Galadriel
Lady of Light
You sound a LOT like me!! My family doesn't understand that I am OK with not having tons of friends and that I dont like to just go and "hang out". Man my dad has said some pretty hurtful things. He INSISTS that theres something wrong with me, and that I am not normal, and that its just WRONG to not want to go "hang out" with people. I too don't feel like I fit in with other Christians much either, those groups. Man, and belive me I TRIED to FORCE myself to fit in, its just not me. I am misreable trying to make myself go and "do things" with people as in hang out and such, I would always be like "ok can I go home now?" I have learned its just not me, and that it is ok, and that there is nothing wrong with me. I dont want to hang out and do things (which at this age 21, usually involves alcohol somehow or something like that, no thank you!). People can really try and tear you down and make you feel bad for what you are, but God made you just like you are, and He knows what your natural inclanations are, and that you like to be left alone and not have people around you all the time. Nothing wrong with that.HoosierCanuck said:Wow! You said this way better than I have in my previous posts. I feel your pain.....my family gives me grief over it too. Both of my parents are single and they are 'not wanting to be alone' and they just don't understand that I am okay with it. Dad is the 3rd of 4 children, mum is the 3rd of 5 children. I was an only child until I was 10. I think that makes a difference too. My parents worked 2nd and 3rd shift when I was growing up. I had nobody growing up and adjusted to it. I just wish my parents understood.
When I was in college I tried to 'go out' but I just didn't like it. I went to a state college so going out meant 'party'. I tried that twice....hated it. I tried getting involved with a christian group but never felt that I fit in there either. I was involved with them for the better part of my freshman year but I would guess less than 1/4 of them even knew my name or even spoke to me for that matter.
I don't care for the secular world and I don't feel accepted in the Christian world so in my opinion it's best for me to be a hermit.
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