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[LeAnn1973]

I'm not sure if I understand your question, but I can tell if my thoughts are irrational because of emotions I am feeling, if that helps. It's taken me years to be able to recognize it, and it's not easy. is that what you meant?

Do you like being alone?

 

[ArohaB]

yep, good wording lol

yep i like being alone...it has its positives

what makes you feel nervous?

 

[LeAnn1973]

My girls being away from me. They're leaving for Paris on Friday. I'll be a nervous freakin' wreck.

How old are your kids and what are their names?

 

[ArohaB]

Charmaine 9, Christian 8, Joejoe 6, Ali 5, Ezekiel 4, Aroha 3.

what about yours?

 

[LeAnn1973]

17- Britney, 15-Jake, 14-Emma, 13-Zach, 11-Lauren, 9-Erynn, Hannah-19mo

Do you work outside the home?

 

[ArohaB]

i study at home,

are you qualified in anything?

 

[AirForceTeacher]

Well, I'm a decent computer security guy and I was a qualified crew commander.

What would you best be able to teach?

 

[ArohaB]

How not to do things lol

What do you do if your spouse is addicted to something?

 

[LeAnn1973]

Nag him about it until he stops! lol

Do you have any diseases (liver, heart, chemical, etc)?

 

[ArohaB]

no

what do you do if nagging does nothing?

 

[LeAnn1973]

I think it depends on the addiction (smoking? drugs? alcohol? porn?). I would talk to my pastor about it, if nothing I was doing (nagging, pleading, talking, reasoning,) was working. I would ask for counseling.

What would you do if your child came home and said they were offered drugs?

 

[ArohaB]

talk to them about their relationship with the Lord (that's where i would start anyway)

would you ask for counselling for yourself or your addicted partner?

 

[LeAnn1973]

I would ask for counseling for us both. If he refuses to see his fault, it may take a 3rd party to intervene. Definitly would get someone unrelated to look at the situation and show your spouse what's really happening. In addictions, you lose your sense of reality, and you as the wife may not be effective in showing that reality.


How long have you been married?

 

[ArohaB]

6 years, together 11 years

how do you get someone in without your spouses consent?

 

[LeAnn1973]

When i was having marital problems with my ex, I insisted he go to counseling with me, and he refused. There's not much you can do except tell him that you expect him to go, for the sake of your marriage, and that if he won't go, it will really hurt you, and damage your relationship, more than the addiction already has. If you have a good pastor, or married couples sunday school class teacher, or other mentor, that would be a great place to start.

Do you go to a good, strong church?

 

[JPPT1974]

Oh yes I love my church a lot

Do you love you Sunday School class?

 

[ArohaB]

we only have a foundational class...i havent been

what is your favourite takeaway food?

 

[LegacyOfLove]

I love chinese take-out food - fried rice with all 4 meats, crab rangoon, fried won-tons & General Tso's chicken! Yummy!

If you could be anywhere else (than where you are right now) - where would you like to be?

 

[LeAnn1973]

Panda Express

Do you watch House MD? (watching it now)

 

[ArohaB]

dont get it

what's your favourite ever tv programme?