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Ask a Celibate
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It's the scientific term for someone who does not associate themselves with homosexuality but has Same Sex Attraction(SSA).
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I'm trying to derail the thread, but that has me wondering: is that putting the sexuality in the context of its cultural implications? As in, one identifies their SSA, but does not identify with what is considered to be gay culture?
I read a very interesting essay about this and I've always wanted to know more. It put forth the idea that sexuality has become more of a statement of cultural values than it has a statement about sexual orientation. I'm highly intrigued by this.
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NoMoreLocusts
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It is interesting how reactions in today's society are so different. SSA has occurred for years between women - we can sit there and totally talk about how hot our friends are and nobody asks if we are trying not to be gay. But to hear a young man say he has SSA but does not consider himself homosexual is shocking to some. I am not sure how I feel about it. I guess when I hear a 20 year old talk about celibacy I don't it so seriously as if it were a 30 year old saying the same thing - but then in today's society I guess it is amazing to be celibate at 16 so maybe 20 really is a stretch.
Either way, I commend you for your ability to not act upon impulses, whatever your motivation the fact that you aren't doing anything is great. There are many who may find their lives better to follow your example. I hope you are able to remain celibate until if and when the Lord tells you it is no longer necessary by bringing you to the right person who you will spend the rest of your life with. I will be praying for you that you are able to understand more about the SSA and what that means in your life.
Either way, I commend you for your ability to not act upon impulses, whatever your motivation the fact that you aren't doing anything is great. There are many who may find their lives better to follow your example. I hope you are able to remain celibate until if and when the Lord tells you it is no longer necessary by bringing you to the right person who you will spend the rest of your life with. I will be praying for you that you are able to understand more about the SSA and what that means in your life.
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What's a celibate? does it mean you won't have sex until marriage or you won't even marry like Catholic priests?
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Insert your own snarky comment about the OPs tag line and his life style choice.
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I define it so that people don't think i'm dating, etc. with other men. It's an attraction, not a lifestyle or world view for me.
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It actually up in the air right now. As I explained to some people earlier in the thread there are some aspects that I can't see right now, I will not know until God tells me kind of thing. Short answer: I don't know.
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So you follow Jesus?
What did Jesus have to say about homosexuality that would make you feel that you must repress your desires for other men by forcing celibacy upon yourself?
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What is celibacy? Does remaning single and refraining from having any kind of intimacy counts as being it or should it be done for religious motives in order to be celibacy? And what would be the word used for people who remain single and avoid sex for reasons other than religious?
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So then, I count as a celibate too. I remain single and avoid sex, but for non-religious reasons.
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Hmmm, doesn't seem to work for me. As I understand it, it means having someone whom we agree to tell about our victories/failures and to encourage each other. Tried it, didn't work. Speaking about sex was too awkward to me.
Repression is a complete failure too. The more you resist lust, the more powerful it gets.
Accepting my feelings and releasing any need to judge them has been my most powerful weapon. Lust loses any power then and tends to drain away. This has been my experience.
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