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stonetoflesh

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I knew it was only a matter of time before something like this happened to me at the public library. Last night at closing time, I was cleaning all the scrap paper off the reference desk when I unfolded a particular piece of scrap paper and found a note addressed to me (in very neat handwriting) from some strange woman; in it, she asked me if I wanted to go for coffee or tea sometime. Included was her phone number and email address...
At first, I was a bit excited but after doing some digging-- I cheated and looked her up in the library database-- I found out that she's 10 years older than me. Nothing against older women, but it kind of threw me for a loop; perhaps it's just because I was subconsciously hoping for someone my age or a bit younger?
I know it's just coffee (right?), but all the same it's a little weird. I have no idea who on earth this person is (although the name sounds familiar, like I might have helped her before at some point), and I don't really know if I want to even bother contacting this person. Thoughts?
 

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when i was 14 i got asked out by this guy and said no. he then proceeded to tell me that i was a "stuck up snob" and other not-nice terms. it kinda scarred me, since i was only 14 and had no idea about the "rules" of dating, which apparently, according to that guy there were many, including not turning him down. from that point on, i've been awfully reluctant to say no to a meeting of some sorts, considering it be fairly harmless. i don't know, i'd say go out for coffee. but keep in mind your attitude. attitude can do a lot. if you go into coffee w/a completely *naive* attitude, that you absolutely assumed that it was just friends, it can end up being played that way and could end up taking a nice turn. i hate situations like that, though. delicate. the woman has guts, though, asking out a guy 10 years her junior.
 
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Leader of the Banned said:
I've learned otherwise. run and run fast.
I'm not so sure. Does one bad experience mean all are? If you're not going to find opportunities anywhere else, why not at least try? If it's not for you you can just end it then and there.
 
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If the only thing wrong with doing something is that it is a little wierd, and makes you uncomfortable, then by all means, do it. I know lots of people who only do things they are comfortable with, and they are boring.

Have an adventure. Get out of your comfort zone. How many worthwhile things are accomplished by people being comfortable?
 
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