so i just finished my freshman year in college. i had met this girl, and we started emailing and IMing each other. she was really cool, and we both soon admitted that we liked each other...we got really close really fast. nothing physical, just a really emotionally charged relationship. i think i could say that we were intellectually equal, and i personally was intellectually attracted to her before i was physically. then stuff just went amuck, and for one reason or another she wanted just some time. so throughout christmas break and such, she just wanted her time when she was back home. i respected that and nothing happened. whe she got back. nothing happened. she would hardly acknowledge me. but she had told me before she left, that i had a really good chance of "us" and so i waited. i waited for 4 months after that. so after a total of 5 months. i found out that she wasnt interested in me anymore, and she was interested in some other guy. she just left me without closure, without a chance to move on. now my heart is torn to bits, and i desperately want to move on. but i cant. it hurts so much. recently i tried starving myself, so that the physical pain would stop the emotional pain. it worked for a while, until i started to get dangerously underweight within the timeperiod of two weeks. i think i'm sick. why did she do this? why did she steal half a year of my life? she knows a little bit of the hell i'm going through. sometimes i feel as if i want to die. i sometimes wish i could stop breathing because when i breathe, all i can feel is her around me. how do i move on? how do i stop. the first time i had a REAL girlfriend, afterwards i never wanted to date again. after this, i never wanted to love ever again! it just hurt too much. talk about love sucking. this is it.
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Wow, AK, there are definitely some hardcore feelings going on right now inside you. I know you feel so alone in your feelings, but I can at least tell you that we've all been there at one point or another. I'm worried about you- You seem to be in an enormous amount of pain. Do you have a pastor or someone at church that you can talk to? I implore you to see someone- pain this great should not be suffered alone.
I couldn't possibly understand all that you're going through, but thankfully there is one person who does: God.
He is always there for me, and I have literally cried out to him many times. There have been times when the pain was so great in my heart that I didn't know how I to deal with it. I would break down in tears and just cry out to Him, because He is the only one who truly knows how we feel. I have cried for hours, just telling Him whatever came to mind and praying that He would help me. And then, after I would tell Him everything I felt: a peace would come over me and the tears and loneliness and pain would disappear. God is amazing AK and He will help you through this! God loves you, you are His child. He will NEVER forsake you!!!
I'm praying for you
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I couldn't possibly understand all that you're going through, but thankfully there is one person who does: God.
He is always there for me, and I have literally cried out to him many times. There have been times when the pain was so great in my heart that I didn't know how I to deal with it. I would break down in tears and just cry out to Him, because He is the only one who truly knows how we feel. I have cried for hours, just telling Him whatever came to mind and praying that He would help me. And then, after I would tell Him everything I felt: a peace would come over me and the tears and loneliness and pain would disappear. God is amazing AK and He will help you through this! God loves you, you are His child. He will NEVER forsake you!!!
I'm praying for you
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AsianKnight it happens to the best of us. At least you found out before marrying her. God and time heal all wounds so there is hope for you to love another in time. Who knows, maybe God has just the woman in mind for you and is arranging your meeting right now.
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Living4Him03
Just wanna dance with you
That has definitely happened to me before with guys, more than one actually! With one guy, we'd been dating then had a few months apart, then he said he was interested in dating again, then didn't speak to me for about six months, then called me to tell me he was engaged. Some people just don't know how to be nice or how to treat others the way they want to be treated. But, God is good and He always takes care of us if we trust in Him. I have such a wonderful man in my life right now and I am so blessed to have him. I guess if I hadn't experienced some level of heartache I wouldn't realize how different he is from other guys like the one I mentioned above.
Give yourself time to move on and let go. I find that in situations like these it helps to get involved in church activites/school activities and to focus on God and get focused on serving Him instead of dwelling on my heartbreak.
Weeping may remain for a night, but rejoicing comes in the morning! (yah it's in the bible I just can't remember the exact verse...it's from proverbs I believe...I'll check on that, it has always been encouraging to me when I'm down).
God bless you!
