Aspies Married with Children??

[California Dreamin']

Hi,
I just got engaged July 26 and plan to marry September 26, 2009. I was wondering if there are any Aspies who are married and/or with children??

 

[Sabertooth]

Married, 25 years;
10 children (3 DDs, 7 DSs) 7-24yo;
5 at home.

1 HFA,
1 LFA,
1 or 2(?) Aspies

 

[gracechick]

Married for 8 years and one 3yr. Have you sought any premarital counciling? If not I highly recommend it, bcause the real marriage starts after the honeymoon

 

[California Dreamin']

I am still trying to get a meeting with the church to confirm our wedding date, I want to get planning and I am extremely frustrated but they will not even talk to us until next month. My mom is against us having kids, won't discuss it, but I know FH wants some, and I would like to if possible.

 

[gracechick]

If you havn't been there on www.wrongplanet.com there are threads about parenting and having kids. But there can be some "ahem" rather nasty stuff so beware

 

[California Dreamin']

Wow, never heard of that site, will check it out.
A support group for parents recently started here so my mom's been going to that, and my fiance started going.

 

[California Dreamin']

Wow, never heard of that site, will check it out.
A support group for parents recently started here so my mom's been going to that, and my fiance started going.

 

[TheZach]

I have Aspergers and I'm married

 

[gracechick]

It most likely depends on how intense it is and how "normal" the spouse is. I know my husband and I are not seeing eye to eye about if and where we may have to move for his job. I have Social Phobia so with a toddler and very busy husband and one income the stress can be very difficult.

 

[amberlight]

Yes, we've been married more than 20 years and have a lovely teenage son. It works really well for us.

 

[TheZach]

By the way, avoid wrongplanet

There full of stuff you wont want to see, plus they have a group of people that love attacking christians

 

[California Dreamin']

I haven't been on wrongplanet in awhile
Kept forgetting about it

 

[HisLittleHazelnut]

Try Aspies For Freedom

It's a lot better than wrongplanet.

 

[MoeSzyslak]

I've been married for 10 years. Two kids. My daughter is just about as nuerotypical as you can get. I don't understand her at all, but she adores me nonetheless and we can always find things to do together. I suspect my son is PDD-NOS or Aspergers. Something we need to start looking into becuase his school teacher is at wits end. I can read and understand him like a book. Its like a little version of me running around.

I have a wrong planet profile and go there from time to time. I avoid the "adult" folder and the "politics and religion" folder. Theres no threads in there worth anything. I'll have to go check the Aspies for Freedom site out.

 

[gracechick]

I will check it out as I don't like some of the junk that is on wrongplanet. Thanks

 

[IDDQD]

If you havn't been there on www.wrongplanet.com there are threads about parenting and having kids. But there can be some "ahem" rather nasty stuff so beware

That's the LAST place he should go, and this is coming from an Aspie. x:

Married, 25 years;
10 children (3 DDs, 7 DSs) 7-24yo;
5 at home.

1 HFA,
1 LFA,
1 or 2(?) Aspies

You sir, have more courage than I wish I had. I can't see myself with even one kid, let alone 10 (though I'm in college, so I don't have time for the whole dating-marriage-babymaking process). Mind if I ask you how you're able to make all that work without suffering from sensory overload? Or if you do, how you handle it when it comes to your own kids?

 

[Sabertooth]

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You sir, have more courage than I wish I had. I can't see myself with even one kid, let alone 10 (though I'm in college, so I don't have time for the whole dating-marriage-babymaking process). Mind if I ask you how you're able to make all that work without suffering from sensory overload? Or if you do, how you handle it when it comes to your own kids?

I get the sensory overload from time to time, but if it's play noise, I have a space that is away from their play areas. If it's noise from a conflict, it's my signal to step in and "referee," which ends up settling the noise, too.

I don't mind being outside with the noise as much as indoors.

 

[Timuchin]

For a mixed marriage between Aspergers and normals, I would highly recommend "The Other Half of Asperger Syndrome" by Maxine Aston. I have been in a mixed marriage for almost 30 years. It was rough, with my wife holding me to normal standards. Two years ago I found out I had Aspergers. My wife is now more accepting toward me. This book is a guide to living in an intimate relationship in our situation. It nails the problems we have had all this time.

 

[Bron]

Hi, I've been married 15 years and have two kids. I'm official aspie, married to unofficial aspie. It has been rough, but from what I hear, most marriages aren't smooth anyway. I find kids pretty challenging, personally, with the whole sensory overload thing, but completely worth it, I love them to bits. Having said that, I take SSRI medication which helps keep the 'arousal' level down, so I can cope.

IMHO, a person could benefit from a lot of reading on AS in relationships, to be prepared. A lot of understanding between partners wouldn't go amiss. Wish we'd had understanding years ago (only found out about AS recently)!

 

[carlyle418]

I've been married 6 years and we have a beautiful 3-year-old daughter.