Bisexuality

[YamiB]

What do you think of bisexuals?

Do they just have overactive hormones (a little too randy)?
Are they just confused?
Are they greedy?
Is it simply a fad?

 

[Voegelin]

I don't think about them at all.

 

[Blackguard_]

Is it simply a fad?

I think it's a bit of a fad among too-artsy "free-spirit" types. Not that I don't believe real (as in they were born that way) bis exist, but I think their numbers are exaggerated.

 

[YamiB]

I agree that it seems the number of people who say they are bisexual is bloated by those that are pretty much just joining into a fad. I'm not sure if this should just be ignored for the people being stupid or if it should be considered bad because they are making real bisexuals seem like something of a joke.

 

[Ryal Kane]

Bisexuality has been around for a very long time. Probably longer than humanity. So it's not a fad.

Confused implies that they're not sure whom they're attracted to. For some this might apply but not for most.

Greedy is just a silly claim, as if people decide to be attracted to people.

Human sexuality is a spectrum. Some are hetrosexual, some are homosexual and there's a great deal of variety inbetween.

Sadly bisexuals even get stick from some homosexuals. I have a friend who's bisexual, who got married to a guy last year. It doesn't mean that she isn't bisexual any more, just that she's in a monogomous relationship.

 

[YamiB]

Bisexuality has been around for a very long time. Probably longer than humanity. So it's not a fad.

Ah it would be very hard to argue that as a whole it is a fad, though I think I may have known some to do that. Yet it would also be hard to deny that many identify themselves as bisexual simply for reasons of acting rebellious, trying to be cool, or ironically to try attracting the opposite sex.

 

[ebia]

What do you think of bisexuals?

They are people (as valuable and beloved of God as any other people).

Do they just have overactive hormones (a little too randy)?
Are they just confused?
Are they greedy?
Is it simply a fad?

 

[Allister]

Bisexual people definately exist in the truest sense of the word but I think many people could simply be considered "open minded" or "curious" with regard to sexual activity.

I also think, maybe because I am a man, that it is both more socially acceptable and natural for a woman to be bisexual rather than a man.

 

[tocis]

What do you think of bisexuals?

As I see it, their genetic "homo/hetero" slide control, if you allow me to call it like that, happens to be fixed somewhere near the middle instead of at either end. That's it.

 

[Obsequey]

What do you think of bisexuals?

Do they just have overactive hormones (a little too randy)?
Are they just confused?
Are they greedy?
Is it simply a fad?

In the words of Depeche Mode - People are people. Why do we have to question the sexuality of others? I never tend to think about this too much anymore, as sexuality and all that that entails is just another facet of our wonderfully complex and diverse human existence! There's nothing inherently wrong with being bisexual, homosexual, or heterosexual imo. I tend to agree with others who stated before that bisexuals simply lie somewhere in between the "exclusively hetero-" and "exclusively homo" poles of the spectrum.

 

[tapero]

What do you think of bisexuals?

Do they just have overactive hormones (a little too randy)?
Are they just confused?
Are they greedy?
Is it simply a fad?

Hi, Like another poster wrote, they are well loved by God like anyone else.

I think that many kids growing up today are decieved into this lifestyle because of the popular acceptance growing as it is now being taught it is not wrong to be bi-sexual. Before anyone tears me apart let me say that I know that all sin and fall short of the glory of God. My sin is no different than that of a bi-sexual in God's eyes. God won't purify of all my sin in this lifetime, but through Christ I am spotless as a lamb because Jesus paid for my sin.

The bible says anyone who claims to be without sin is a liar. I will always struggle with sin, and sometimes I'm sure will hold on to the sin I want to hold on to and not give it over to God to help me from it. There are more sins in us then what people see on the outside. All sin is wrong doing according to the bible.

There are many Christians who are homosexual, bi-sexual.

People tend to harp on the sins that show to others. Need to look in our own hearts and see our own sin.

I don't understand this, I read in another forum. I don't understand why Christians tell non-Christians to stop doing what they are doing, for it is not what they are doing that stops them from being saved. Only Christ saves and He saves us as we are and works in our hearts and we turn away from some sins, but we will always struggle with sin.

 

[trunks2k]

What do you think of bisexuals?

I am one. So I think they are normal people just like everyone else.

Do they just have overactive hormones (a little too randy)?

