Arranged Marriages

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Arranged marriages work in a culture that expects them.

But they would be an incredibly bad fit in our culture of individualised consumerism. And where love is an irrational uncontrollable feeling, not a choice.

Agreed.


I feel like our society glorifies romantic love with the stereotypical "happily ever after" and finding "the one". Its all BS and I feel like it contributes to the divorce rate.

Love is a choice.

 

[SoldierOfTheKing]

Come to think of it, is there any custom regarding marriages that fits well with a culture of individualized consumerism?

 

[keith99]

Come to think of it, is there any custom regarding marriages that fits well with a culture of individualized consumerism?

Large expensive weddings?

 

[Cearbhall]

What good is it having someone with eth same knowledge?

Not much, in my opinion, but that's how those "courting" relationships work.

 

[Inkachu]

Agreed.


I feel like our society glorifies romantic love with the stereotypical "happily ever after" and finding "the one". Its all BS and I feel like it contributes to the divorce rate.

Love is a choice.

While this is true, you've still got plenty of cases of young people who are dedicated and committed to one marriage for life that isn't based on selfishness, yet still have a horrible or non-existent relationship with parents or family, who would be crazy to not choose a mate for themselves. I didn't have a great relationship with my family, and they would've picked someone for me that I couldn't tolerate (they tried to push me to marry more than once). I wasn't being selfish or living in a fantasy; I just knew who I was much better than they did. I picked my husband myself and completely believe in a selfless, serving, lifelong marriage.

Also, be careful of espousing "marital knowledge" in general, when you've never been married yourself

 

[Marc_HGW]

Hello dear Sisters and bros.
My name is Marc.
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[Mt 06, 10]
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