Catch and Release

[plum]

i find it to be a waste of time. never done it/never done it intentionally. this is one area i don't want to be wasteing my time with if it isn't something serious and the last thing i want to do is date women that i could really careless to have a long-term/serious relationship with.

but i wouldn't call it mind playing if both sides are honest with each other about it. that way no one is fooling anyone. now if one is hiding it from the other side, then sure, that's mind games right there. i'm not saying it is right or that i agree with it tho.

player? i'm inclined to say yes personally.

makes me wonder what people define as dating.

i'm essentially the same way.

i don't do casual dating; i never have. it doesn't fit my character.
i don't like the idea of wasting my time (as stated above by joe) and I don't care to date a guy who is a player in that sense.

 

[overit]

If all parties are in agreement then there is NOTHING wrong with it, nor is it being a "player" or wasting time IMO. When I split w/my exh I had NO intention of a serious relationship, but I didn't mind going out on dates and having fun...that is ALL i wanted. On my time alone when the kids were at their dads, go out w/my friends, or dates and live life again.

I had one co-worker that i had known for several years, we started talking and 6 months after my ex and I split we talked about dating casually and he knew my intentions and I knew his. So we did, for 1 1/2yrs, in which time I also dated other people as did he, but we would continue being together as well. In the end, as sometimes can happen if you drag these "casual" dates on one can become attached, in this case it was me so I knew I had to be honest to him about it and give him the out since our "agreement" was no strings attached, and I knew he wasn't the "strings" kind of guy. We did break things off, but I don't regret it. I learned SO much from that relationship, I had SO much fun and he will always have a little piece of my heart.

There is nothing wrong w/casusal dating, I think it may be more prominent w/divorcees though as sometimes they want the company but not ready for a relationship yet.

 

[Luther073082]

If all parties are in agreement then there is NOTHING wrong with it, nor is it being a "player" or wasting time IMO. When I split w/my exh I had NO intention of a serious relationship, but I didn't mind going out on dates and having fun...that is ALL i wanted. On my time alone when the kids were at their dads, go out w/my friends, or dates and live life again.

I had one co-worker that i had known for several years, we started talking and 6 months after my ex and I split we talked about dating casually and he knew my intentions and I knew his. So we did, for 1 1/2yrs, in which time I also dated other people as did he, but we would continue being together as well. In the end, as sometimes can happen if you drag these "casual" dates on one can become attached, in this case it was me so I knew I had to be honest to him about it and give him the out since our "agreement" was no strings attached, and I knew he wasn't the "strings" kind of guy. We did break things off, but I don't regret it. I learned SO much from that relationship, I had SO much fun and he will always have a little piece of my heart.

There is nothing wrong w/casusal dating, I think it may be more prominent w/divorcees though as sometimes they want the company but not ready for a relationship yet.

I agree completly, sometimes its really just nice to have the attention and company. This kind of thing wasn't allowed years ago but of course 50 years ago Elvis was considered to be dirty cause he moved his hips *shock*

 

[Laurie919]

We have a drug rehab at our church and there are normally 30-60 guys in it at any given time. I have always joked they should all be named "Matt" because once you get one he is a floor mat to the next.

They aren't something you really want, but the chase is fun.

Laurie reminds herself once again, she can't date a 25 year old All The Way House Guy

 

[Laurie919]

Even though the chase was fun.....

 

[Idahofroggie]

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I'd consider it dating. You shouldn't jump into a relationship long term anyway until after you know if you and the other person are compatible enough to go exclusive to explore possibilities of a longer term relationship. I don't do it just for the thrill of it per say. I'm more into it just because it's easier going into a relationship with the mindset that you can get out of it at any moment. But, this is also coming from someone who was in a controlling and abussive marriage for 7 years.

 

[JPPT1974]

You got to take it one step at a time
Just be friends first & foremost of all
Knowing that things don't happen overnight.
Just take it one day at a time
Then see what happens.
Because if you do it like that,
You may see results.

 

[Luther073082]

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I'd consider it dating. You shouldn't jump into a relationship long term anyway until after you know if you and the other person are compatible enough to go exclusive to explore possibilities of a longer term relationship. I don't do it just for the thrill of it per say. I'm more into it just because it's easier going into a relationship with the mindset that you can get out of it at any moment. But, this is also coming from someone who was in a controlling and abussive marriage for 7 years.

I think that anyone going out with you should know that you arn't really ready yet for a relationship now ahead of time. Most of your friends I would imagine know that so I guess that is good that you go out with friends.