No. Bisexuals aren't any more sex crazed than anyone else.

Are they just confused?

I'm certainly not confused.

Are they greedy?

Greedy how? I'm a pretty relationship oriented person. So I'm usually dating one person for a long time. I don't see how that makes me greedy. In fact, since I'm relationship oriented, I'd bet I would have a much easier time getting in relationship if I was simply homosexual or heterosexual. But that's a rant I may or may not go into as I read on in this thread.

Is it simply a fad?

There can be an argument made for certain young girls pretending to be bisexual just to get attention from guys. If a girl kisses another girl, that doesn't make her bisexual.

 

[Argent]

Hi, Like another poster wrote, they are well loved by God like anyone else.

I think that many kids growing up today are decieved into this lifestyle because of the popular acceptance growing as it is now being taught it is not wrong to be bi-sexual. Before anyone tears me apart let me say that I know that all sin and fall short of the glory of God. My sin is no different than that of a bi-sexual in God's eyes. God won't purify of all my sin in this lifetime, but through Christ I am spotless as a lamb because Jesus paid for my sin.

The bible says anyone who claims to be without sin is a liar. I will always struggle with sin, and sometimes I'm sure will hold on to the sin I want to hold on to and not give it over to God to help me from it. There are more sins in us then what people see on the outside. All sin is wrong doing according to the bible.

There are many Christians who are homosexual, bi-sexual.

People tend to harp on the sins that show to others. Need to look in our own hearts and see our own sin.

I don't understand this, I read in another forum. I don't understand why Christians tell non-Christians to stop doing what they are doing, for it is not what they are doing that stops them from being saved. Only Christ saves and He saves us as we are and works in our hearts and we turn away from some sins, but we will always struggle with sin.

Very well said

 

[YamiB]

I think I'll add another question.

Do you think Bisexuals are better off or worse off than homosexuals?

Since they're bisexual they can actual wind up in a happy relationship that is not currently limited by the laws of government in certian places. Yet it seems that homosexuals are more understood. Though it is not an attitude that has sprung up here yet I have seen some say that Bisexuality simply does not exist. I wonder if such an attitude could make it harder on people who are coming out.

 

[trunks2k]

Do you think Bisexuals are better off or worse off than homosexuals?

Ah, see, now you have me going on my rant.

It depends on how you want to look at it. From my perspective bisexuals are worse off. Simply because we get flack from both sides of the fence and things just become really complicated. I'll adress the complicated issue first.

With complexity, it has more to do with language than anything else. Friends of mine often reffer to me as "gay". But the thing about using that word is that the implication is that I'm homosexual, not bisexual. This ended up biting me in the [wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth] not too long ago when hanging out with a group of people, three of whome were girls that I liked and would date if given the chance (but all of them were in relationships). By the end of the night it comes out that all three of them had previously had a crush on me, but found out I was "gay" and decided not to persue anything because they thought I wouldn't be interested, and they ended up with somebody else.

As for the getting flack from both sides stuff, it really is a pain. If I want to date somebody seriously, the fact that I have dated other a different sex than him/her in the past more often than not has a profound negative effect. The range and reasons for the negative effect is pretty interesting. With girls it can range from a simple "ick factor" to them thinking that I'm really gay. With a guy, it's often pretty much the same story.

Much of those negative reactions stem from a profound misunderstanding of bisexuality. For some reason, the stereotype is that we're sex crazed, will cheat on you, will leave you for someone of the other sex, etc. This attitude almost killed a previous relationship of mine (which lasted almost three years) early off. My ex had friends that were trying to convince him that I was going to leave him, cheat on him, etc. And he was starting to listen to them. After finally putting his fears at ease, he told his friends to stop saying those things or stop associating with him, they chose to stop associating with him.

 

[YamiB]

If I want to date somebody seriously, the fact that I have dated other a different sex than him/her in the past more often than not has a profound negative effect. The range and reasons for the negative effect is pretty interesting. With girls it can range from a simple "ick factor" to them thinking that I'm really gay. With a guy, it's often pretty much the same story.

This is the one thing I think that I have never heard of. I'd also add that some homosexuals have a sort of resentment towards bisexuals because some anti-gay people use bisexuals as a sort of proof that sexuality is a choice. Which is of course just stupid.

