bachelor party--please please help

[frustrated]

My boyfriend and I are fighting because his friend is having a bachelor party in Vegas and I don't think he should go and he does. He assures me there will be no strippers (if there were he definitely wouldn't go). But I still feel hugely uncomfortable about it. I mean, if there is nothing shady, then why Vegas, aka Sin City and "what happens in vegas stays in vegas?" And how does he know nothing shady is going to happen? Plus I'm uncomfortable with the thought of guys not celebrating a marriage but acting like life is over for the groom. I think the whole thing is disrespectful and dishonorable. I can't use biblical rationale bc he is not a Christian. For me, him wanting to go (or actually going) is a dealbreaker, and if he goes (and the fact that he even wants to go) is probably the end of our relationship. I wonder if I'm overreacting and if I'm not, how do I convince him I'm not just being a controlling gf and that it really is hurtful/disrespectful? I'm wondering what Randy would say to a guy in this situation and maybe if even he could offer advice. I don't know what to do. I can't compromise how I feel on this one like I maybe can with the other situations. And I don't know what I'm going to do without him I'm really devastated.

 

[bfly]

Well, I am not Randy and I don't know Randy but I will give you my opinion anyway. I don't charge for my advice. I give it freely. lol

You are a Christian and he is not a Christian.

He does not see things through the same eyes you see thing.

He does not understand this to be anything other than having a good time and a party with the rest of the guys for the last time.

Why should he compromise on something he sees as not being wrong.

You beating him up over not being a Christian will never change him. Don't think when you get married you will change him. YOU WON'T....

You may get him to go to church and do things that are Christian like, but until he sees God in you and God sends the Holy Spirit to draw him to God, he won't be a Christian.

The only thing you can do is pray for him and pray for yourself that God will give you the grace to live a life before him (husband) that he will see God in you and want to know the God you know.

This is known as unequally yoked in the bible. God speaks against being unequally yoked. There are other example of being unequally yoked but this is the one you are struggling with now.

I pray he is a good man and you have known him long enough to know that he will be good, helpful, honest, respectful and all the other good qualities we look for in our mates.

I would turn it over to God and leave it there.

If this can't be based on trust, as I see it, you only have one alternative.

I pray you find Frank. God bless you and may you spend your life with the one you love.

 

[frustrated]

sorry..I cut an pasted from another email asking advice. ignore the randy thing ...and thanks for your advice

 

[epiclesis]

moved this from irc forum to courting couples, seeing as it would be more appropriate here.

 

[HisLittleHazelnut]

He is not a Christian, thus you should not be with him in the first place, not even in dating.

 

[peanutbutter12]

Did I miss something? Didn't we just have a thread about this?

CJ