being alone in a crowd, cant find a true friend

[hope_is_last_to_die]

Its so depressing to be among people but to be so alone. Most people have at least one person with whom they can share their pain but I have no-one. Yes I meet people every day but its all superficial, no real meaningful relationships. Yes Im talking about people in the church.

Ive prayed for God to help me to find a true friend but I still havent found one. Some people say you need to be be friendly with people to find a friend but I am friendly with people and have helped people. Im not being friendly just to get a friend but the point Im making is that being friendly doesnt help me to find a true friend.

This is a cruel world, when your face doesnt fit. However thankfully we are not under nazi rule, they would have killed people like me.

Yes I know Jesus loves me and He helps me but I despair at my life and my lonely existence.

 

[aflower4God]

((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))))))
My dear sweet loving brother.
I KNOW this pain too well, yes it is MY fault for not getting out and finding people but again I live in a pretty rural area.
Online I TOTALLY know how you feel. I was a part of a group and I feel that the people in this small group stop talking to me lately cause of WHO I AM, me, STUPID (don't spell good, tell my true feelings and BORING). So yeah I am getting the feeling that they have blown me off too and like you IT HURTS! My life has become, waiting and praying that social services helps me get a job, my spider friends that I see out my window, you tube video's of a sweet light show I watch and my stuffed animals.
I will pray for you my dear sweet loving brother. I know if I was in your country I would befriend you in a blink, you are so kind and nice and have NEVER changed. I AM SO GLAD that there are people out there like you. I only pray to meet a friend that I can talk to whom has a heart like you. (((((((BIG HUGS))))))))
Your not alone.
God bless you and LOTS OF LOVE TO YOU.

 

[power2theweak]

(((Hope)))

(((Flower)))

 

[power2theweak]

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[chrisschris]

HI!
I see there are some very good answers to this topic.
I will add something ...

I know youre pain.
I had this before I came in my depression.
I felt so alone and felt I need somebody around me.
All is superficial and nobody cares about me.

There are always people who are in "their circle" and I dont feel I could get in.
So I was on the false way.
I searched the faith and friendship in people when I was weak,
but I didnt really open .

I would really tell someone who you have faith in, how do you feel.
Perhaps a pastor or someone you trust.
Or a good friend.
You will see that people are nt that superficial you think.
Its your feeling.they do care!

I heard a important sentence but perhaps too late (because I got this illness):
be not selfish, but be your best friend, becuase you know you care of god and love.
Then you have already a friend and you will feel and act as if you dont need someone.
Then the friendships start quicklier and deeper.
I made this , but I forgot it and didnt have the feeling for some reasons and years....
god bless you!

 

[miss-a]

Praying for you, Hope. Is there a men's Bible study in your area? Ladies' Bible studies hav been a good starting point for me. I don't have intimate friendships, but I do have loving acquaintances, some of whom might build one day into deeper friendships.

 

[NoelAsa]

Praying for you. There is a friend out there for you. Just be patient.

 

[visionary]

Connecting on a deeper level.. the one that satisfies the soul cravings of companionship is hard especially in our superficial world. .. I would pray and ask God to send you someone with whom you can connect with.. a prayer partner. .. friend indeed.

 

[hope_is_last_to_die]

many thanks to you all for your kind words and prayers

miss-a, there isnt a mens bible study that I know of. I used to host and lead a single mens bible study / prayer support group in my own home and the first guy who came to it got married not long after it started!

As Ive explained in my op, Ive reached out plenty but I dont seem to be getting anywhere Again I say that I know that we dont reach out to other people for selfish reasons but nevertheless real meaningful relationships are an important part of life and when one doesnt have any its not good at all

I know there are many people in worse off situations than me but then again there are many people who have meaningful relationships. Its a crazy world, hard to make sense of at times. One thing for sure when we get to heaven we will all have real meaning relationships all of the time!!

 

[NoelAsa]

Why did it have to be a single men's bible study? Could you not have a bible study for men regardless if they are single or married? That way you would be able to widen your opportunities for finding a friend. Many married men have single male friends.

 

[hope_is_last_to_die]

I didnt plan to start the single mens group it just happened as I saw the need for a support group for single men. Im friendly with all people, doesnt matter whether they are married or single. Cant lead a bible study now because Im not well enough.

 

[NoelAsa]

So sorry about your health problems. I am praying for you that you find the friendhship that you so want. Hugs.