 

[Robbie_James_Francis]

Human sexuality is much more complicated than we tend to realise, in my opinion. Perhaps even the Kinsey scale, which places people between 1 and 7, from 'exclusively heterosexual' to 'exclusively homosexual' if I recall correctly, is even not comprehensive.

Of the people I know, there are bisexuals that are attracted to both sexes seemingly equally, bisexuals that are attracted to one sex somewhat more than the other and people that are not sure if they are bisexual or not. Others may occasionally claim to be bisexual but aren't, through confusion or deliberately, and some may just have fun with friends of the sex they are not attracted to. That doesn't negate the reality of bisexuality.

trunks2k, I can see what you're saying. I'd never really thought of it that way. In all honesty, I have to say that I am somewhat more uneasy about having a relationship with a bisexual guy. Not because I think bisexuals are bad people, they're not. But as a gay guy it seems to me that if I was bi I would automatically tend to have relationships with people of the opposite sex, just because, basically, it's easier to do so. I apologise and I'm sure it's unfair, but it is just an instictual thing, not something I consciously believe. It's just the nagging doubt of knowing that not only does your partner have twice as many people that he is attracted to, but that being with you is surely more difficult than being with someone of the opposite sex.

peace

 

[Skaloop]

It's just the nagging doubt of knowing that not only does your partner have twice as many people that he is attracted to, but that being with you is surely more difficult than being with someone of the opposite sex.

And yet with all those other people to choose from (of both genders) and despite all those hardships, he chose you. I dunno, I think that would seem to be a pretty uplifting thing.

Not that I don't see your point. I have heard from several bisexual friends that they have some apprehension about committing to one relationship because they feel they'll have "settled" on one gender, and thereby they'll have lost their bisexual identity.

 

[Robbie_James_Francis]

And yet with all those other people to choose from (of both genders) and despite all those hardships, he chose you. I dunno, I think that would seem to be a pretty uplifting thing.

Not that I don't see your point. I have heard from several bisexual friends that they have some apprehension about committing to one relationship because they feel they'll have "settled" on one gender, and thereby they'll have lost their bisexual identity.

I'm sure you're right on both counts. But it's not so much that I don't think bisexuals are as likely to commit to a single relationship...I think if I was straight then I'd feel differently, though obviously I don't know. It just seems to me that having a heterosexual relationship is so much easier in so many ways, and it makes me wonder why a bi guy would want to be with me. Not that that actually bothers me to the point that I wouldn't date a bi guy...I'm starting to date a bi guy now as it happens.

peace

 

[chipmunk]

What do you think of bisexuals?

Do they just have overactive hormones (a little too randy)?
Are they just confused?
Are they greedy?
Is it simply a fad?

I wouldn't say overactive hormones. I guess if I tried to explain it to a straight person it would be like everyone being the opposite sex. It's not like we don't "weed" people out just because we don't really care whether the person is male or female. There's still a "type" of person we like it's just the gender of that person doesn't matter. Kind of like if a guy were to assert he's straight. There is probably a "type" of girl that he likes over others. I mean, if they didn't have a type then the dating process wouldn't be so hard--anyone of the opposite gender would be a match.

I'm not confused. I like people of both sexes. Nothing confused about that.

Greedy? Bisexuality doesn't necessarily mean we're open to multiple partners or that we don't look forward to monogamy with one sex.

Fad? Perhaps it's just people are more comfortable admitting their sexuality publicly. I wouldn't suggest anyone do this to fit in.


I think a few things about it. I think it's just as hard to tell family and friends your bi as it is to tell them your homosexual. However, we have a choice that isn't really afforded to people who are gay. We can choose to be open about it or we can hide it and never let anyone know. I think this is good and bad. Good in that we don't have to put up with the bigots, but terrible in that we can cover up a large part of who we are. Not that gays can't hide it, but in hiding it they either pretend that's their sister, brother, roommate, random bum picked off the street or they remain single. I can hide it and still appear normal. I can hide it and still have a love life that isn't a sham because I can date a member of the opposite sex and be happy.

I love the man I'm with (and yes, he knows). I wouldn't be anywhere else, but I am a coward. One day, I hope the world finds it to a place where people like me don't feel they have to hide. I don't care which gender they end up with, I just hope they can make that choice without fear of judgement. I hope they don't feel like they have to be the coward that I am. I openly defend people who have made tough choices of that nature, but I don't make it open knowledge that I am bi at least not in a place where I could be recognized in RL.