If a person was raped and is now pregnant due to this rape... does the father have rights? Am I obligated to have to see him or involve him?
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Baby from a Rape
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I hope not Julie. I think you would need to ask an attorney in your state. God bless you, Tapero
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Hi there.
Legally this depends on your state. But speaking from a biblical wisdom... it's your call.
A guy who rapes someone will have no rights whatsoever over the victim.
Can I ask you, are you speaking about yourself? Feel free to PM me.
Legally this depends on your state. But speaking from a biblical wisdom... it's your call.
A guy who rapes someone will have no rights whatsoever over the victim.
Can I ask you, are you speaking about yourself? Feel free to PM me.
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I really want to know biblically speaking what my obligation to him is. If you know any supporting scriptures pleace send to me. I'm not sure how to personal message, I just joined.Sharky said:
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Julie227 said:
I am sorry for what you have gone thru. What happened to you was wrong, done for the wrong reasons. God will not forget it untill it is repented of by this man, and you can be sure that he will be held accountable for it by God.
How you choose to proceed in the matter will depend on whether or not you want to claim support for the child. If you do, then you and your attorney will have to deal with him, perhaps for years to come.
There is one Christian obligation that you have and that is to forgive him. God in His wisdom and mercy has brought forth from this pain something that will bless you for many years to come if you let it. Your child.
You have a chance to build a good foundation for this child and to nurture them in love and kindness. the man who did this to you will only have bitterness and anguish to remember, and will miss the love that might have been his under different circumstances.
perhaps the realization of what you will have in the love of your child will be enough that you can begin to put the pain of it's conception in the past and move towards your future with compassion and forgiveness.
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julie dont be too ashamed to file charges. he deserves charges agaisnt him. what he did was WRONG. 
if he wants to step up and be a father then he should have to suffer the consequences of how the baby came to be.
if he wants to step up and be a father then he should have to suffer the consequences of how the baby came to be.
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I'm not ashamed to press charges, just makes it a very complicated situation for me. He doesn't even know I am pregnant. What I need to know is am I responsible to tell him or can I raise this child with my husband as ours.kimber1 said:julie dont be too ashamed to file charges. he deserves charges agaisnt him. what he did was WRONG.
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personally i don't feel you're obligated. he violated you adn your your rights. if your hubby is willing to raise this baby as his and yours then by all means honey let him. i'm not sure who you could talk to to get a more legal opinion though. perhaps if your area has like a legal aid place i would if for no other reason than peace of mind, call them up explaining the situation so you know you have all teh bases covered.
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I'm worried about spiritual more then legal. Just want to make sure I'm doing the right thing by God.kimber1 said:
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okay then i would talk to a trusted pastor or priest depending on what denomination you are or just call one anonymously on the phone. but i'm sure he will tell you that this man committed a heinous offense against you. the fact that there is now an innoccent baby as a result doesn;t lessen that offense nor does it neccessarily give him rights to that child. ask yourself this. do you think God would want a man who would rape someone as a father figure for that child? honey i have no doubt God understands your intentions.
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He does not have any rights to raising the baby. I am praying for you and please know none of this is your fault. Please press charges he did something very wrong. God loves you and he cares very much about you.
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Julie227 said:
Hi Julie,
I would really consult some legal advice on that one but i'm praying that you and your husband can move on past this point with as little involvement from your perpetrator as possible in the child's life.
- Shaz
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hi hon,
i am in your shoes right now. i was raped on febuary 13, 2006 and am now preg. by it, and i didnt go to the hosp. when it happened or at all, and i did not press charges, so they dropped my case. i felt like u do, it's too complicated, and i didnt wanna testify or see him or anything. its really hard.
i am doing ok. i am here 4 u if u need to talk about this or anything, so feel free to pm me, k??? i am a good friend and will be praying for you, hon... u could keep me in ur prayers too.
yeah i worry bout if he should have rights and ive decided No and my decision is Final.
i'm here if ya need anything or need a shoulder to cry on or talk to someone who understands... i am 20 but am a good friend and listener. *hugs* email me anytime and i'll give u my regular email addy, so if ya need to talk, we can talk that way. let me know hun.
It's going to be ok. take it day by day. rely on God for strength. it's helped me so far, but im still trying to deal with it. He's our Strong Tower.
~michelle~
i am in your shoes right now. i was raped on febuary 13, 2006 and am now preg. by it, and i didnt go to the hosp. when it happened or at all, and i did not press charges, so they dropped my case. i felt like u do, it's too complicated, and i didnt wanna testify or see him or anything. its really hard.
i am doing ok. i am here 4 u if u need to talk about this or anything, so feel free to pm me, k??? i am a good friend and will be praying for you, hon... u could keep me in ur prayers too.
yeah i worry bout if he should have rights and ive decided No and my decision is Final.
i'm here if ya need anything or need a shoulder to cry on or talk to someone who understands... i am 20 but am a good friend and listener. *hugs* email me anytime and i'll give u my regular email addy, so if ya need to talk, we can talk that way. let me know hun.
It's going to be ok. take it day by day. rely on God for strength. it's helped me so far, but im still trying to deal with it. He's our Strong Tower.
~michelle~
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God have mercy. How awful. I do not know of any Biblical principle even dealing with this subject. Let me look.Julie227 said:
Just a reminder, we are no longer bound to Mosaic Law. This is the only principle even remotely related to your situation.
Deut 22:25 But if a man finds a betrothed young woman in the countryside, and the man forces her and lies with her, then only the man who lay with her shall die. 26 But you shall do nothing to the young woman; there is in the young woman no sin deserving of death, for just as when a man rises against his neighbor and kills him, even so is this matter. 27 For he found her in the countryside, and the betrothed young woman cried out, but there was no one to save her.
Adam Clarke Commentary on Deut 22:25
And the man force herA rape also, by these ancient institutions, was punished with death, because a womans honor was considered equally as precious as her life; therefore the same punishment was inflicted on the ravisher as upon the murderer. This offense is considered in the same point of view in the British laws, and by them also it is punished with death.
As far as I can tell, you do not have any Biblical obligation to the man except as previously stated, to forgive. (Forgiveness will bring healing to you.)
Dear Sister in Christ, I commend you for choosing to keep this baby. I remind you of this scripture-
1 Cor 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.
Your baby will be considered holy by God because you are holy. (I understand the context of the scripture is an unbelieving spouse, but I assume your husband is holy, too- the principle of your children being holy still stands.)
How courageous you are. I pray that the Lord would pour out a 100-fold blessing on you and your baby, and the rest of your family.
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oh, my rapist doesn't know im pregnant either. 
i blocked him from everything that night. NO one has a right to rape or abuse a girl/woman or any1 in any way EVER.... *hugs* it's gonna be ok. im here if ya need to talk... pm me if u need to.
i blocked him from everything that night. NO one has a right to rape or abuse a girl/woman or any1 in any way EVER.... *hugs* it's gonna be ok. im here if ya need to talk... pm me if u need to.
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he has the right to go to prison.
he has the right to get a bullet in his head if he ever tries to do that to anyone again.
The child has a right to not have anything to do with a sick piece of crap like that.
You have the right to tell him to get out of your life entirely and permanently.
If anything, maybe you have the right to child support and a restraining order.
he has the right to get a bullet in his head if he ever tries to do that to anyone again.
The child has a right to not have anything to do with a sick piece of crap like that.
You have the right to tell him to get out of your life entirely and permanently.
If anything, maybe you have the right to child support and a restraining order.
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