Can an Atheist date a Christian (and vice versa)?

[football5680]

The problem I have with this, is Atheist are well behave, they have high morals. They don't go around breaking laws. They aren't convinced there's a God. But they aren't bad. They mind their own business.

That's your opinion. Rejecting God is bad in my mind so any kind of relationship is inconceivable.

 

[cats]

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I am an Atheist, but I respect the right of anybody to believe their beliefs and I would never criticise anybody for holding a true faith in the heart. I met a lovely lady and we have started dating, she is a Christian and regular church goer, is the relationship doomed to failure or can the two coexist? We're both middle aged, divorced and with grown up family so we wont be looking to procreate, there is therefore no great imperative for marriage or cohabitation, we both have our own homes and like it that way.

What are the thoughts of the Christians on here?

She will have to compromise her faith dating you. Up to her if she is willing to do that and up to you if you want to put her through it.

 

[CRAZY_CAT_WOMAN]

That's your opinion. Rejecting God is bad in my mind so any kind of relationship is inconceivable.

They haven't been convince there's a God. I don't see that rejecting God.

 

[Cearbhall]

I met a lovely lady and we have started dating, she is a Christian and regular church goer, is the relationship doomed to failure or can the two coexist? We're both middle aged, divorced and with grown up family so we wont be looking to procreate, there is therefore no great imperative for marriage or cohabitation, we both have our own homes and like it that way.

What are the thoughts of the Christians on here?

I'm not currently Christian, but as someone who was raised in a Christian community, I'll say that it's up to the two of you whether it works out or not. A relationship tends to be "easier" the more homogeneous it is in terms of ethnicity, religion, political beliefs, etc., but it's not doomed, no.

 

[Locutus]

That's your opinion. Rejecting God is bad in my mind so any kind of relationship is inconceivable.

You reject many gods. You must be very bad

 

[Locutus]

I'm not currently Christian, but as someone who was raised in a Christian community, I'll say that it's up to the two of you whether it works out or not. A relationship tends to be "easier" the more homogeneous it is in terms of ethnicity, religion, political beliefs, etc., but it's not doomed, no.

I don't know about that. My husband and I couldn't be more different. Racially, culturally, religiously, hobbies and interests, etc. We stay married because the marriage is more important than those really quite trivial differences.

 

[Cearbhall]

I don't know about that. My husband and I couldn't be more different. Racially, culturally, religiously, hobbies and interests, etc. We stay married because the marriage is more important than those really quite trivial differences.

That's great.

 

[Locutus]

er: 330616"]That's great. [/QUOTE]
Over a lifetime together, these differences are actually a positive. Brings broader perspective and tolerance. Besides, the family one builds - with or without kids - is a new and unique thing, with its own culture. Greater than the sum of its disparate parts

 

[timewerx]

I am an Atheist, but I respect the right of anybody to believe their beliefs and I would never criticise anybody for holding a true faith in the heart. I met a lovely lady and we have started dating, she is a Christian and regular church goer, is the relationship doomed to failure or can the two coexist? We're both middle aged, divorced and with grown up family so we wont be looking to procreate, there is therefore no great imperative for marriage or cohabitation, we both have our own homes and like it that way.

What are the thoughts of the Christians on here?

You can date.

But arguing/debating on religious beliefs, no.

But beware if you both fall in love, she will try her best to save you from going to hell....Assuming she believes in the concept of hell.. Well, I don't but many Christians do.

 

[Leevo]

I am an Atheist, but I respect the right of anybody to believe their beliefs and I would never criticise anybody for holding a true faith in the heart. I met a lovely lady and we have started dating, she is a Christian and regular church goer, is the relationship doomed to failure or can the two coexist? We're both middle aged, divorced and with grown up family so we wont be looking to procreate, there is therefore no great imperative for marriage or cohabitation, we both have our own homes and like it that way.

What are the thoughts of the Christians on here?

I have heard of it working. You can coexist I would imagine but don't ever put down her beliefs. I personally would probably avoid such a relationship but in your situation I see no problem with it, though I am wondering why she isn't seeking marriage even if there are no plans to procreate... Adultery is still a sin.

 

[CRAZY_CAT_WOMAN]

I have heard of it working. You can coexist I would imagine but don't ever put down her beliefs. I personally would probably avoid such a relationship but in your situation I see no problem with it, though I am wondering why she isn't seeking marriage even if there are no plans to procreate... Adultery is still a sin.

I don't recall knowing a Christian couple not having sex, before getting married. I believe the waiting to have sex is a Mormon thing.

 

[Leevo]

I don't recall knowing a Christian couple not having sex, before getting married. I believe the waiting to have sex is a Mormon thing.

It is probably more faithfully practiced by Mormons but it is supposed to be practiced by Christians as well.

 

[HondaMan]

You can date.

But arguing/debating on religious beliefs, no.

But beware if you both fall in love, she will try her best to save you from going to hell....Assuming she believes in the concept of hell.. Well, I don't but many Christians do.

Same thing that I wanted to say. She'll love you too much to let you go to hell.

In my opinion, this is a bad idea. I appreciate your kindness towards believers, but the future is unknow. It could go either way.

 

[timewerx]

Same thing that I wanted to say. She'll love you too much to let you go to hell.

In my opinion, this is a bad idea. I appreciate your kindness towards believers, but the future is unknow. It could go either way.

Perhaps, for Atheists, they can say they love the truth so much that they are willing to take the chances...

It doesn't contradict what Christ said about the truth either.

I also believe in rebirth/reincarnation so I believe everyone will get their chances. In one life you'll be tested as poor, in the next life, you'll be tested as a powerful mayor and so on and so forth... We'll all have equal chances because I believe in a God that is fair.

So personally, I don't mind getting in deep relationship with Atheists. Even if I fall in love with one, I won't push the matter, I'll simply let them be and cherish the companionship.

 

[High Fidelity]

If it were a Christian asking the same question then I would tell them to not get involved because it's a disservice to themselves to date someone, especially as a woman, and the male in the relationship not be Christian.

There are gender roles, more so on the male, in marriage and it's something every Christian should take seriously.

That and the whole unequally yoked thing. Personally I can't see any Christian of slim-moderate conviction dating a non-Christian. If they're a bench warmer on Sundays and think that's their faith done for a week after a good ol' sing song then yeah it'd probably work.

 

[theFijian]

Can or should?

For either, it would depend on how strident you are in your beliefs, although it would be more problematic for the Christian.

 

[Reeniee]

There are gender roles, more so on the male, in marriage and it's something every Christian should take seriously.

What are these gender roles and why should they be taken seriously?

 

[High Fidelity]

What are these gender roles and why should they be taken seriously?

The man being spiritual head in marriage and of their family is not something a Christian male should take lightly or a Christian female should dismiss.

 

[Archivist]

One couple with whom I am friends are in a similiar (not exact) situation. She is Christian, he is agnostic. They have been married for over a decade and it hasn't caused any problems for them.

 

[Reeniee]

The man being spiritual head in marriage and of their family is not something a Christian male should take lightly or a Christian female should dismiss.

Saying "you shouldn't discuss this" doesn't help pursuade people who don't already agree with you.

Why is this important. Why is it important that one gender is the spiritual head? What does that actually mean?