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I wonder if I am the only one on here that has had this extreme of a military experence, I sometimes feel like I am the only one posting the flip side of the coin. Maybe I look so good on paper that they failed to weed me out in recruiting while the other 90% of people like me never make it past the recruiter.
My son had several in his BCT Company who were discharged because of depression and/or failure to adapt, so you are not the only one where things did not work out. Just the only one on here maybe? My boy's recruiter also had recruits go to MEPS and for whatever reason was not allowed to enlist.

Maybe your BCT Company or Platoon was a group where the DS's had to be hard on the group which gave you a bitter taste. I am just thinking of possible scenarios here.

I am wondering, though, if there was anything positive you got out of the experience?
 
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My son had several in his BCT Company who were discharged because of depression and/or failure to adapt, so you are not the only one where things did not work out. Just the only one on here maybe? My boy's recruiter also had recruits go to MEPS and for whatever reason was not allowed to enlist.

Maybe your BCT Company or Platoon was a group where the DS's had to be hard on the group which gave you a bitter taste. I am just thinking of possible scenarios here.

I am wondering, though, if there was anything positive you got out of the experience?
The one positive thing was I brought one person to Christ. As far as basic training itself I do not feel I got anything positive out of it
 
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just like life, if you don't put anything into it, you're not going to get anything out of it
"Far and away one of the greatest gifts life has to offer is the chance to work hard at WORK WORTH DOING"
Teddy Rossevelt

The fact of the matter is, in the military I dont get to determine what is worth doing and what it not, in the civilian world I have all the choise, if I dont like one job I can just go to another and I dont have to worry about being forced to pull extra duty without OT pay while im working one job and looking for another.
 
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"Far and away one of the greatest gifts life has to offer is the chance to work hard at WORK WORTH DOING"
Teddy Rossevelt

The fact of the matter is, in the military I dont get to determine what is worth doing and what it not, in the civilian world I have all the choise, if I dont like one job I can just go to another and I dont have to worry about being forced to pull extra duty without OT pay while im working one job and looking for another.
"War is an ugly thing, but not the ugliest of things. The decayed and degraded state of moral and patriotic feeling which thinks that nothing is worth war is much worse. The person who has nothing for which he is willing to fight, nothing which is more important than his own personal safety, is a miserable creature and has no chance of being free unless made and kept so by the exertions of better men than himself." - John Stuart Mill

"Whenever you are asked if you can do a job, tell 'em, 'Certainly I can!' Then get busy and find out how to do it." - Teddy Roosevelt

"Do what you can, with what you have, where you are." - Teddy Roosevelt

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat." - Teddy Roosevelt

I'm glad you asked to be discharged. If you don't want to be there, I don't want you there.

We can go back and forth with quotes from various people all day. The point is, you couldn't hack it and asked to get out. The National Guard was too tough on you. Good luck with quitting jobs and getting rehired with other jobs. Others don't feel the same way as you.

Also, you're right. There is no OT pay. However, if you're active military, you don't pay for rent, utilities, food, medical care, or dental care. You get paid every 2 weeks. The only bills you pay are the bills you bring in. If you choose to go Reserves or NG, then your college is paid for. Who needs OT pay?
 
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Even in civilian life, work becomes tedious and one wonders whether it is "worth doing." Also, if one frequently changes job, employers wonder why and if this person is worth the risk due to their past employment history.

The grass is always greener . . .
 
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"War is an ugly thing, but not the ugliest of things. The decayed and degraded state of moral and patriotic feeling which thinks that nothing is worth war is much worse. The person who has nothing for which he is willing to fight, nothing which is more important than his own personal safety, is a miserable creature and has no chance of being free unless made and kept so by the exertions of better men than himself." - John Stuart Mill

"Whenever you are asked if you can do a job, tell 'em, 'Certainly I can!' Then get busy and find out how to do it." - Teddy Roosevelt

"Do what you can, with what you have, where you are." - Teddy Roosevelt

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat." - Teddy Roosevelt

I'm glad you asked to be discharged. If you don't want to be there, I don't want you there.

We can go back and forth with quotes from various people all day. The point is, you couldn't hack it and asked to get out. The National Guard was too tough on you. Good luck with quitting jobs and getting rehired with other jobs. Others don't feel the same way as you.

