- Dec 12, 2019
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I'm 21 now, and I'm fairly certain it hasn't always been like this.
It started with a pretty simple fear of being judged. I avoided voicing opinions I knew would get me in trouble, stopped posting anything that could make me a target.
Eventually this morphed into an INTENSE fear of people finding out how I really felt, particularly in political matters. I was even afraid I was being *too* quiet, that people would grow suspicious of me and think I was hiding something (which I was).
Bit by bit, I removed myself from situations that caused anxiety. It's always been a fear of confrontation, and subsequent public humiliation, or alienation from whatever social group. So I alienated myself on purpose to avoid that outcome.
The issue, of course, is that the anxiety never subsided. It would just transplant itself onto something else. I'd distance myself from THAT thing, and so on and so forth, my world growing ever smaller with each little step.
The sources of anxiety became impossibly vague. The thought process was something like "i could imagine this hypothetically leading to X, which would inevitably lead to Z. It's safer to just not do it at all."
Today, since I have little left to be reasonably anxious about, my brain just compensates by creating insane hypothetical scenarios that, let's be honest, will never happen. And I know that, but I still get all the symptoms. My chest gets tight, I struggle to breathe, I can't focus, I feel nauseous. Sometimes I just start bawling, because I'm so tired of feeling like this.
And increasingly, those physical symptoms just SHOW UP before I've even thought of anything! At this point it just seems like a daily reality for me, that I will never be calm, I will never be at peace. I don't remember the last time my mind was truly still.
I'd love some insight from Christians with similar experiences, past or present. What helps? Can I ever be normal? To what degree can I even rely on my own strength or wisdom to solve this? To what degree can I rely on earthly solutions like therapy? Will prayer solve it all?
Hopefully this isn't too all-over-the-place. Thanks.
It started with a pretty simple fear of being judged. I avoided voicing opinions I knew would get me in trouble, stopped posting anything that could make me a target.
Eventually this morphed into an INTENSE fear of people finding out how I really felt, particularly in political matters. I was even afraid I was being *too* quiet, that people would grow suspicious of me and think I was hiding something (which I was).
Bit by bit, I removed myself from situations that caused anxiety. It's always been a fear of confrontation, and subsequent public humiliation, or alienation from whatever social group. So I alienated myself on purpose to avoid that outcome.
The issue, of course, is that the anxiety never subsided. It would just transplant itself onto something else. I'd distance myself from THAT thing, and so on and so forth, my world growing ever smaller with each little step.
The sources of anxiety became impossibly vague. The thought process was something like "i could imagine this hypothetically leading to X, which would inevitably lead to Z. It's safer to just not do it at all."
Today, since I have little left to be reasonably anxious about, my brain just compensates by creating insane hypothetical scenarios that, let's be honest, will never happen. And I know that, but I still get all the symptoms. My chest gets tight, I struggle to breathe, I can't focus, I feel nauseous. Sometimes I just start bawling, because I'm so tired of feeling like this.
And increasingly, those physical symptoms just SHOW UP before I've even thought of anything! At this point it just seems like a daily reality for me, that I will never be calm, I will never be at peace. I don't remember the last time my mind was truly still.
I'd love some insight from Christians with similar experiences, past or present. What helps? Can I ever be normal? To what degree can I even rely on my own strength or wisdom to solve this? To what degree can I rely on earthly solutions like therapy? Will prayer solve it all?
Hopefully this isn't too all-over-the-place. Thanks.