Boredom

[Silver Speak]

Is it just me or does anyone else ever feel that the opposite sex bores you to death? I mean, I know the 'type' I wanna date (if there is such thing) but so far I haven't really found anyone who can keep me interested for too long... I get just so boooooored with them, sooner or later. Maybe it's because I have no interest starting a serious relationship but gee, all the guys seem the same to me!!!

 

[Matt.9:22]

can't say I ever been bored. Anxious....overwhelmed...upset over....yeah. Bored? Nah...

 

[the_man]

Is it just me or does anyone else ever feel that the opposite sex bores you to death? I mean, I know the 'type' I wanna date (if there is such thing) but so far I haven't really found anyone who can keep me interested for too long... I get just so boooooored with them, sooner or later. Maybe it's because I have no interest starting a serious relationship but gee, all the guys seem the same to me!!!

They don't challenge you. Challenge is a good thing to have in a relationship, someone that keeps you on your toes (not in a performance sense), in the sense that they want excellents for you (and you for them) and they won't compromise on you. It's an important thing to desire in a mate.

It's good thought that you have recognized this, it will save you plenty of heart ache.

 

[TriptychR]

Learn to play video games. You'll never get bored with a guy again.

 

[Silver Speak]

Learn to play video games. You'll never get bored with a guy again.

Can you see me rolling my eyes

Anyways, that's the thing, I feel like friends with them. That's it. Not saying I'm looking for the *perfect* guy but why do I feel like there's nothing peculiar (in an interesting, not weird way, please) about anyone I'm involved with. Hmm.

 

[wildthing]

I don't know I find that most potential dates turn out to be boring. They fail to be interesting and they fail at wanting to learn to do new things. They want to stay doing same old stuff. They become plain old "white bread" I guess this really does not give you any answers.

 

[Silver Speak]

I don't know I find that most potential dates turn out to be boring. They fail to be interesting and they fail at wanting to learn to do new things. They want to stay doing same old stuff. They become plain old "white bread" I guess this really does not give you any answers.

Woe, finally someone who feelws the same way... Maybe the problem is that I know how I want them to be but don't know where to find them

 

[PetraFan007]

What are you looking for in a guy?

 

[JPPT1974]

Hope that he's a Christian first and foremost!

 

[Grunt]

I think I'm like that with people in general. Just looking at them and the things they do and are interested in, it just all looks so uninteresting and... irrelevant to me.

People that I can really connect with (of either sex) are probably about one in a billion.

 

[Fatolia]

You're right, I find that too. But interesting people are NOT one in a billion. I know a rare few ladies who are extremely interesting and fascinating...people you can just go and chat with for hours and hours and hours and never get bored with. Just keep looking...the friend search isn't easy.

I also have the complement problem...people think I am too INTENSE and suggest I might consider "toning down" a bit. I can't take more than a day of rest per week before going insane...I have this drive in me to make stuff and serve God and to encourage people. Sometimes it's too much. I think it's that thick Polish blood. Are you Polish too?

One thing I've noticed several ladies complain about on this forum is that men show an initial extreme interest (because of certain protruding body features) but then after "getting used" to it, he finds out he could care less for the personality and ditches the gal. So be glad you see through that right away!

I think I'm like that with people in general. Just looking at them and the things they do and are interested in, it just all looks so uninteresting and... irrelevant to me.

People that I can really connect with (of either sex) are probably about one in a billion.

 

[Silver Speak]

What are you looking for in a guy?

I'm not really into that basic, plain old-fashioned christian guy who dresses all preppy, listens to Wow-cds all day long (with all respect to the ones that represent the stereotype, if so) and is oh-so-holy and everyone thinks he's the sweetest thing. It seems to me that some christian guys think they need to stop being human just because they're christian, dress certain way, act certain way. I don't like it with guys that are too 'stable'; I guess I need someone who's a little neurotic like me and who I can actually make mad instead of the you-can-do-whatever-but-I'll-just-keep-calm thing *shivers* I'm not into the sweet type either... I just want a little edge

Oh, and I really like guys who are intellectual (without being too conscious about it, though). Guess it's true what someone said about being challenged by that person. *Calling for all the smart guys out there*

I do feel everyone I meet is just the same.

