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Birth plan
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angelsgirl
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Well... you have had more experience of actually giving birth than most people ever will!!!I think Jan needs to write a book!
I always like hearing the advice you have for myself and others!!! (i seriously have no idea what on earth is going on most of the time!!!)
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atheliah
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Agreed, getting advice off someone who's been there, done it and knows it, plus you trust them, and their also a believer
it is very helpful!!!
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I think it's a good exercise to write one up with your hubby. That way you both have thought through and made decisions about your care. He knows what you want, and if you aren't having a doula- he is empowered to advocate for the care you want.
I tend to think a birth plan and it's efficacy is something to talk with your care provider about. How birth plans are viewed varies greatly from hospital to hospital. For example in the hospital here- if a woman comes in with a birth plan the nurses automatically mentally prepare for a c-section and gather all of the necessary paperwork for that to happen. Just or unjust- that's what happens-so I would never show up there with a birth plan.
My preference is for a woman to know what kind of care she wants and to verbalise that or to have her partner or doula verbalise those desires. Handing off a birth plan to the medical staff tends to shift the responsibility in one's mind off of oneself to the medical staff for the care received. I think shifting the dynamic of power from the birthing woman to the medical staff imperils self advocacy-which can result in cognitive dissonance after the birth.
All of that said- some care providers and hospitals encourage and like birth plans so that they can ensure trying to achieve the care a woman wants.
I tend to think a birth plan and it's efficacy is something to talk with your care provider about. How birth plans are viewed varies greatly from hospital to hospital. For example in the hospital here- if a woman comes in with a birth plan the nurses automatically mentally prepare for a c-section and gather all of the necessary paperwork for that to happen. Just or unjust- that's what happens-so I would never show up there with a birth plan.
My preference is for a woman to know what kind of care she wants and to verbalise that or to have her partner or doula verbalise those desires. Handing off a birth plan to the medical staff tends to shift the responsibility in one's mind off of oneself to the medical staff for the care received. I think shifting the dynamic of power from the birthing woman to the medical staff imperils self advocacy-which can result in cognitive dissonance after the birth.
All of that said- some care providers and hospitals encourage and like birth plans so that they can ensure trying to achieve the care a woman wants.
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Oh and I wait until I can't talk through contractions to go to the hospital.
And here's an online list of emotional signposts:
http://www.angelfire.com/nb/doulaamanda/Labor.html
And here's an online list of emotional signposts:
http://www.angelfire.com/nb/doulaamanda/Labor.html
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