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Bf just bcame a christan- where to from here

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Find some place like a soup kitchen or homeless shelter or home for children and volunteer some time. Spend some time doing the things christians do besides studying scripture and praying :). Being a successful Christian is a combination of three things..Prayer, study, and action.

God bless you both and God speed
 
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Gathering with others in Church is important too. Try and find a Church that is active, as rogsr has suggested, and be active in learning how to be a servant. Jesus was a servant to us and He showed humility, being the God and Creator of the universe, yet washing the feet of the disciples. That would mean that being a servant is very important. Learning at Church is imporatant, but then once we leave the pews, we should try and apply what we have learned to the rest of our lives. Perhaps either one of you could learn and then lead others in active service to the Lord by example. It's something to think about as you grow in God's grace - how to please God and show gratitude to Him for His great love by obedience with more than just words, but action - something we should all do.
God bless you both on your journey home...

Matthew 5:16 Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.

Matthew 10:42 And whosoever shall give to drink unto one of these little ones a cup of cold water only in the name of a disciple, verily I say unto you, he shall in no wise lose his reward.

I JOHN 3:16 This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers. If anyone has material possessions and sees his brother in need but has no pity on him, how can the love of God be in him? Dear children let us not love in words or tongue but with ACTIONS and truth.
 
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Anabel, that's great news!

How did he become a Christian? Does he have any male friends who are Christian? Men relate to each other in a different way than with us women, so that might help him.

A home group is a good idea, or an Alpha course to explore further.

God bless, Susana
 
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I'd say get him to do an Alpha course, it covers a lot of ground and can be fun. Also, get involved in your church life together - in areas like serving, but also socially so he can meet other Christians that he can talk things through with.

Are you part of a cell or house group? Maybe bring him along to that too?
 
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anabel said:
My bf recently accepted god into his life and bcame a christian. He wants me to help him build his relationship with god further. Ive given him a bible and we've been praying together. I think that weve made a great start, however R there any other things i can or should do to help him aswell as myself?
advice plz
I think one of the most important things to realize when someone becomes a new Christian is that they are a Christian with baggage.
All the years we walked in darkness the devil would add to our baggage putting in lies, hurts and the ways of this world. So when we become a Christian we still have all that baggage full of what he gave us. Now that we have excepted Christ we must learn let to Christ remove all that satan gave us. Satan will cause us to stumble and put lies in our heads when we fall back into sin when he attacks us, and he will. You can rest assure that when Heaven heard your prayer so did hell, so expect to be attack. The main thing is not to get depressed and think God will not forgive you, that is satan telling you that. So when you see your boyfriend stumble and sin do not condem him but offer reasurance that Lord understands and forgives him.
Overtime the Lord will do His work but you must have patience and lots of it.
In Ephesians 6:10-18 He tells us to put on the full armour of God so we will be able to stand our ground... put on the helmut of salvation and the sword of the spirit which is the word of God.
Read His word everyday and pray and purge yourself of all satans garbage and resist him amd he will flee. Peace
 
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anabel said:
My bf recently accepted god into his life and bcame a christian. He wants me to help him build his relationship with god further. Ive given him a bible and we've been praying together. I think that weve made a great start, however R there any other things i can or should do to help him aswell as myself?
advice plz
Watch how he acts to see if his actions are those of a Christian, especially if you are looking to marry him. You have to be willing to trust his judgement as a Godly man, if you don't or he constantly defers to you it is a sign of troubles to come.
 
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Hey guys thanx for the advice.
The lord is my banner in relation to your ques-
I come from a christian family and it plays an important part of who we are. He wasnt a christian b4 we met, but when we welcomed him into our family he loved the way everyone was. As he had a hard time growing up with not knowing his real father, his mother didnt really care about him and him living with his stepmother which he loved, but then lost last mothers day he found things very different in our house.
i dont know, but he said he felt that in our house there was always happniess and love. For family functions we always begin with a prayer and at different times he would see me or one of my sisters just reading our bible. My family is a very musical family aswell, my dad use to be a chruch choir master, mum sings and my sisters and i sing as a group. We go around to different churches with our manager who preaches at these different churches.
Neway i guess it was during the christmas hols when it kind of all started. He just asked me if he could read the bible with me, and pary with me and stuff. I was really happy of course, bcoz i had been praying that he would come to share and know how wonderful life is with god.
Neway it wasnt until recently that he said to me that he wanted to become a christian, and that he wanted to learn more about god but he wasnt sure of what to do. So i prayed with him and he prayed and asked the lord to accept him and help him come to know him and learn his ways. Since then hes been praying every day, & reading the bible so yeah i guess thats just how it all sort of came about. I just wanted additonal help in knowing that there are other things i can do. Thanx guys so much 4 your help!
Thirsty46 i know what you mean and i know that it wont always be an easy road, but il keep that in mind and il keep asking god for his continuous guidance. Thanx!
Oh btw Desi il def do that thanx!
Thanx again guys for the encouragement and kind words. God bless, anabel
 
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yes, find a church and definitely get into bible study! that's most important, equip yourself with God's Word so you can discern what is and is not from God.

a simple tool for new christians and non believers on the core 'things' of christianity, try "Just for starters - seven foundational bible studies". It explains the meanings of salvation, trust, living with God's way.. etc etc.
 
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He should be going to a church and getting involved in what the church is doing. Get him involved in Bible studies to help him understand the word. A new members class could really help also. Just remember to keep him in your prayers.
 
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Anabel,
it sounds to me as if he's doing well. He's reading the Bible, praying, and has social contact with you and your family as he gets used to church. Keep it up!

A new Christian does really need a mature Christian of the same sex to really get them going, and that note of caution from Desi is probably right.
Your boyfirend is bound to look to you for advice at times, which is fine, but maybe your Dad or another man at church could take him under their wing a bit?
After all, he needs to learn how to be as aChristian man, and you will be limited in what you can give him there.

But it sounds like you're all heading in the right direction.

God bless, Susana
 
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