Give yourself time to move on and let go. I find that in situations like these it helps to get involved in church activites/school activities and to focus on God and get focused on serving Him instead of dwelling on my heartbreak.
Weeping may remain for a night, but rejoicing comes in the morning! (yah it's in the bible I just can't remember the exact verse...it's from proverbs I believe...I'll check on that, it has always been encouraging to me when I'm down).
God bless you!
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Telling God how you feel really does help. I'm sure praying seems like a beast right now but it always seems that way when we need to pray the most, its just another way the devil uses deception to keep us down.
This girl, she has your focus, your complete focus. I understand that. You must refocus.
Everything that reminds you of her, which I am sure is just about everything unfortunately must become a refuge to find God in. When you wake up in the morning make an unceasing effort to have first thoughts of Only God. When you shower, pray and sing unto God. While you brush your hair, Thank Him for every hair upon your head. While you eat breakfast focus on the blessing of just having a chair to sit in, food to eat, and the comfort of a sheltered place to enjoy it in. Bless God anyhow
The sWord of God says: I will bless the Lord at all times. This is something that I have been learning for years, and through out all things in my brief 18 years of life, I have come to know that doing so is a great encouragement to one's self and a great step in spiritual upbuilding. Listen to real Christian worship music. Music that is uplifting, music that causes you to dwell upon the greatness of the Almighty and His infinitely deep love for you. God must fill this void that is in you. He is the only one who can sufficiently fill it anyhow, truthfully. I didn't believe that for the longest time...
Have your friends pray for you as well just as we are.
Once you get out of this valley, and you Will with God's help in the Name of Jesus:
Don't allow anyone nor anything to fill that part of you except for God Himself.
He'll never leave you nor forsake you: Once you are satisfied with Him then he can finally truly entrust your heart to someone else, or share it rather. Don't forget Him when he provides.
Da Shinja
This girl, she has your focus, your complete focus. I understand that. You must refocus.
Everything that reminds you of her, which I am sure is just about everything unfortunately must become a refuge to find God in. When you wake up in the morning make an unceasing effort to have first thoughts of Only God. When you shower, pray and sing unto God. While you brush your hair, Thank Him for every hair upon your head. While you eat breakfast focus on the blessing of just having a chair to sit in, food to eat, and the comfort of a sheltered place to enjoy it in. Bless God anyhow
The sWord of God says: I will bless the Lord at all times. This is something that I have been learning for years, and through out all things in my brief 18 years of life, I have come to know that doing so is a great encouragement to one's self and a great step in spiritual upbuilding. Listen to real Christian worship music. Music that is uplifting, music that causes you to dwell upon the greatness of the Almighty and His infinitely deep love for you. God must fill this void that is in you. He is the only one who can sufficiently fill it anyhow, truthfully. I didn't believe that for the longest time...
Have your friends pray for you as well just as we are.
Once you get out of this valley, and you Will with God's help in the Name of Jesus:
Don't allow anyone nor anything to fill that part of you except for God Himself.
He'll never leave you nor forsake you: Once you are satisfied with Him then he can finally truly entrust your heart to someone else, or share it rather. Don't forget Him when he provides.
Da Shinja
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actually, the ironic thing about all of this, is that the worse it got, the better my prayer life became. i understand that i need God, and i guess i understand it more when things like this happen around me.
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Beauty4Ashes
All that I need, is a song in my heart. . .
Asian Knight said:
yep been there. I sent you a rep because I don't have it in me to type out a long response. But yes how much closer you get to God is a postitive thing about this that you will be grateful in the long run when you finally get over her (i know it doesnt feel like thats going to happen right now, but it will) Consider this God's school of Hard knocks in training you. I figure the more hard stuff we go through, the more amazing is the destiny and future God has planned for us because these painful things grow our character and make us stronger and for those that God has huge plans for, he needs to first do some major plowing of the ground in our hearts so he can plant some super fantabulous seeds in us one day. Believe in him and one day it will piece together better than you ever could have asked or imagined
hang in there
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