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me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost a year and now hes starting to tell me that we need to have are relationship on the phone cause there is stuff we need to do....he told me i need to grow up. all i want is for him to call me. i mean i wait all day cause i want to hear his voice. i mean is that so wrong?
i dont know maybe im overreacting what do you think?
 
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me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost a year

I can follow you this far, unless your failing to mention something important like it being a LDR.

and now hes starting to tell me that we need to have are relationship on the phone cause there is stuff we need to do

I'm pretty sure in the busines this is called a red flag.

....he told me i need to grow up.

and a very bad sign

all i want is for him to call me. i mean i wait all day cause i want to hear his voice. i mean is that so wrong?
i dont know maybe im overreacting what do you think?

I'd say it all sounds highly disfunctional, and either your failing to mention something important that clarifies things in a softer light, or he sounds like he's looking for the back door.
 
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Wee, I get to play Devil's Advocate again!
me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost a year and now hes starting to tell me that we need to have are relationship on the phone cause there is stuff we need to do.... he told me i need to grow up. all i want is for him to call me. i mean i wait all day cause i want to hear his voice. i mean is that so wrong?
i dont know maybe im overreacting what do you think?
Honestly, I can see a few things here... you seem very clingy with a hint of possible paranoia and jealousy; most guys don't like that, nor is it healthy for a relationship. Also, what you posted makes you seem very young. As your age isn't posted and I have no idea how old you are, I'm guessing that either you are indeed young, or that you indeed need to grow up and into an adult relationship.

There is missing someone and wanting to talk to them, then there is missing someone every second of the day and sitting by the phone waiting for them to call and getting frustrated when they don't or call late.
 
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im 23 im not that young. and its not that its just we dont get to see each other alot and he seems different i mean he use to always want to hear my voice and was very romantic and he has just changed. and his parents are loosing there house and he could just go with them but he want to go live at his ex girlfriends moms house that makes me uncomfortable should it?
 
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Odd situation there, but I'm assuming there is a side of the story we don't know, so it's hard to really say what the deal is.

None the less, in every relationship there comes a point where the newness ends and the fire goes down a bit. Suddenly instead of wanting to spend all your time together, you get back to the normal routine of life and prioritizing. A lot of people don't accept this change well and we end up with posts like yours when it happens.

There are a few red flags for sure, but without knowing details, no one can really say for sure.
 
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