Can't seem to move on!

[Mercyme_thats me]

Last year I got in with the wrong crowd at school. I started drinking, doing drugs and having sex just to fit in. I've always had a hard time fitting in. I am even getting over an eating disorder.
Last September I was involved in a horrible drunk driving accident. Two of my best friends in the entire world were killed. I was in a coma for three months.
I am trying to get my life back in order...but I cant forget!

HELP!

 

[AnothersKeeper]

I know there's nothing I can write that will ease all your pain. You've been though a tremendous amount, especially at the young age of seventeen. Reading your post, I felt sad. I think life is often too hard and too heart-wrenching; I wish I could take your pain away from you. While I cannot do that, I do know that confiding in others helps a little bit, and I suggest finding those who have been through losing their friends. There's something healing about relating to and confiding in others who have been through similar experiences, to feel connected with others and know you're not alone. Counselors can direct you to such groups. Book stores, too, have literature concerning grief recovery. Reading the books may not console you; however, they might point you in the right direction. At the very least, I think you'd see that your responding to everything that you've been though pretty normally.

I'm convinced that healing is found in those who freely offer love, care, support, and understanding. Find people like that, and you will always fit in. As for forgetting what you've experienced... I don't think we ever forget, but as we heal, we can remember without feeling the pain to the same intensity. Usually, it takes a while. Know that it's okay to feel angry, sad, or whatever else you're feeling.

For what it's worth, you have my support, and I will mention you to God in my prayers. Still, search for those who will love and support you. God uses us to help one another. I'm confident you'll be okay and stronger in the long run.

I think you're a decent young woman with a good heart, wanting to get your life back together. I also think you're pretty courageous asking for help. In my opinion, those are signs of great strength. Keep striving to get over this and keep asking for help. I sincerely hope that things get better for you. God bless!

 

[woman.at.the.well]

Dear Heavenly Father:

I just come before you and I pray and ask that you be with MercyMe - wrap Your arms of love around Mercy, love them, encourage them and let Mercy have a peace beyond all understanding, and joy in You unspeakable.

In Jesus Name - Amen!

 

[perfection]

You have to stop making efforts to fit in, you have your own likes dislikes, you have your own path to choose in life, you don't have to fit in anything. You have to start changing your point of view on things.

Imagine yourself like an uncut diamond. It's rough and has no clear shape(just like you not knowing what to do in your life) , then you start shaping and chiselling this diamond into a shape and form that you are happy with. Make it so , that you can be happy with yourself. You don't have to prove anything to anyone you know. This whole fitting in is just a sham, void and emptyness that your life resides in. All these people are on drugs in those groups, they won't bother to get to know you, unless it's about sex,drugs or selfish forfillings. God knows how you are truelly in your heart , and if you put God on the throne instead of your own life. You will contribute to God and will be remembered forever.

 

[judah one]

Oh God Touch And Bless This Young Lady
Lift Her Up From The Place She In Have Her To
Focus On Thing's Which Are Good..

 

[Maharg]

Hi Mercyme,

It can be so hard to move on - and sometimes, it isn't even the right thing to do yet. We are in a period of mourning for what was and need to keep seeking God's help with it. The pain begins to lessen with time, and I have found that beating myself up or getting frustrated with it for not being quicker doesn't help.

You have been through a heck of a lot. Keep pressing forwards, but allow yourself time to be sad and angry, and give each of these feelings to God. These painful feelings can be hard to deal with, for you and for those around you, so make sure you surround yourself with people who can support you to express your feelings and to feel comforted. Sometimes it can feel easier to be around people who do not talk about feelings, but it is good to get a balance and talk to people who are able to be compassionate, too. I'll say a prayer for you now.

Dear Lord,

Please be with my sister Mercyme and help her to know Your love and comfort at this time. Each time she feels an emotion that threatens to overwhelm her Lord, please go through the emotion with her, and send to her kind people who can also help her and show her Your love. Lord, teach Mercyme about healing and be with her along this process. Please Lord remove any guilt or shame that she may feel and help her to know Your love and live freely in it. Thank you Lord for always listening to and answering our prayers. Thank You Lord for sending Jesus so that we could get to know You better.

Amen.

God bless you.

love,

maharg

 

[Msbabedoll]

I am really not that good with words and I haven't been in faith long enough to give Spiritual advice. But I DO know what it feels like to loose someone dear. I DO know what drugs and alchol do. My husband was on crack, and murdered. I blamed myself for not realizing he was on drugs. I had been around drugs most my life and knew what it was like and how people acted, yet I just seemed to ignore these signs. I too, blamed myself and often wondered how i was cope. See James not only left me behind, but he left behind a daugther who was almost a teenager and a son who will never know him. My baby was just one when his daddy died. I blamed God, I blamed myself, I blamed the police Dept (there has still been no arrest), I blamed his place of employment........and i just didn't think I could ever go on with life.......

The thing is, we are not perfect. We are weak when it comes to things of the world. We have to learn from everything, and never forget, but move forward. Just know that God does love you and forgives you and he wants you to learn from the bad things, always remember the good times with your friends and move forward in your life.

One problem I dealt with constantly was the fact that all I seemed to could think about when thinking about James was the bad times. Even when i dreamed about him it would be bad dreams. This went on for about a year.........then as time went by, I started thinking more about the good times than the bad, and then the good dreams started coming........in time, it will get better.......you'll never forget.....but the hurt will ease and your heart will mend.......

Please keep a rational head and remember that your family loves you and so does God!!