Bikinies

[Seraphim19]

So.... what are your opinions on women wearing these in public? My girlfriend complains that tankinies and one pieces bunch up for her in the rear/ and or don't give her enough chest support. She says bikinies let her tan much more evenly.

She looks.....fabulous in a bikini and that is why we both agreed not to swim together (she also gets very turned on by seeing me with my shirt off).

I am just slightly uncomfortable with lurking eyes around but then again I can't tell her what to do or even if I would tell her to not go swimming? suck it up and buy a tankini or one piece she doesn't like?

What do you girls/guys think?

Regardless of how modest a two piece is, they are still sexy. Its like underwear! hehe

 

[peanutbutter12]

I think it's for each person to decide on their own. Everyone, which you will probably see in the following posts on this topic, has their own opinion on modesty. I think that bikinis are fine unless they are revealing. If you're going to wear something so small that it looks like doritos with strings attatched and may as well be naked, I have a problem with that. But if they are tasteful and not revealing of the nether regions, I don't have a problem with them.

But some people are more conservitive. *shrugs*

CJ

 

[eatenbylocusts]

Tanning is sun damage. Yes, I did it when I was younger. If she is a Christian she needs to be acting like one and considering how her outfit affect men.

Her arguments are baloney. You can find one pieces and tankinis with underwire and if they fit correctly they wouldn't be riding up the back.

You can give her your views, but another Christian female should be giving her advice in this area. She might need to be educated on male sexuality though. I'm going to be looking into some books to help me raise my 14 yr old son.

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

I don't know. I wear a bikini top if I swim, but I always wear shorts with them and not the complete bikini set. That is just way too much skin exposed.

IMO I would rather everyone where MORE clothes when they went to the beach; what girls wear nowadays are so little. Some bikini tops don't even cover what they are supposed to cover. I think that bikini tops and bottoms in general reveal more than underwear and bra do, which I don't think is good. So a man can go to a beach and see more of a woman than he could if his wife walked around the house in bra and bikini.

Men and women both have a responsibilty-women to what they wear, and men to guard their eyes since there will always be someone out there who won't wear much. I think that sometimes wearing less can be more comfortable but I would opt for more at the beach or at the gym. I don't approve of wearing short shorts and a sports bra to the gym.

 

[Hope_0004]

I don't think it is that big of a deal, personally. I mean, honestly, you can find a really cute, nice two-piece suit that is much more flattering (and modest) than some of the one-piece suits. My sis is a lifeguard, and she always wears two-pieces because they really do tend to fit her figure better, and she never looks nasty.

I think it is all about her style and personality, and yes, even her modesty. Some people I've heard bash women who wear bikinis would probably change their tunes if they looked that nice in one. I know I never run around with my bottoms showing, but it is not because I think it is immodest, but because I don't like my booty showing!

Anyway, I think it's ridiculous to try to say that a one-piece is better than a two-piece as a blanket statement. It is more about the cut and fit than anything else.

By the way, if your girlfriend is in a swimsuit and looks great, someone's going to look, no matter what kind of suit it is. Get used to it. If that's really the problem (other people looking) then you really will have to tell her she can't swim at all to make it "okay". And how silly would that be?

 

[Sketcher]

Right now, I don't necessarily care as long as it isn't overtly skanky. The looks are going to happen whether it's a one piece or a two piece, it's all the same result. If it's a tasteful two-piece that sets you apart from the loose skanks, go ahead and wear it (just not canoeing or whitewater rafting or any of that). The Biblical requirement for modesty is that you are set apart from the worldly women.

 

[MN John]

Most men are gonna be impressed by my girlfriend no matter how she dresses. (And I'm not bragging, it's just true - she's very attractive). So I say dress for yourself. Be comfortable, feel good about how you look, wear what you like and can afford.. There's just no winning when you start trying to dress in order to avoid having others criticize or ogle you.

 

[SoC]

As a guy... I would politely ask of you women...