Also, you're right. There is no OT pay. However, if you're active military, you don't pay for rent, utilities, food, medical care, or dental care. You get paid every 2 weeks. The only bills you pay are the bills you bring in. If you choose to go Reserves or NG, then your college is paid for. Who needs OT pay?
I dont deny that job hoping is a bad idea, my first job I was at for 2 months and while I was at that job I was called on my cell phone by another employer and I have been at my currant job for almost 3 years and test for my PE licence next october in chemical engineering to me that is work worth doing. I dont have all my bills payed for me but I get a choise of where I live and how nice my place is and I get a choise of how good the food I eat is. The military always talks about your bills being payed but they fail to mention the quality of your housing or the food, its not bad but I can certinly do much better in the civilian world. Just working my 40 hours I can cover all of my bills as well and still have disposable income and live and eat way better than if I were in the military and if I work OT I get even more money and can get much more (the NG pay was so meager for 2 days "work" that I had it spent just putting gas in the truck to get to base and buying so groceries, I looked at the pay charts for O1 - O3 and I could not even make my sports car payment let alone my condo and student loans. I live for tedious problems and comming up with solutions, what I hate is all the time the military wastes doing menial tasks or trying to look busy to avoid menial tasks (maybe this is not the case with all units or stations). Also 24 month deployments do not improve your quality of life very much either.

Also what exactly is it that we are fighting for in the middle east, I never stated I was not willing to fight for what I believe in, if we were fighting for OUR constitution we would be fighting in a manner that did not require our troops to be on 12-24 month deployments multipule times thats just my opinion. The problem is once your in people arnt talking about college money and housing and interesting mission problems they are talking hard about your a** is going to the "sand box" all the focus is on how you are a piece of government meat, the positive aspects of the military get lost amogst the military culture.

I think it would be a great measuring stick to have people sign on the dotted line about 4 weeks into basic training and see how many people you retain, the problem is you dont get a correct view of the miltiary from the recruiters cush office with a coffee pot and nice chairs, unless you are in a unique position to know what goes on (like you live near a BCT base and can check it out for yourself, if they will even let you, becuase the real abuse is not in the "training" but what goes on at the barracks during "down time" when they lock down the barracks and put the screws to you), we had to stand against the wall nose and toes for 1-2 hours and then get smoked in the pit because our drill was having a bad day how is that honorable, I probably should have blew the whistle but you can never tell what is alowable and what is not because they are allowed to get away with so much its hard to tell when they cross the line that is just my opinion, plus there is so much burocrocy that I did not want to be there any longer than I had to because I was not going home to my wife and condo in my sports car after filing a report and talking with JAG.

It all really boils down to overall life quality, not whether your bills are paid for you or if you get a 1/4 ride GI bill (after rising costs of tuition and expenses for a good college the GI bill will cover about 1/4 to 1/2), also your ability to deal with life issues is dramaticly reduced (like pay issues, court issues, bills, child custody, whatever), theoreticly there are laws to prevent that but in real life you could come home to a forclosed house and your spouce has divorced you and took your kid (people have a hard time being married to someone who does not exist and you cant blame them), about half of the people I was around that had been deployed in the guard had gotten a divorce or never married in the first place, what a life to live, but hey your bills are paid. And by the time you are done picking up the pieces and excersizing your legal rights as a soldier you could be going back to iraq again.

Are you catching my drift, its all about the over all quality of life, you may get a cush station but you are rolling the dice, in the civilian world I can much better control my direction in life, these are the things people need to realize. The military oversimplifies these issues and they need to be more forthcomming with the reality of all these situations. Right now the government should be drafting but they dont have the back bone and that should not be our soldiers fault, no soldier should have to spend more than a year of total accumulated time deployed in there 8 year contract (unless they voluntarily re-up after there first 4), I believe the 4 years inactive reserves should only be for an all out catastrophy on our own soil (and im not talking about an isolated terror attack like 9-11 im talking about a full blown full frontal war with enemy tanks, fighter planes, full blown naval warfare and so forth, the government is using emergency military resources for non emergency tasks, the threats to the US in the middle east were squlched in about 6 months now we are engaged in an optional liberation expanding emergency resources).