 

[Fatolia]

Sorry to hear that Silver Speak...but I gotta tell you, if you got to know these guys better, you'd probably found out they are different and have all sorts of problems. Pride issues, pornography and masturbation addictions, lust and selfish ambition issues, short tempers....you're wanting problems in people?

 

[OhhJim]

I don't like it with guys that are too 'stable'; I guess I need someone who's a little neurotic like me and who I can actually make mad instead of the you-can-do-whatever-but-I'll-just-keep-calm thing *shivers* I'm not into the sweet type either... I just want a little edge

Oh, and I really like guys who are intellectual (without being too conscious about it, though). Guess it's true what someone said about being challenged by that person. *Calling for all the smart guys out there*

Let's see, you want a guy who is smart, neurotic, manic, and edgy. Trouble's a-brewin'!!

Sounds like you want a musician. Yep, definitely a musician, preferably one who writes his own music. What's Gene Simmons up to these days?

 

[the_man]

Sorry to hear that Silver Speak...but I gotta tell you, if you got to know these guys better, you'd probably found out they are different and have all sorts of problems. Pride issues, pornography and masturbation addictions, lust and selfish ambition issues, short tempers....you're wanting problems in people?

We should be careful not to attribute people with a bit of an edge with these problems that you listed. It is possible to have a man that has an edge to him that doesn't have these problems (the converse is true as well, it is possible for the guy Silver says she doesn't like, to have these problems).

 

[white dove]

They don't challenge you. Challenge is a good thing to have in a relationship, someone that keeps you on your toes (not in a performance sense), in the sense that they want excellents for you (and you for them) and they won't compromise on you. It's an important thing to desire in a mate.

It's good thought that you have recognized this, it will save you plenty of heart ache.

amen, that is soo true, the_man....

I would rep you, but my thumb is so sore from holding it up like this...^

 

[carmi]

Sounds like you want a musician. Yep, definitely a musician, preferably one who writes his own music.

Yep, yep ... that would be instrumental.

 

[carmi]

I'm not really into that basic, plain old-fashioned christian guy who dresses all preppy, listens to Wow-cds all day long (with all respect to the ones that represent the stereotype, if so) and is oh-so-holy and everyone thinks he's the sweetest thing. It seems to me that some christian guys think they need to stop being human just because they're christian, dress certain way, act certain way.

For a moment I thought a signed on and posted this with another ID

I don't like it with guys that are too 'stable'; I guess I need someone who's a little neurotic like me and who I can actually make mad instead of the you-can-do-whatever-but-I'll-just-keep-calm thing *shivers* I'm not into the sweet type either... I just want a little edge

Oh, and I really like guys who are intellectual (without being too conscious about it, though). Guess it's true what someone said about being challenged by that person. *Calling for all the smart guys out there*

They exist and maybe you will even meet them. And to be fair: not only musicians are like this. Alas, not all of them are (yet) believers.

So, if you want a challenge, you might get it.

 

[Silver Speak]

We should be careful not to attribute people with a bit of an edge with these problems that you listed. It is possible to have a man that has an edge to him that doesn't have these problems (the converse is true as well, it is possible for the guy Silver says she doesn't like, to have these problems).

Amen! Stereotypes... It's like saying, if you listen to punk, you're into drugs.

I do not want problems, I want someone who acts less holy and more human. Not that I'm saying "I hope they sin more".. I'm not sure how to say what I want to say. 'Edgy' would be the word, yup, but it gets misinterpreted. 'Different' works too. We all have our own ideals, don't we???

 

[Silver Speak]

Let's see, you want a guy who is smart, neurotic, manic, and edgy. Trouble's a-brewin'!!

Sounds like you want a musician. Yep, definitely a musician, preferably one who writes his own music. What's Gene Simmons up to these days?

No problems with musicians, haha.

Hmm, well, neurotic isn't exactly the right word but I'm not into the really stable kind. They make me feel like I have to be on my toes all the time and change myself into something I never wanted to be (hey, I'm speaking from experience). That's just not me. I want someone who I can relate to and with whom I can be myself 100 %. I'm not saying all the 'traditional' kind of guys are completely uninteresting, I mean, some girls would gladly go out with them (now I'm making stereotypes) but don't count me in. I'm really confusing people here. I like confusing people.