Dear Redeemed,
You said:
burnt out
Hi, ladies. I found this site while searching for some support on-line for "Preacher's Wives". I'm really struggling right now with this role. My husband and I have been married for almost nine years and he has been pastoring for 8 years. I'm feeling really burned out. I'm espically haveing a hard time right now dealing with all the criticism that I get from others and always feeling like I'm on display to be judged by everyone. I would love to hear from anyone who has been in my shoes on how to cope.
First, I want to say that I understand, emphatize with you, being a Pastor myself and a Pastor's wife. I could tell you some stories.... however let me say this to you,
I'm not sure where the burnt outness is coming from......
but if you are carrying, no, wearing criticism, you shouldn't be.... not to say that it won't happen because it will, but you're only concern should what God thinks about you.
You are only responsible for what you say and do, you are not responsible for other people's response to you, that's their responsibility.
If your self-esteem is being impacted by the criticism, then that means that you need to be embracing Christ even more... and also your feeling of being on display is not paranoia, IT IS THE TRUTH, it's call an occupational hazzard. You don't get mad, angry or resentful... no, you get to go shopping!
Yes it is so necessary that you share with "your" peers, meaning other Pastor's wives. Venting is a good thing, ranting is a good thing, but prayer is the best thing. And to quote one of my favorite songs, "nobody told me, the road would be easy, but I don't believe He brought me this far to leave me."
Christ brought you to it.... (your marriage) and Christ will see you through it.
I am always available, it is what I do.... Talk for a living.
I pray God for your strength,
Pastor Aminata