Bah why?

[Jamza]

Basically, there's a girl I've liked for ages and we're friends. I went to her 18th party last night and had a great time. We're not usually together as long as that and I realized how much I really am keen on this girl; we talked lots and had lots of fun; and I decided when I got back from party that I just had to ask her out. I was going to but I talked to her like half an hour ago on msn and she was telling me all about how she liked this person at the party. I could have told her how much I really like her, but I don't think it would help. I don't know how much she likes this boy; but she's very shy (otherwise she'd have a boyfriend I think, she's extremely pretty and well as being such a friendly and warm person) so I think if I said I liked her she'd just get shy of me and not talk much anymore. I wouldn't usually mind all this, but I was telling people and they said we'd make a great couple but maybe its just not to be. I'm going to where she works to say hi later anyway coz I said I would., but I don't really know where to go with it or to just drop it. The other guy isn't a Christian or anything; pleasent guy tho, we got on well at party, lol I suppose I can't blame him, he probably doesn't even know she likes him! But still...So anyway any thoughts?

 

[Jamza]

Looks like no ones really been on. Well that's fine I suppose I'll read some replies after I go and see her. I think I might pray about it, its quite disappointing really, I don't want to mess up being friends with her, but I really want to go out with her too as she seems like such a good match etc

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Looks like no ones really been on. Well that's fine I suppose I'll read some replies after I go and see her. I think I might pray about it, its quite disappointing really, I don't want to mess up being friends with her, but I really want to go out with her too as she seems like such a good match etc

I've just read too many "why didn't I ask this girl out" or "so there's this girl I like..." threads. I just can't sincerely post anything helpful anymore.

Good luck with this though, I'll say a prayer for you.

 

[Labradorlight]

go for it...tell her exactly how you feel and that you think she's an awesome person. nothing to lose...you never know...she may feel the exact same way. good luck

 

[Jamza]

go for it...tell her exactly how you feel and that you think she's an awesome person. nothing to lose...you never know...she may feel the exact same way. good luck

Heh thank you..I just wouldn't want her to say no and then get really nervous around me that's all. I better not tell her over the counter at the supermarket but she usually goes on msn right after and actually talks more on that she said she likes talking on that better coz of shyness etc (she's not a recluse or anything though!)

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Heh thank you..I just wouldn't want her to say no and then get really nervous around me that's all. I better not tell her over the counter at the supermarket but she usually goes on msn right after and actually talks more on that she said she likes talking on that better coz of shyness etc (she's not a recluse or anything though!)

WHOA,
do NOT tell her over MSN, e-mail or anything cowardly like that. Be a man, give her that respect, and tell her in person.

 

[Jamza]

Lol but I might not see her...I take your point, I wouldn't usually do that, but as I've said she's shy and might be uncomfortable. I've got no problem with telling her in person though, so yeah I could do that.

 

[findinghope06]

WHOA,
do NOT tell her over MSN, e-mail or anything cowardly like that. Be a man, give her that respect, and tell her in person.

i agree. ive had ppl tell me that they liked me on AIM and it just felt so informal and in all honesty, i didnt know if he was joking or not. i would tell it to her face or if you arent going to see her, maybe get her phone number and talk to her over the phone.

 

[covenantwmn]

Bless your heart, it's been a long time since 18 for me, but I remember. I can tell you from this side of things, you don't wanna wonder one day what might have happened had you told her. You sound like a really nice guy, if she sees that you're ok with whatever she says, she should be okay too. Saying a prayer for you today.

 

[Jamza]

Thank you, yeah I think I will. Dropping in to see her at the supermarket wasn't a good idea lol. There was no customers around but her customer services co workers gave me disapproving looks! Ran away after a few minutes! I'll see what I can do to tell her sometime.

 

[chizzlelee]

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[Labradorlight]

Just pray about it...God will come through for you if it's his plan for you. You seem like a nice person and i'm sure this girl will open up as your friendship grows...praying for you.