Being a good partner and father in a difficult situation.

[mikenet2006]

Me and my partner have our share of struggles, we separated a few months back for many reasons that were probably good ones, but we're giving it another go.

We had many struggles, we're both bipolar, and Im an addict in recovery. I just got my learners permit so I cant drive to help out yet, and job searching is going slow.

I have so much hope for her and I though, that things can be different so long as I focus on my recovery and do what I can to become a better man. I'm making great progress, but it's an incredibly difficult too.

I don't have any plans to give up this time, the last time I was with her I decided to let her go her own way so that her and I could recover and do what we needed to do. Plus we fought so much, we both said hurtful things to one another and didn't know quite how to deal with each other.

We're making good progress now, we talk to each other in a way we hadn't before. We're very supportive and caring right now but I want to keep that going. I love this woman and her son so much. The idea of being a daddy and having a family is a dream of mine.

I've been praying a good bit, perhaps someone here has some success stories about overcoming problems in a family or relationship to make it work? Problems with transportation, addiction, or money concerns?

I do want to point out that I'm not in active addiction anymore and I'm confident I wont go back, I just need a lot of encouragement and advice right now.

 

[johndoo]

Mikenet,

That is a pretty broad question.
Are you guys attending a church regularly together?
What do you think about relationship counseling?
If you haven't heard of "Financial Peace" it is a Christian marriage seminar to learn basic financial principles that can be incredibly helpful.
I'm a conservative Christian so I'd be interested in knowing if you are moving towards marriage.

 

[fdsfndls]

I'm not in a relationship, but something that might help - I know a guy who came to christ about 4 years ago. God set him free from perversion, drugs, alcoholism, smoking - he was homelss at the time.
(he was going to do himself in - on the point, when a street evangelist came up to him)
anyway, he still backslides a bit, but he's gone in leaps and bounds. I hear it in his voice, how far he's come - sometimes you have no idea just how far God has brought you, you think you've only gone several houses down the street, when if looked at from Gods viewpoint, you've done several suburbs.
(I'd say he's done several towns.)

Walking gets you there.



(I'd give you stories of overcoming with family - but I don't have any - honouring God and then leaving when he told me to.)
Addiction - chocolate is really important to me. But God doesn't mind that one. It's relative. For others it might be a sin. We're all at different stages in our walk. What's important to one, might not be important to another. After being set free from cigarettes, my friend went back to it out of boredom. I think he's addicted again - but God knows what he's doing. He might have to quit on his own steam this time. God is kind.

 

[mikenet2006]

Mikenet,

That is a pretty broad question.
Are you guys attending a church regularly together?
What do you think about relationship counseling?
If you haven't heard of "Financial Peace" it is a Christian marriage seminar to learn basic financial principles that can be incredibly helpful.
I'm a conservative Christian so I'd be interested in knowing if you are moving towards marriage.

I did at one point attend church with her, she is who helped open me up to Christianity a bit. She has since started working weekends and getting to Church is impossible for her now, she works Wednesday too.

We try to live decently and both have a set of good morals but complications or arguments always surfaced somehow. We're doing good at the moment but I want to keep it that way.

I'm planning to attend church more again when I start driving, that will help in motivating me to go because it will make it so much easier. In the meantime Im doing my 12 step groups and getting some spiritual help that way. Many people have found God through these types of programs, I'm just hoping it continues to have a positive impact on me, I can use all the help I can get to be good for her.

We did talk about marriage once a long time ago but things quickly went downhill shortly after that so we put the idea off. I want us to be ready for that and prove to ourselves that we can go months without any major fights or complications.

We need all the prayers we can get, I want us to be healthy and happy, especially since her son is involved. I love him like he's my own son and want him to have a healthy environment to be raised in.

 

[astein]

How can one be a societal good parent when the greed of a nation desires only money?

Who will rather destroy humans in their own pursuit of monetary gain? The devil rejoices in them.