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Ask a Celibate
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Why are you celibate? Is it hard to remain celibate? Are you planning on remaining celibate for the rest of your life?
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Interesting topic! Thanks for being willing to open up to us. I have a few questions.
1. Do you feel God called you to a life of celibacy, or was it a decision you made based on outside influences?
2. Do you feel your celibacy is a lifelong commitment, or is it temporary?
3. If it's a lifelong commitment, do you feel God has removed the desire for intimacy and romantic relationships from you? If not, how do you best cope with your feelings?
1. Do you feel God called you to a life of celibacy, or was it a decision you made based on outside influences?
2. Do you feel your celibacy is a lifelong commitment, or is it temporary?
3. If it's a lifelong commitment, do you feel God has removed the desire for intimacy and romantic relationships from you? If not, how do you best cope with your feelings?
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I am celibate for the Lord, to eliminate distractions.
It has not been very hard to remain so yet, when you don't go looking for trouble you don't find it. If you know what I mean.
I'm not closing the door to a possible relationship down the road, but it seems likely that it will be indefinite.
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But to clarify (I may just be dense today but I always feel its better to ask for clarification) if you could find a woman who shared your beliefs and who wanted a good, Christian marriage with you, would you definitely give up your celibacy for her?
What qualities must a potential mate have in order to bring you out of a life of celibacy and into a Christian marriage?
What sort of beliefs would you and your spouse hold regarding marriage, celibacy and sex? Would you promote celibacy to any potential children?
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1. I have no conformation, so at this point I will say that it is a personal leaning. It would be from inside influences of spirit and mind I suppose.
2. It could be either, I'm sure for now.
3. I still have many intimacy and romantic desires, I'm not asexual so this is a discipline. I have the feelings but I try to work through them, solve them, and such as a way of serving the Lord.
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I enjoy time to myself, money, and freedom. Yes.
I know that being married can offer these things too, but I enjoy life as much as the next guy.For new years I will be going with the youth group to someones house. Likely I will play poker, eat, and eat. (We're a Mennonite youth group, so there will be a TON of food.)
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That would be more asexual. I have and sometimes entertain sexual thoughts, but work to overcome them.
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Yes, I think I see were the problem lies here. You are looking externally to what the woman would be like that could "bring me out" or "save me" if you will. This is not the case. I'm a celibate because of me, and the Lord. If I am to come away from the life it will be because of me or the Lord, not someone else.
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Accountability is a good one, something that keeps you talking to people is always a great choice.
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No I'm not but I was trying to phrase it in a way that you would understand exactly what I am saying.
What are the qualities that you would look for in a wife? What qualities would a woman have in order for you to give up celibacy for a life with her. If that makes sense? You said you were open to getting married if you found the right woman, did you not? What would a woman have to have in order for you to give up a celibate life?
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I never meant to mention a "right woman" if I did I apologize. I'm not looking for a wife, no woman is going to make me give up my celibate lifestyle. Only I or the Lord can end it.
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Okay. But you understand when you write such things as
That is all.
people are going to be confused. So don't act surprised when we ask questions regarding it.
That is all.
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Oh, I see then. I only meant that things change, I didn't mean to suggest that it was a woman who would change me. I was fairly careful about that in the rest of my posts.
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I enjoy time to myself, money, and freedom. Yes.
For new years I will be going with the youth group to someones house. Likely I will play poker, eat, and eat. (We're a Mennonite youth group, so there will be a TON of food.)
Yes Freedom.
& cool
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Excellent! I'm loving all these Ask threads. It's awesome.
Did you ever experience physical intimacy before becoming celibate?
And if you ever see yourself ending it, is there a certain criteria involved for when this celibacy might be ended or is it just when/if it ever feels right?
Did you ever experience physical intimacy before becoming celibate?
And if you ever see yourself ending it, is there a certain criteria involved for when this celibacy might be ended or is it just when/if it ever feels right?
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