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Yeah, I have pretty bad black and white thinking and I am a perfectionist, so everything is a lot harder. The sins I fall back on would be lust / masturbation and I would say a hatred for people - when I stray from God I can get sociopathic at timesWhat are your "old sinful ways"? Are you robbing and raping? Or are you simply thinking lustful thoughts and masturbating? There's quite a difference between those two "sinful ways."
It sounds to me like you're swinging between the pendulum of attempting to be holier than is humanly possible and then feeling as though you've failed miserably when you simply can't achieve this sort of holiness. This just isn't realistic - for anyone, let alone someone who's 21.
Not knowing any more than I do, I'd say "Lighten up." I've been a Christian for 51 years, and I probably couldn't say there has been a half-day when I haven't sinned in some respect. A fumbling, stumbling Christian walk isn't "backsliding" - it's simply the inevitable result of still being in the flesh.
I often do think preachers do a disservice by messages suggesting they have somehow risen above or defeated all the temptations that plague the rest of us. No, they haven't - take my word for it.
Yes.Is it really necessary for me to go to church?
But I really don't want to ever go to church again, surely CF is enoughYes.
How is that working out for you...?But I really don't want to ever go to church again, surely CF is enough
I mean, even without church I am basically a hermit who doesn't really go out much and interact with people, even at uni.How is that working out for you...?
Would you call that success?I mean, even without church I am basically a hermit who doesn't really go out much and interact with people, even at uni.
Your post reminded me of Romans 7.This is has been a recurring theme since I was 16. I will re-establish my relationship with God, walk holy, read my bible daily, pray without ceasing throughout the day; life is good.
Then I will return to my old sinful ways after a period of time. This phase tends to be a lot longer than the 'God' phase. I hate it so much. I hate this cycle I wish I could escape it but I just don't know how. I always end up turning back to sin, I don't want to of course, I just can't control myself, and I hate myself for it. I feel like God is getting tired of this as well, as though he expects me to stop repeating the same mistakes over again. I have noticed that each time I backslide I become more twisted and evil; this has gone on for so long that I am completely different to how I was 2 years ago, although there are certainly life factors that have influenced this.
I am young, foolish, and have much to learn about myself, yet these micro-traumas from failing God takes a huge toll - much so that living without God feels like less of a burden. Yet I can't do that because God lets the Devil torment me in an attempt to have me go back to him.
Personally, I don't think so, but reading The Bible isI don't go to church, I know that I should but there are a few things that stop me: I have bad experiences with some of the ones I've been to, and I am really socially awkward / have bad social anxiety, so communicating with people can be a challenge a lot of the time. Is it really necessary for me to go to church?
The measure of success for myself doesn't depend on whether I am particularly social or not. To be quite frank, I can't stand to be in the company of most people (especially around my age), hence why going to church is hard for meWould you call that success?
Good for you. Romans 12:2The measure of success for myself doesn't depend on whether I am particularly social or not. To be quite frank, I can't stand to be in the company of most people (especially around my age), hence why going to church is hard for me
So,The measure of success for myself doesn't depend on whether I am particularly social or not. To be quite frank, I can't stand to be in the company of most people (especially around my age), hence why going to church is hard for me
I can't stop backsliding, but I can change my attitude for when I do by being more compassionate and going easy on myselfSo,
- How do you propose to stop backsliding, then? and
- Why did you start this thread if you already have a workable plan...??
Dear luca, dont lose it... Read The Bible. I'm going to do the same right now.I can't stop backsliding, but I can change my attitude for when I do by being more compassionate and going easy on myself
Good night! :]Dear luca, dont lose it... Read The Bible. I'm going to do the same right now.
Good night, and God bless
Good night! :]
...And you could change your attitude toward church, which God said was healthful for you [Hebrews 10:24-25]....but I can change my attitude for when I do by being more compassionate and going easy on myself
Healthful?...And you could change your attitude toward church, which God said was healthful for you [Hebrews 10:24-25].
Are you going to live your Christianity on your terms, or His...?
I can't stop backsliding, but I can change my attitude for when I do by being more compassionate and going easy on myself
***My prayer's to God for you, I'm an old man, and one day you will be too. Remember this, you are not the only one trying to be perfect in this life. Jesus came so that we could throw all that on Him. Yes, there's nothing wrong with you, you know Jesus, you just have to apply his teaching. Busying myself with music, writing, watching biographies about virtuous people, working a job has kept me away from back-sliding and I have back-slid many times in my life. But you also have to forgive yourself and carry on. Life sucks at times, but the sun always rises. As long as you're not committing any crimes you're just like anybody else in society, a sinner struggling with the world, your own self, and the Devil. Busy yourself and the Devil will walk away. Stay alive, we need you. Read Chapter 3 of Romans it will make you feel good that everybody is messed up. DLThis is has been a recurring theme since I was 16. I will re-establish my relationship with God, walk holy, read my bible daily, pray without ceasing throughout the day; life is good.
Then I will return to my old sinful ways after a period of time. This phase tends to be a lot longer than the 'God' phase. I hate it so much. I hate this cycle I wish I could escape it but I just don't know how. I always end up turning back to sin, I don't want to of course, I just can't control myself, and I hate myself for it. I feel like God is getting tired of this as well, as though he expects me to stop repeating the same mistakes over again. I have noticed that each time I backslide I become more twisted and evil; this has gone on for so long that I am completely different to how I was 2 years ago, although there are certainly life factors that have influenced this.
I am young, foolish, and have much to learn about myself, yet these micro-traumas from failing God takes a huge toll - much so that living without God feels like less of a burden. Yet I can't do that because God lets the Devil torment me in an attempt to have me go back to him.
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