Arrrgh!!

[blackribbon]

I have a friend who keeps making choices to totally screw up his life. I just want to scream (which I just did) !!! However, it isn't my place to say ANYTHING and it is driving me nuts to watch him just keep digging himself deeper into a lonely hole.

Okay...now my rant is over and I'll go back to praying for him. The prayer is getting close to be "God, help him to quit being such a complete idiot"...but hopefully God understands what I really mean and will forgive me for my choice of words as I get more and more frustrated with him.

(I just needed a place to rant...so thanks for listening.)

The fear of being alone really can make people make some really stupid decisions under the "guise" of love. Unfortunately, they often are just the opposite. <sigh> and <sigh> again....

 

[dayhiker]

Covering my ears .. I don't want to hear it.

Wait, that didn't do any good. I was reading. lol

Rant on. I might ask a simple question, "Did that work out for you?"


OK< off to church!

 

[blackribbon]

It helps to get the frustrations out...otherwise, they just ferment on the insides and poison me. When I can match the emotions to real words...well, that kind of organizes them enough to release them. However, there is nobody around to listen to me rant anymore.

In my old life, I had asked my hubby to let me rant from time to time...he didn't need to solve my problems...and he didn't even really have to listen as long as he pretended to and hugged me at the end. I just needed to get the messy stuff out in a place where there was no judgement even when I was rude and catty....and this allowed me to respond honestly with love and fairness when confronted in real life.

 

[dayhiker]

That's great your husband loved you that way!

I always welcome rants, I think that's the least we can do for people here on CF. I've feeling good with my LR getting painted and so I thought I'd have a little fun with your rant. I was hoping it would bring a smile to you.

 

[blackribbon]

I did smile. Thanks.

After some prayer, it dawned on me that maybe I wasn't supposed to be quiet. I'd never walk by and leave a friend in physical trouble without reaching out a hand or offering up some support. So I did write a very carefully worded note to point out some general flaws in his thinking ... kind of like handing someone a map ... he has to find his own destination and journey but hopefully, I helped him get his bearings for the moment so he can step out in a better direction ... and I offered and continue to offer up a LOT of prayer for everyone involved.

I found more peace in this action...so hopefully, I was listening to the Holy Spirit this time and it was His words that I typed.

 

[dayhiker]

Sounds like what a good friend would do.

 

[singlewv2011]

I had a good friend tell me once that loneliness is the root of nearly every dysfunction. Its led me to make horrible decisions, so I can totally sympathize.