Its important for people to know this because I was all gung ho to join to be a pilot and support my state etc etc do the one weekend flying and have a normal life and I was thrust into a whole new world I did not like and was nothing like what I thought it would be, now I am learning the truth behind the front that the miltiary puts on to entice people to join. When I was in I felt like I needed to defend myself against the very people I would be serving with more so than the "enemy" but you cant deck them or shoot them you just have to tolerate the punishment how is that fighting for what you believe in, if someone did the stuff like some of the DI's and NCO's did to me they would be asked politly to leave my house once and then be asked to leave with a gun pointed at them, that usually diffuses a situation quickly especially if they know you have a right to use it without fear of reprisal but thoes options are not avalible to you in the military.
 
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Well, first off, let me say this. You were in the NG, right? So, your drills were once a weekend. Why couldn't you get the job you desired during the rest of the month?

As far as the housing available on post, how would you know if you never lived in it? It's easy to talk about a Ford truck when you own one. But, if you own a Chevy truck, what experience do you have with a Ford?

I can not confirm nor discredit your time in the NG because I've never had any of the experiences you claim to have had. The Soldiers I have had the honor to serve with throughout my 13 year tenure have never experienced the things you claim.

You're right about civilian life. If you don't like a job, you can quit. You can quit anytime you want. It's not like that with the military. You have a contractual agreement.

As far as the Montgomery GI Bill is concerned, I have not touched mine. Like I said, I've been serving Active Duty for 13 years. In those 13 years I've obtained 2 degrees. My Associated Degree in Electronics Engineering and my Bachelor's Degree in Business Management. ALL PAID FOR BY THE U.S. ARMY. There are no student loans for me to repay because of 100% Tuition Assistance. Currently, I'm working on my Associates Degree in Criminal Justice. I'm taking the classes mostly because I'm intrigued by the criminal justice system and because I'm bored. I love education. If the Army is paying for it, I'm going to take advantage of it. So, to respond to your post about the MGIB paying only a quarter of education costs, I can't confirm that. My 2, soon to be 3 degrees say otherwise.

Do you perform menial tasks in the military? Absolutely. Would you rather your tax dollars being spent on a Landscaping Company when there are Soldiers available to mow grass and pick up trash? Would you pay a company to come by once a week and mow your yard and pick up trash out of your yard, or would you get up and do it yourself?

As far as dealing with life's issues, how is it dramatically reduced? There are units on post to help deal with pay issues, court issues, bills, child custody, whatever else you feel is an issue.

As far as housing is concerned, talk to my wife. Don't take my word on it. She's never had a complaint. If you come home to a foreclosed house, it's because YOU weren't making the payments. YOU didn't make the necessary arrangements to ensure YOUR house and the financial aspects were taken care of prior to deployment. That's YOUR fault because of your negligence.

A deployment will not make or break a marriage. If the marriage is strong, the marriage will continue to be strong during the deployment. If the family doesn't have Christ as their foundation, a divided house will crumble. Don't assume a deployment will ruin a marriage. Once again, someone who doesn't know.

Anyway, this is getting way off subject.

I think you have a lot of research to do. Your experience in the military is found lacking.

Good luck to you and your endeavors. Your comments and posts don't hold any water because of your lack of experience. Sorry, but it's true.
 
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I am curious, why did you enlist in the Guard? What were you expecting? Did you not know how the military functions?

Also, my son is very happy with his barracks room. Not much different than many dorm room suites that he has been in. He has seen many. If he does not want to eat in the DFAC, he doesn't.

We get it, you did not appreciate anything about your time with the Guard. You want people to be aware that things may not be as they expect. You have done that here.

As Christians, we know that our happiness is not dependent on what we do, but what Christ has done. That He gives us contentment even in things we don't want to be content about. We also know that we are not in control of our lives, even when we think we are. There have been many things in my life that I did not like or want, but God used them to teach me more about Him and that I need to depend on Him for all things. I pray that you can find peace, the kind of peace that only God can give.
 
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Well, first off, let me say this. You were in the NG, right? So, your drills were once a weekend. Why couldn't you get the job you desired during the rest of the month?

As far as the housing available on post, how would you know if you never lived in it? It's easy to talk about a Ford truck when you own one. But, if you own a Chevy truck, what experience do you have with a Ford?

I can not confirm nor discredit your time in the NG because I've never had any of the experiences you claim to have had. The Soldiers I have had the honor to serve with throughout my 13 year tenure have never experienced the things you claim.

