Many people, Christians and Non-Christians alike, really rarely acknowledge Sin for what it really is and the fact that we are All held accountable to a Holy God.
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Many people, Christians and Non-Christians alike, really rarely acknowledge Sin for what it really is and the fact that we are All held accountable to a Holy God.
holding hands? Sin? Show me where it says that! And don't give me speculation.... show an actual bible verse.
Wrong, because it is greater than just knowledge and training. That was suppose to be an easy example, you are right in that it is incomplete.
We are suppose to have Christ within us. We should be able to love any other Christian, and be in a relationship with any other Christian because we should both have Christ within us and so be able to love others... as Christ loves people.
The fact that we can't do that shows that we aren't good Christians.
This is the big difference between Christians and other philosophies/belief structures. In Christianity, we accept Christ's gift. Then He lives within us transforming us to be more like Him.
In other areas, people try to transform themselves. If that is the case then we should have just as much success as other structures, namely little at all.
JM
For people who are acting like holding hands produces zero physical/emotional reaction, I can tell you that you're wrong. I've held hands with guys, and when the fingers get to caressing and intertwining and rubbing, trust me, that turns me all kinds of on. When you're crazy about someone, or even when you're just feeling "hormonal", it doesn't take much of anything to make your mind and body to go berserk. Shoot, just sitting next to someone I'm in love with is all it takes for me to wanna jump on them.
There is no such thing as "too careful".
You know, because of thoughts like this, me and my friends used to have this joke about holding hands. If people held hands, they were "having sex". So if a couple held hands, we'd all reel back in horror and tell them to get a private room, or tell them they should be using protection with gloves
I guess I want to be overwhelmed with all-consuming passionate desire for my husband, and I want vice versa. If he holds my hand or hugs me or kisses me and feels nada...that would suck. And since my future husband will, at one point, be my boyfriend, and all that aroused and awakened love that is stronger than death won't wait to pop into existence until after the vows, I have to be realistic and expect it before that. I want and hope to awaken all that love (per Song of Solomon 8:4) when I meet my husband-to-be, so I'm trying to prepare myself now to abstain from lots of physical affection during the courtship. I know how rabidly lusty I can be when I'm not even really in love, so I can only imagine how hard it would be to control when I've got my soul mate in front of me.
I know that people are different, but I can't imagine being physically near someone you claim to be in love with, and not wanting to climb all over them. And I'm sure maybe some of you can't understand what the heck is wrong with me, either lol. I'm just a passionate person in every way.
I guess I want to be overwhelmed with all-consuming passionate desire for my husband, and I want vice versa. If he holds my hand or hugs me or kisses me and feels nada...that would suck. And since my future husband will, at one point, be my boyfriend, and all that aroused and awakened love that is stronger than death won't wait to pop into existence until after the vows, I have to be realistic and expect it before that. I want and hope to awaken all that love (per Song of Solomon 8:4) when I meet my husband-to-be, so I'm trying to prepare myself now to abstain from lots of physical affection during the courtship. I know how rabidly lusty I can be when I'm not even really in love, so I can only imagine how hard it would be to control when I've got my soul mate in front of me.
I know that people are different, but I can't imagine being physically near someone you claim to be in love with, and not wanting to climb all over them. And I'm sure maybe some of you can't understand what the heck is wrong with me, either lol. I'm just a passionate person in every way.
Would it count as kissing or hand-holding if there was glass between the couple?
Yet I also can be passionately distant...that's probably a contradiction but it works in my contradictious(is that even a word?) mind. Meaning, I like the times that I sit with someone I think I am in love with and we just sit there silently, maybe an arm around and not say a word to each other. You know you got someone special when you can have comfortable silence.
Yet I will admit, I don't know if I ever experienced temptation, in the classic, typical sense for the past 5 plus years. Temptation means your tempted and you have a moment of going, "Yes or no?" to me. In my past, I really don't think there was such a thing as temptation(I'm not talking about the topic of rather if it was right or wrong. I'm passed that now, and the answer is irrelevant for me). It was just two people choosing what they wanted and both agreed. [shrugs shoulder with a smile]. Past is the past, and I'm pretty confident I'll find the middle ground of purity and freedom once again...something that I knew I lost along the way over the past 5 plus years, and I knew that long before I stepped back into a church .
BTW-I'm not saying against your post. Just discussing with no real point.
lol well i wouldn't say that just because to me its not sexual when we hold hands that i don't feel anything to me there's a definite emotional intimacy to those kinds of things but that just doesn't translate into sexual tension necessarily. While it certainly does depend on the type of person you are, I think it may also depend on how you've trained your mind as well; if you look at a certain act as inherently sexual then when it happens you're likely to experience it as more sexually charged but if you never view it as sexual then it most likely won't feel that way when it happens to you. Sorta like how some cultures foster the idea that a womans eyes are inherently sexual so they force them to cover their eyes when they're out in public so as not to cause men to stumble. They've trained their minds to view something to be sexual that would make any western man scratch his head in confusion.
it may also depend on how you view romantic relationships. While there is an undeniable sexual element to them that needs to be properly approached, i just don't view it as overwhelmingly sexual unless both people have made that an important dynamic in their relationship that they foster. the emphasis in my relationship right now is friendship. we love each other and we enjoy each other's company and when we show each other those signs of affection like holding each other's hand or hugging thats tied to our emotional bond not a sexual one. I hope that makes sense or explains a bit where i'm coming from lol
ETA (because i'm half asleep and probably wasn't as clear as i should've been): none of this discounts what i've said earlier about figuring out whats right for you in a relationship. If you know certain situations would make you more prone to sinning or temptation then you're wise to avoid them. better to be cautious than to be sorry
Would it count as kissing or hand-holding if there was glass between the couple?