawn to people who excite, but are ultimately a poor match for a stable, long-term relationship.
9. Becoming physically or emotionally attracted and attached to people who have too many unresolved issues to be a realistic prospect.
10. Lack of confidence is readily apparent and proves a turn-off to potential matches.
11. Always becoming trapped in the friend zone when meeting new people.
12. Very little experience of dating or interacting with the opposite sex, and never really learning how to flirt.
13. List of wants contains two characteristics that are not usually found together in one person, making the pond being fished from very small.
14. Rarely receive replies or get dates when using online dating due to poor profile or lacklustre messaging style.
15. Becoming depressed by the matching process, and potential partners picking up on the negativity.
16. Paradox of choice in online dating makes it difficult to settle, even when someone good comes along.
17. Not actively looking because happy being single, not ready for a relationship, or feel demoralised by the search process.
18. Interests, hobbies and activities are so esoteric that few potential partners can relate.
1. Work/social/church doesn't result in contact with many potential matches.
2. Conversation style and strategy with potential matches is designed to only identify negative attributes in people rather than positive attributes.
3. List of wants is so long and desire for perfection is so great that there is no one who can measure up.
4. Rejecting lovely people for superficial reasons such as looks, height, money, clothes.
5. Thinking that God will provide a partner if He intends you to have one, but not putting in much effort to find someone.
6. Taking so long to get over previous relationships and crushes that little time and energy remains for finding someone new.
7. Suffering from shyness and anxiety when trying to meet and talk to potential partners.
8. Often being drawn to people who excite, but are ultimately a poor match for a stable, long-term relationship.
9. Becoming physically or emotionally attracted and attached to people who have too many unresolved issues to be a realistic prospect.
10. Lack of confidence is readily apparent and proves a turn-off to potential matches.
11. Always becoming trapped in the friend zone when meeting new people.
12. Very little experience of dating or interacting with the opposite sex, and never really learning how to flirt.
13. List of wants contains two characteristics that are not usually found together in one person, making the pond being fished from very small.
14. Rarely receive replies or get dates when using online dating due to poor profile or lacklustre messaging style.
15. Becoming depressed by the matching process, and potential partners picking up on the negativity.
16. Paradox of choice in online dating makes it difficult to settle, even when someone good comes along.
17. Not actively looking because happy being single, not ready for a relationship, or feel demoralised by the search process.
18. Interests, hobbies and activities are so esoteric that few potential partners can relate.