You're right about civilian life. If you don't like a job, you can quit. You can quit anytime you want. It's not like that with the military. You have a contractual agreement.

As far as the Montgomery GI Bill is concerned, I have not touched mine. Like I said, I've been serving Active Duty for 13 years. In those 13 years I've obtained 2 degrees. My Associated Degree in Electronics Engineering and my Bachelor's Degree in Business Management. ALL PAID FOR BY THE U.S. ARMY. There are no student loans for me to repay because of 100% Tuition Assistance. Currently, I'm working on my Associates Degree in Criminal Justice. I'm taking the classes mostly because I'm intrigued by the criminal justice system and because I'm bored. I love education. If the Army is paying for it, I'm going to take advantage of it. So, to respond to your post about the MGIB paying only a quarter of education costs, I can't confirm that. My 2, soon to be 3 degrees say otherwise.

Do you perform menial tasks in the military? Absolutely. Would you rather your tax dollars being spent on a Landscaping Company when there are Soldiers available to mow grass and pick up trash? Would you pay a company to come by once a week and mow your yard and pick up trash out of your yard, or would you get up and do it yourself?

As far as dealing with life's issues, how is it dramatically reduced? There are units on post to help deal with pay issues, court issues, bills, child custody, whatever else you feel is an issue.

As far as housing is concerned, talk to my wife. Don't take my word on it. She's never had a complaint. If you come home to a foreclosed house, it's because YOU weren't making the payments. YOU didn't make the necessary arrangements to ensure YOUR house and the financial aspects were taken care of prior to deployment. That's YOUR fault because of your negligence.

A deployment will not make or break a marriage. If the marriage is strong, the marriage will continue to be strong during the deployment. If the family doesn't have Christ as their foundation, a divided house will crumble. Don't assume a deployment will ruin a marriage. Once again, someone who doesn't know.

Anyway, this is getting way off subject.

I think you have a lot of research to do. Your experience in the military is found lacking.

Good luck to you and your endeavors. Your comments and posts don't hold any water because of your lack of experience. Sorry, but it's true.
If I am the one off then that is good, and im glad many others had a good experence or are having good experences. Regardless of what preparations you make before a deployment, deployments would not be fun and not improve your quality of life and the length and frequency of deployments is even more of a detriment to quality of life.

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I have a casual attitude sit back drink a beer chill out grill some burgers its all good I dont do well in artifically created ongoing high stress, I can contain a situation if need be but dont see the reason to always be high strung.

I do agree with your core points the problem is the military can make things excessive, just make sure you arent candy coating things and tell people the good bad and the ugly.
 
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I am curious, why did you enlist in the Guard? What were you expecting? Did you not know how the military functions?

Also, my son is very happy with his barracks room. Not much different than many dorm room suites that he has been in. He has seen many. If he does not want to eat in the DFAC, he doesn't.

We get it, you did not appreciate anything about your time with the Guard. You want people to be aware that things may not be as they expect. You have done that here.

As Christians, we know that our happiness is not dependent on what we do, but what Christ has done. That He gives us contentment even in things we don't want to be content about. We also know that we are not in control of our lives, even when we think we are. There have been many things in my life that I did not like or want, but God used them to teach me more about Him and that I need to depend on Him for all things. I pray that you can find peace, the kind of peace that only God can give.

Edit, to the OP, have fun in the military.
 
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so basically it wasn't that you couldn't cut the mustard...
it came down to time to do your job and you cut and run instead...

If you weren't prepared to be deployed, you should have NEVER signed and taken an oath. You gave your word...and then broke it...

No honor and no different than a draft doger
 
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so basically it wasn't that you couldn't cut the mustard...
it came down to time to do your job and you cut and run instead...

If you weren't prepared to be deployed, you should have NEVER signed and taken an oath. You gave your word...and then broke it...

No honor and no different than a draft doger

Edit, I do not consider myself dishonorable as I recieved an honorable discharge with an RE-3. I also do not consider draft dodgers dishonorable because they never signed anything or swore any oaths.
 
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There's *always* a code on the RE-3!
There is a reason code of PE, but I have not been able to find out what that means and its not on the same document that states my discharge type and RE code. BTW Gwen, why is a draft dodger dishonorable, they never signed any dotted line or commited to anything so how is there honor tainted?
 
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