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Broken Heart...Break-up with girl

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Thanks, that is so good to hear! I am looking forward to the future and hopefully meeting that girl for me!
 
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cerette said:
woohoo, that's a great positive attitude!
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I will let you know how the counselor goes tomorrow if you'd like. Mornings seem to be the toughest...I had a dream about that girl last night which sucked, but I seem to get a bit better through the day. Still praying and taking it a day at a time.
 
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Well I went to the counselor yesterday. It went really well and it helped a lot. I expressed my fears and worries and he really helped. He told me that he has no doubt that someone like me will find the right girl. He said someone like me has a lot to offer and I realize that. I know I have a good future and I think someone will see that and appreciate that. He said God made us to be in relationships and to want that special someone, he did create marriage after all. At this point I have to try and be content where I am, as it is where God wants me to be right now. It is tough still, but I am doing all I can to be content. I still struggle with thinking about that girl, I was not only physically attracted, but very attracted by her love for God and her values. It is something I really liked. I have a tough time believing I will find better, but I guess I need to trust God and have faith that he will bring the right person along at the right time. Anyways, encouragement is always very much appreciated and I thank you for your time!
 
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Sounds like it was a good idea to go and see that counselor. Do you feel better now? I think it is great that you liked the girl for her Christian values and not just her looks. I suppose if you're interested in finding a Christian girl it would be a good idea to spend time with Christians--maybe someone knows someone who might be The One.
 
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First...thanks for listening still, I hope I am not being overwhelming or bugging you. The counselor definitely helped me out, especially in the sense of reassuring me that I will find the right person. I think I am going to see him again in the next week or two to follow up as I still have a few things I would like to talk about.

The tough thing for me at the moment is not thinking about her and believing I will find someone as good or better. I really felt like I connected in a lot of ways with her and we seemed to have a lot in common. I probably sound stupid since I didn't talk and hang out with her for any extended amount of time, but that is how I truly feel. A part of me feels like she had everything I would want in a girl and now that it is gone, I won't find someone who will have that. It still bugs me...she had an interest in me and liked me for a long time, even when I was with my ex, and now that she got the chance to get to know me she decided she wasn't ready. Like I already said, I am just lonely and question when I will find someone again to enjoy my time with. I hate waiting and wondering...the fear of the unknown.

I don't know if you have any feedback or answers or anything for any of that, but any is appreciated.
 
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She said she isn't ready. That sort of means she hasn't totally made up her mind that she will never ever be interested in you again...Right? Ya never know, if you give her the time and space she now needs, maybe she will come to the conclusion later on that she wants to be with you. OR maybe she won't. We don't know.
But as I've said before; your moping around and being negative sure won't help.
Don't worry about the future, only God knows what's gonna happen. So what's the point of worrying? It won't do any good, plus the Bible says you shouldn't worry.
Try to go places, meet people and count your blessings!!!!!
I'll be out of town for a few days but will check back again next week and hope to see "hear" you're feeling better.
 
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It won't let me post links...but I read a thread under "Questions from Singles about marriage" on this site called "how did you know God wanted marriage for you and not singleness". It helped a lot.

Obviously I am really disappointed about that girl and right now I feel quite lonely at times, but I am doing my best to keep my mind of it. I don't care as long as God gives me the chance to find someone. I don't know why I would have such a strong desire to have that some day if he didn't deliver that.

I'm just having a hell of a time trying to get her off my mind and it is really affecting me...I keep praying and it doesn't help. It really sucks.
 
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cerette said:
How's it goin'?
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Sorry didn't see your post...my ex contacted me...we talked for a few days because she needed someone there for her, but it seems like things have gone south with that. Right now things are rough, I just feel terrible, but I keep praying and hoping that there is a light at the end of the tunnel
 
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