Being dumped... constantly

[Merchant]

Everytime I get a girlfriend I feel wonderful and we both have a very loving, meaningful relationship. Or so I think. Then I am either dumped for someone else or they cheat on me in secret. ( a few times in the open ) I don't trust anyone anymore, I had until today when I found out my girlfriend who until I found out I loved with all my heart is cheating on me. Life. What good is it? I'm not a good christian, I'm not a good person, no one likes me and there's no such thing as love. Faith, it has little meaning to me anymore. I'm beginning to think I'm a plaything to God.

 

[MikeMcK]

Everytime I get a girlfriend I feel wonderful and we both have a very loving, meaningful relationship. Or so I think. Then I am either dumped for someone else or they cheat on me in secret. ( a few times in the open ) I don't trust anyone anymore, I had until today when I found out my girlfriend who until I found out I loved with all my heart is cheating on me. Life. What good is it? I'm not a good christian, I'm not a good person, no one likes me and there's no such thing as love. Faith, it has little meaning to me anymore. I'm beginning to think I'm a plaything to God.

"Every time"? How often is that? How many girls are you going through?

The first thing you need to remember is that it's not about quantity, but quality.

If that means that you have to set your sights a little higher and not have a girlfriend for a while, better not to have a girlfriend for a little while, than to get involved with the wrong girl and end up hurt a few weeks later.

 

[Merchant]

"Every time"? How often is that? How many girls are you going through?

The first thing you need to remember is that it's not about quantity, but quality.

If that means that you have to set your sights a little higher and not have a girlfriend for a while, better not to have a girlfriend for a little while, than to get involved with the wrong girl and end up hurt a few weeks later.

It isn't quantity and it IS quality ok? This has been happening over a period of three to four years. Might I remind you "Judge not less yee be judged" ? I do look for quality but you know what? It doesn't exist. No one is really "out there for me". Frankly that's BS. If God has a plan, why does it have to involve so much pain? I've been divorced from my father, my mother hates me, my brothers hate me, no one in school likes me. What the hell is so damn good about my life? Sure I'm not poor, diseased, etc. But you know that isn't always so great I can't overlook that now and then. I'm a joke, my whole ********* existance is a joke and frankly I'm sick of it. I want Jesus and I want him now. If judgement day is coming, make it now because frankly as far as I'm concerned, there's nothing on this planet for me.

 

[Merchant]

By divorced from my father I mean disowned. I was kicked out of the house because his wife didn't like me.

 

[holydan]

I have been dumped constantly and also been dumped by a girl then when back out with her then she dumped me again and so on.

Some girls might find you vunerbal and take advantage of you because you like her so much. The best thing to do is get to know her really well and then ask her out.

(lol i suck at advice.)

 

[Merchant]

I have been dumped constantly and also been dumped by a girl then when back out with her then she dumped me again and so on.

Some girls might find you vunerbal and take advantage of you because you like her so much. The best thing to do is get to know her really well and then ask her out.

(lol i suck at advice.)

I don't want to ask anyone out again. After all like the old joke says "son, you don't need to play poker when you got a good, strong hand."

 

[Merchant]

I don't want to ask anyone out again. After all like the old joke says "son, you don't need to play poker when you got a good, strong hand."

Ok maybe that was a bit innapropriate and didn't help my cause or image but that really isn't how I feel about my relationships. I'm just very, very upset about the fact that apparently I'm the world's little pet to push around. And basically always have been.

 

[praying_hoping]

Hi Merchant- Sorry to hear about your troubles. I will pray for you to feel better. Almost everyone I know (including myself) has been cheated on before-it really hurts to the core. Have you tried any of the Christian dating sites? A friend of mine found a really nice girl on there and now they are engaged. I really feel for you because I have been there. Life is a series of challenges-we live and learn-I have had a series of very bad things happen to me since September but I know God is always with me. He is what keeps me going. God has not left you-do not ever give up on God. You can private message me anytime if you need someone to talk to. Please don't give up-you are a valuable child of God. Blessings, Lori

 

[Merchant]

Hi Merchant- Sorry to hear about your troubles. I will pray for you to feel better. Almost everyone I know (including myself) has been cheated on before-it really hurts to the core. Have you tried any of the Christian dating sites? A friend of mine found a really nice girl on there and now they are engaged. I really feel for you because I have been there. Life is a series of challenges-we live and learn-I have had a series of very bad things happen to me since September but I know God is always with me. He is what keeps me going. God has not left you-do not ever give up on God. You can private message me anytime if you need someone to talk to. Please don't give up-you are a valuable child of God. Blessings, Lori

I would private message you but i dont remember how, i havent been to this site in a long time and today is my first day back. ***edit** nevermind i found out how again

 

[MikeMcK]

Might I remind you "Judge not less yee be judged" ?

I think you have me confused with someone else. I didn't judge you, I was just trying to offer some advice so that you might learn from my mistakes.

I do look for quality but you know what? It doesn't exist. No one is really "out there for me". Frankly that's BS. If God has a plan, why does it have to involve so much pain? I've been divorced from my father, my mother hates me, my brothers hate me, no one in school likes me.

Honestly? I know you're not going to want to hear this, but do you show the same attitude to them that you've shown to me?

 

[Merchant]

I think you have me confused with someone else. I didn't judge you, I was just trying to offer some advice so that you might learn from my mistakes.



Honestly? I know you're not going to want to hear this, but do you show the same attitude to them that you've shown to me?

You may not have meant to judge but I got that tone. I'm getting hostility from you now, intended or not. You trying to make me angry? Because trust me, I don't need it. And no I don't "show the same attitude to them" as with you.

 

[Merchant]

Look im sorry, u probably didnt mean it i jus felt i was being accused of being a sleezy speeddating easy whatever you call it. im not in the right mind now and i do stupid things when im not in the right mind and frankly i dont want to live any more but im too much of a wuss to kill myself so here i am. ok? so please, im going to leave now. Goodbye for tonight i suppose.

 

[MikeMcK]

You may not have meant to judge but I got that tone.

Here is my post to you:

"Every time"? How often is that? How many girls are you going through?

The first thing you need to remember is that it's not about quantity, but quality.

If that means that you have to set your sights a little higher and not have a girlfriend for a while, better not to have a girlfriend for a little while, than to get involved with the wrong girl and end up hurt a few weeks later.

As you can see, no judgement, no "tone".

I'm getting hostility from you now, intended or not.

Here is my post to you:

I think you have me confused with someone else. I didn't judge you, I was just trying to offer some advice so that you might learn from my mistakes.

Honestly? I know you're not going to want to hear this, but do you show the same attitude to them that you've shown to me?

Again, as you can see, no hostility. Like I said, I'm just trying to give you the benefit of my experience so that you can avoid some of the mistakes I've made. If that's what you consider hostile and judgemental, let me know now. I'm happy to help if you want it, but if you just want to play games, I do have other things I can do.

And no I don't "show the same attitude to them" as with you.

What sort of attitude do you show them?