Broken heart

[eatenbylocusts]

Well it was just last Sunday when I shared some sensitive information with my boyfriend. We went to our Better Marriage class on Thursday. We went out to dinner tonight and then sat in his car. He broke up with me. He said it was a combination of the information that I shared with him and because he doesn't think his feelings for me have progressed since we started dating.
What can I say? It hurts so much I can barely breathe. I realize logically that it must not be meant to be and God is in control of my life and I trust Him. But still, why did this have to happen? I have been taking a class that has suffered because my attention has been on my boyfriend. We were so compatible and I felt such great chemistry with him. He really is a good man and was willing to be a father to my kids. I'm trying not to second guess my decision to share everything that I did last week, but I really felt like it was time. Work is going to be hard since everyone has been so excited for me and they ask me every day how things are going for us. Not to mention the non-Christians who couldn't understand how we could be going out all this time and hadn't kissed yet and how we weren't going to have sex until we were married. I'm going to try to do some homework and then probably cry myself to sleep.

 

[AngylBelle]

I'm terribly sorry for you. I know how much it hurts to lose someone you care about. You said you have no regrets and felt it was the right time to open up to him, and you are right...his reaction and choice to end the relationship proves that. Had you continued to date longer and the break up come then, you would probably be in more pain that you are now. The fact that you have let your studies falter because of your lack of attention on school and all of it on your bf may have been a sign that it wasn't meant to be. Perhaps in time the relationship will mend, and if it doesn't, remember God has your best interests at heart and will always provide, even if it isn't in the time frame you are hoping for. I will pray for a speedy healing for you...getting over someone takes time. Just remember that you did nothing wrong and you are not alone...Jesus will never break up with you!

 

[kerosam]

Yo eatenbylocusts, sympathies that with you. Not too good with words but will keep you in my prayers.

be strong!

 

[Sara986]

just wanted to say that almost two months ago i experienced the most horrible break up i can even imagine...it was like a nightmare come true...So I just wanted to offer the encouragement that you aren't alone...sometimes just knowing that others are experiencing the same pain as you are can be comforting. I am beginning to realize that only God, through time, prayer, and Christian fellowship, will be able to slowly heal your heart...

 

[Leanna]

At least its better to know now than after marriage when he might have left or at the very least made life very unhappy for everyone.

 

[Jesus-is-the-1]

At least its better to know now than after marriage when he might have left or at the very least made life very unhappy for everyone.

I agree with Leanna. I'm sure thinking of this doesn't ease the pain right now. Just remember, God is in control and He knows what's best for you. I went through an awful break-up several months ago. I'm still not totally over the pain, but with God's help it does get easier with time. I still have days where I swear my heart is going to explode into a million pieces b/c of the pain, but I try to take it as a learning experience.

You did what you felt was right by sharing with your boyfriend, and I wouldn't regret it one bit.

God will bring the right man into your life in His timing!

Feel free to PM me anytime!

 

[karen4you]

God Bless you sweetie. I went through the same thing 9 years ago. There was this guy I loved so much and he broke up with me and 3 months later married another women. My self-esteem was shot. I also was in College (school) and had just lost my only brother. What was so hard at that time was I was trying to be friends with him, in hopes we'd get back together. I was so naive. I would listen to him give me the details of his new girlfriend and how much younger she was, blah blah blah. I was torn up inside. So, my ex-boyfriend set me up with this guy who just got divorced. This guy really liked me and I couldn't stand him. We'll guess what I did? I married him out of rebound 5 months after my ex got married. I've been in a miserable marriage ever since.(7years) It doesn't seem like things are ever going to be good, but it will if you trust in God. If I would of waited for the Lord, I'm sure he would have put in my life how he designed for me to be with. I, unfortunately, was not a born again christian, and my will was running wild. You, on the other hand, have that edge that I didn't have. So, for what it is worth, don't rebound like I did. Wait upon the Lord. He will definetely turn it all around to your benefit. He loves you soooo much Just remember that Satan wants us to feel that its are fault, he wants are self-esteem to be low. Don't allow negative thoughts enter in. Just wait my dear, steer Satan away and watch God work a miracle in your life. I love you as a sister in Christ and I care and understand. Love, Karen4you

 

[eatenbylocusts]

At least its better to know now than after marriage when he might have left or at the very least made life very unhappy for everyone.

Actually he made it very clear that divorce would not be an option. I know that if we had married he would've done everything possible to make our marriage a success. That's just another reason why I'm hurting so much. What's really hard is trying to understand how this relationship could've felt so right to me and sent from God.
I so appreciate everyone's thoughts and prayers-it helps.

 

[Iggster]

Sis, I know your pain. There was a special person put into my life. And all of the sudden....pfff! Gone. Sayunara.

All I can tell you is that I'm not happy about the situation. But God has always given me peace when bad things like this happens. All I can tell you right now is spend your time with Him. It doesn't matter what anyone else says, thinks, or the way you feel. The Lord will give you peace. He will mend your heart as He did for me. Seek Him first, and all will be added onto you. Sometimes, Satan will do anything to distract you and make you feel bad. I'll keep you in my prayers. Stay Blessed.

 

[OrangeHope]

awww i'm so sorry. i know it's really hard, turn your atention to jesus and let him heal you, pray alot. i'll be praying for you too.

 

[Shalia]

I pray that God will provide you the best husband a woman could hope for, someone who will love you and not question your diagnosis, and someone who will look at your little one and not love her in spite of her diagnosis, but see her as the beautiful little miracle she is.

I know you are hurting. But time will heal, and if he couldn't love you with this, God must have another man planned for you.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

So I went to his church's website today to see if there were any pictures of us posted from the last praise service. There were a few new ones of him posted. When I see that man praying over people and lifting his hands to God in praise I just don't see how he could've broke things off the way that he did. It also makes me miss him even more.
I continue to ask that God's will will be done and we will know what it is. He should be talking to the leaders of our marriage prep classes tomorrow. I ask for prayers that they will have the right words that need to be spoken and his heart will be soft.