memoriesbymichelle
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But... but... we DO have a clapping smilie:
We also have a thumbs-up one too!
Another thing that freaks me out is meeting some guy and then have him turn out to be a psycho who lies, cheats, and/or worse. For 6 years I was involved with someone who turned out to be a pathological liar, and at the same time was one of the most charming, engaging men I ever met. Turns out he had/has a girlfriend, in who's house he was/still is living, and he was playing step-father to her daughter. Apparently, this woman has "issues with (physical) intimacy" as it was explained to me when I found out about it, so he thought nothing of going elsewhere to get that, and I was the one he chose to have it with. Don't get me wrong, if people want to be in a polyamorous relationship that's there choice, but ALL the parties involved have to know and be OK with it, otherwise it is just cheating and lying, and *I* didn't know about it. He also took advantage of my colossal naivety at that time (I was 30) and became a sort of mentor to me and, yes, he did give me plenty of food for thought about life, so he wasn't all bad. So, I chose to try and continue the relationship (and yes the fact that he was "good" was one reason!).
I finally told him to go to you-know-where back in December, because if spite of the fact that it took someone ELSE to tell me what was going on, he continued lying to me, and then running away when I would confront him about it. The relationship went on far longer than it should've, because I was hooked and thought I could handle it, but by 7 months ago I realized that I had indeed grown, and in a direction where I had to make a choice to value myself more than someone who I had outgrown. I told him that he was only being a buddy to me in order to get what he obviously didn't get at home (physical intimacy), and that his "interest" in me as a person was all an act.
In a nutshell, he is the other big reason why I prefer to stay single. I trusted him, and gave him the benefit of the doubt, thinking that maybe, just MAYBE he had learned something everytime we had a disagreement and went several months without speaking (we once went 1.5 years without seeing or speaking to each other). But, it was not to be. And I cannot allow myself to take another chance like that. Once was enough.
My fears exactly and even more because I also wonder if they are a serial killer IRL and I am not joking. So single isn't so bad and it's better than being duped, or.....dead
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