bf dilema

[Iggster]

Have you checked the log in your eye lately?

 

[Wakeup2god]

Dear Hooch
I suppose you'd have told our Lord Jesus 'just how it was' when he healed a man on the Sabbath! Now that may sound silly to you but my dear friend that's exactly how you're coming across.

I bless you anyway brother.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

From what you originally wrote I can tell you now that moving would be a mistake.
Not only can life go on, chances are it will get better.

This is one of those things that if you're having thoughts/feelings like this, go with them. They're giving you doubts for a reason.

 

[hugnluvable]

Thanks there again! Its hard though. I really shouldnt be thinking like this. My Mum is finding it hard to believe that I'm having doubts about it and that these doubts are having an effect upon what happens in this relationship

She says "it takes two to tango". Yeah, it does - but talking to her about it has confused me even more. At the moment its like 2 magnets retracting. I want one thing, he wants another - and its stalemate at the mo. If the bf asked God for guidance in this situation as well then maybe things would work out.

Rather than a physical problem (geographically speaking) I think God's showing me a spiritual problem through this all! What do you think?

Urgh! I'm sooo het up about it all!

 

[jarrol]

I don't cast stones-- I just tell it like it is my friend.

People can feel free to ignore the words of God all they want.

that sounded like pride!!!!!!

r u ignoring the words of God as well?

 

[jcright]

If I feel and realise that I know that life will go on and I can move on without him - does that neccasarily mean that I can?

Sorry if this is covered, didn't take the time to read everyone else's response. I have a couple of thoughts for you.

I just posted this in another thread on this board. There is a huge difference between want and need. If you haven't considered it before, then I would like to point out that you need God. Anything else is a want. It isn't healthy to need a SO. It is, however, okay to want them in your life.

The other thing I would warn you about is a relationship with a non-believer. The bible is quite clear that we should not be unequally yoked. There are reasons for this. Even if there aren't problems now, there will be problems, that could otherwise be avoided, later. That isn't to say that an equally yoked relationship doesn't have problems, but at least they aren't likely to be salvation issues.

Okay, I know I probably didn't address your main concern, but I felt that those two concerns should have been addressed.

 

[Iggster]

Rather than a physical problem (geographically speaking) I think God's showing me a spiritual problem through this all! What do you think?

I think it could be a spiritual battle. The devil has his ways of luring God's children away from Him. Christ died on the cross for us when He didn't have to to. The question is," Will you take up your cross and stand your ground for Him?"

 

[hugnluvable]

Well heres my story so far. I'm NOT moving up north! And I'm NOT going to give in to that fact!

I'm talking to my boyfy tomorrow about it. If he can face that fact then fantastic, if he cant, well we're going to have to leave it up to God to decide what happens! And guess what thats going to mean......

Looks like its going to be a long week!

Love and hugs
Erica
xxx

 

[Iggster]

I'm proud of you, sis.....

 

[Cjwinnit]

Whilst it's good you aren't moving up for the wrong reasons, the North is actually a nice place to live

 

[hugnluvable]

Whilst it's good you aren't moving up for the wrong reasons, the North is actually a nice place to live

Yeah, I know it is.... in fact its lovely! But God's calling me down South!

Love and hugs
Erica
xxx