PLEASE! PUT SOME CLOTHES ON FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!!!

*ahem*

I'm sorry, but bikinis are just too revealing. And it's not only about covering the skin, but also about not being so skin-tight that everything can be seen anyway.

Can any of you honestly tell me that you feel 100% modest about wearing a bikini? Would you wear a bikini if Christ were standing there?

I thank God for my girlfriend respecting herself and me enough to find and wear a modest swimsuit. She found one that looks realy nice on her without revealing too much or being too tight.

Respect yourself - wear a swimsuit that won't get all the guys looking at you for the wrong reasons.

Respect us guys (especially those of us that are trying not to lust) - wear a swimsuit that won't make it easy for us to stumble.

 

[Johnnz]

There will always be something attracting about a woman unless she woman goes around totally covered (eg a burka), and even that is not a complete guarantee.

Modesty is largely cultural, and can also be situational, (what is OK for the outdoors is not OK in the office). And a woman can still ensure she sends out signals even when very modestly dressed. Christians should conform to accepted social norms as appropriately as possible, which is loving your neighbour in action, with the added concern for Christian values.

Sexual purity is fundamentally an inward thing "To the pure all things are pure". Christian sexual purity is not turning off our God given sexuality but rather the responsible stewardship of it. Nor must we be endlessly concerned with the other person's reactions. We don't live in shabby houses, or dress in rags so that other will not be tempted to envy.

When I see an attractive women in a skimpy bikini I can justly enjoy her beauty, I won't allow myself to entertain sexual thought about her, I am not worried that I will lust after her and most of all I will try to see her as someone God loves and who wants her to understand the real keys for fulfilled human sexuality. That is very different from many of my associates who see her as little more as a sexual trophy. And of course, if that' show she is deliberately presenting herself that is even more tragic for her. She has missed the whole point of what her body is for. That will lead me to prayer.

John
NZ

 

[sunshineray]

As a woman, I do not see a problem with wearing a bikini, as long as it's for the right reasons. I like to wear them, because it's what I feel the most comfortable wearing swimming or at the beach. It might be different for someone to wear a bikini to attract male attention. But personally, I don't see anything wrong with it. I don't believe that's it's up to women to dress appropriately to prevent men from lusting after them.

 

[Deliberatetourist]

There are some women who dont like bikinis becasue they dont look good in them. For others it is simply not thier first choice of attire. As for modesty and sexuality no blanket assessment can be made for all people becase we vary individually. One of my ex GFs wore a 38 D bra size. Let me tell you it was difficult not to notice her in anything she wore. When she went to the beach regardless of the type of suit she was wearing it all hung out.

 

[Alenci]

No. If a girl's going to wear a bikini, she might as well go to the beach naked, because it doesn't make much of a difference to guys.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

As a woman, I do not see a problem with wearing a bikini, as long as it's for the right reasons. I like to wear them, because it's what I feel the most comfortable wearing swimming or at the beach. It might be different for someone to wear a bikini to attract male attention. But personally, I don't see anything wrong with it. I don't believe that's it's up to women to dress appropriately to prevent men from lusting after them.

I can't believe what I'm reading. We should be dressing appropriately period! If a man lusts after an appropriately dressed woman that's unfortunate, but choosing an outfit that can be expected to produce lust sure doesn't seem like a Christian action. Our actions affect others and a Christian woman should be trying to help other Christians in their walk, not help them to stumble.

I have a new perspective on these issues as a mother of a 14 yr. old boy. I will be educating myself on male sexuality and perhaps youth groups need to start doing this for their young women. Don't we want to help keep these young men pure?

I don't think all bikinis should be off-limits for Christians, but if the OP has trouble visually with the bikini that his gf has chosen that is saying a lot.

 

[SoC]

As a woman, I do not see a problem with wearing a bikini, as long as it's for the right reasons. I like to wear them, because it's what I feel the most comfortable wearing swimming or at the beach. It might be different for someone to wear a bikini to attract male attention. But personally, I don't see anything wrong with it. I don't believe that's it's up to women to dress appropriately to prevent men from lusting after them.

