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I was recently kicked out of a women's group by the leader. Having been in the group since spring & feeling like I belonged/made friends, I was feeling quite hurt & rejected.. I asked for an explanation & received this "I prayed about it & feel this group is not for you." So she justed used religion to "justify" the fact that she just didn't like me. Then on her FB acct, she posts all the time what a great leader she is & how God is using her. I say Baloney! A good leader doesn't kick someone out of a group that is a church based group for no real reason at all.
Have you ever introduced friends to each other who then replaced you with their friendship? How did you deal with the hurt from that if it didn't get addressed?
Hello mama2one. Compare that leader's attitude to that of the good shepherd in the bible. That's a poor way they treated you, I hope you get healing balm from the Holy Spirit to heal your hurt. But Romans 8:28, God works for the good in all circumstances. You dodged a bullet there before you wasted more time in such a wolfy group. God BlessI asked for an explanation & received this "I prayed about it & feel this group is not for you."
That will be a test of love.... Remember Christ was separated from God the Father, in order to bring us close to God the Father. But it can hurt. And I believe it hurt Christ. He said on the cross: "Why have you forsaken Me?"Have you ever introduced friends to each other who then replaced you with their friendship? How did you deal with the hurt from that if it didn't get addressed?
There may come a time when you’re able to weather that without much upset. But you need to heal first and put other things in place to lessen the impact of negative experiences on your heart and psyche. Then you’ll be able to brush it off, ignore them or tell them to stop.
Your calling is a factor as is gifting. You’ll feel a natural draw to situations and persons or a burden that’s not your own. It came from God. There may be seasons when you’re a burden bearer that prepare you for greater works. Some connections can be reconciled with time and maturity. Others are set aside for unions God prefers.
Maybe this will be an area of ministry for you later on. Loneliness is rising and resources are needed. Perhaps you’ll create them. Here’s some Christian books you may find edifying.
~bella
- The Power of a Woman’s Words
- Speak Life
- War of Words
- Yes Sisters
- Never Unfriended
- Friendish
- A Gentle Answer
- Try Softer
- The Seven Deadly Friendships
- Seven Friendships Every Man Needs (applicable to women as well)
That will be a test of love.... Remember Christ was separated from God the Father, in order to bring us close to God the Father. But it can hurt. And I believe it hurt Christ. He said on the cross: "Why have you forsaken Me?"
Many if not all of the churches in Asia Minor (currently Turkey) abandoned Paul... I'm a missionary. I've had this happen to me too...
I helped my friend find a wife. Then his wife and my wife got into a fight of some sort, and we still sometimes text, but we do not attend the same social events anymore. They have their group and we have ours. You just have to deal with what life serves you.Have you ever introduced friends to each other who then replaced you with their friendship? How did you deal with the hurt from that if it didn't get addressed?
I don't remember churches abandoning me, but we've had several times where we had poured out our lives for people, sometimes for years and they would just abandon us and yes, it can hurt. But sometimes later on, we see that it was for the best. And if people have trusted Christ as Savior, we can just entrust them in the hands of God... He isn't done with them yet. Philippians 1:6Oh my... That must have been terribly painful to have those churches abandon you! May I ask why there was abandonment, was it something of animosity or did they develop affection elsewhere? Just to better understand where you are coming from. And yes, you're right. Jesus was forsaken and maybe it is a test of love. Maybe God wants to know ultimately who I love most. I've tried with God's help to make the decisions that honor Him. May He continue to give me the grace to do so!
I don't remember churches abandoning me, but we've had several times where we had poured out our lives for people, sometimes for years and they would just abandon us and yes, it can hurt. But sometimes later on, we see that it was for the best. And if people have trusted Christ as Savior, we can just entrust them in the hands of God... He isn't done with them yet. Philippians 1:6
I helped my friend find a wife. Then his wife and my wife got into a fight of some sort, and we still sometimes text, but we do not attend the same social events anymore. They have their group and we have ours. You just have to deal with what life serves you.
Yes... eventually I had to realise they weren't a true friend anyway and I moved on.Have you ever introduced friends to each other who then replaced you with their friendship? How did you deal with the hurt from that if it didn't get addressed?
They moved an hour away because of a job that she found. So they have a whole new group of friends that they get together with. When my friend was in the hospital she was quick to get a hold of me to pray for him. He did recover. They are related by marriage. My wife's brother is married to the sister of this girl. Maybe sometimes if there is too much drama it is better to walk away and let people live their own lives.You're right Diamond. That's a tough one. I pray that there will be peace between the wives so your friendship can be restored in Jesus name.
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