- Jul 3, 2022
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Example: I told a half-lie to my boyfriend; I did something, minor, that seemed like a minor accident, but it was on purpose. I felt horrible immediately after, and I apologized, and that was that. But the way the incident happened, it seemed like an accident.
I recently read in a book that if we do something on purpose that we have to confess the sin ("I did this on purpose") and ask for forgiveness, versus only saying we're sorry in the case of an accident.
But do I need to confess every single evil thought I've had to other people (ie, my parents, or my friend)? Especially if what happens isn't a big deal and they forgot about it? I'm stuck on the deceit part--where I let them think it was an accident. Deceit is wrong but I just can't bring myself to review every little incident where I did something minor, but on purpose, and tell them "these things that looked like accidents were actually on purpose." I feel awful that there's a lie of sorts floating around, but I also wouldn't take it back because the alternative seems so extreme--to confess every horrible thought I had.
So, since I'm sorry about the whole thing--about the actions, and the deceit--but I wouldn't go back and change my deceitful apology to a confession of sin, would God still forgive me? I would go back and not let any of the situations happen in the first place, if I could.
Put in other words, in order to obtain God's forgiveness, do I need to get to the mindset where I would, if I could, change what I said when I apologized, to convey the whole truth? Do I actually need to sit down and write out all these instances and bring them to my boyfriend and anyone else I've wronged in the same way?
I recently read in a book that if we do something on purpose that we have to confess the sin ("I did this on purpose") and ask for forgiveness, versus only saying we're sorry in the case of an accident.
But do I need to confess every single evil thought I've had to other people (ie, my parents, or my friend)? Especially if what happens isn't a big deal and they forgot about it? I'm stuck on the deceit part--where I let them think it was an accident. Deceit is wrong but I just can't bring myself to review every little incident where I did something minor, but on purpose, and tell them "these things that looked like accidents were actually on purpose." I feel awful that there's a lie of sorts floating around, but I also wouldn't take it back because the alternative seems so extreme--to confess every horrible thought I had.
So, since I'm sorry about the whole thing--about the actions, and the deceit--but I wouldn't go back and change my deceitful apology to a confession of sin, would God still forgive me? I would go back and not let any of the situations happen in the first place, if I could.
Put in other words, in order to obtain God's forgiveness, do I need to get to the mindset where I would, if I could, change what I said when I apologized, to convey the whole truth? Do I actually need to sit down and write out all these instances and bring them to my boyfriend and anyone else I've wronged in the same way?