I don't believe it is either. If a guy lusts, that's his choice. However, we are all called to not be stumbling blocks for others. If a girl wearing a bikini is going to make guys stumble, then the girl shouldn't wear a bikini.

Really the question is, which is more important? The kind of swimsuit you are wearing or not being a stumbling block for others?

 

[radhead]

There will always be some guys who stumble when they see an attractive woman in a bikini.

I struggle more with seeing someone I like wearing one, regardless of her looks.

 

[Mskedi]

Would you wear a bikini if Christ were standing there?

No offense, but this part of your post made me laugh. If Christ were standing there, I would think he would be the least affected by what I was wearing.

I think some people are entirely too sensitive about what other people are wearing. At a beach or in a pool, a bikini is perfectly appropriate. It's hard to find bathing suits that are comfortable, and bikinis almost always are. I generally wear a bikini top with board shorts, and I don't feel the least immodest.

As far as the OP's reaction to his girlfriend -- I would imagine you feel that way a lot of the time, not just when she's wearing a bikini. Of course you're attracted to one another, and it's entirely up to the two of you how you choose to handle it.

When I was in Spain I went to a topless public pool. I've never seen guys less interested in women's breasts, to be honest. I think the amount of what we wear isn't the problem here so much as whether we're choosing to look at each other in sexual ways.

I grew up in co-ed dressing rooms. The naked body just doesn't have that much hold over me, and the near-naked body definitely doesn't. That doesn't mean that I'm not attracted to my boyfriend, but it does mean that I'm not going to be attracted to every scantily clad, well-built guy that passes by.

Sometimes I think modesty can backfire.

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

No offense, but this part of your post made me laugh. If Christ were standing there, I would think he would be the least affected by what I was wearing.

I think some people are entirely too sensitive about what other people are wearing. At a beach or in a pool, a bikini is perfectly appropriate. It's hard to find bathing suits that are comfortable, and bikinis almost always are. I generally wear a bikini top with board shorts, and I don't feel the least immodest.

As far as the OP's reaction to his girlfriend -- I would imagine you feel that way a lot of the time, not just when she's wearing a bikini. Of course you're attracted to one another, and it's entirely up to the two of you how you choose to handle it.

When I was in Spain I went to a topless public pool. I've never seen guys less interested in women's breasts, to be honest. I think the amount of what we wear isn't the problem here so much as whether we're choosing to look at each other in sexual ways.

I grew up in co-ed dressing rooms. The naked body just doesn't have that much hold over me, and the near-naked body definitely doesn't. That doesn't mean that I'm not attracted to my boyfriend, but it does mean that I'm not going to be attracted to every scantily clad, well-built guy that passes by.

Sometimes I think modesty can backfire.

Curious: What do you mean by, "Jesus would be the least affected?"

 

[Deliberatetourist]

Sometimes I think modesty can backfire.

My observation also. Inerestingly in countries I've lived where things were more sexually liberal there were no trace of pedophiles and sex related crimes were relatively low. Here in South Korea the skirts dont get much shorter although at the beach the girls never wear skimpy swimwear

 

[Mskedi]

Curious: What do you mean by, "Jesus would be the least affected?"

In a temptation sort of way.

 

[AceHero]

So.... what are your opinions on women wearing these in public? My girlfriend complains that tankinies and one pieces bunch up for her in the rear/ and or don't give her enough chest support. She says bikinies let her tan much more evenly.

I personally don't see a problem with girls wearing bikinis, as long as they aren't too skimpy...though I'm not sure where the dividing line would be.

(she also gets very turned on by seeing me with my shirt off).

I think she'll have more of a problem with you than you with her. It's not like you're going to show up on the beach one day in one of those old-fashioned head-to-toe swimming suits for men.

Regardless of how modest a two piece is, they are still sexy. Its like underwear! hehe

Agreed.