i just read through this whole post which is crazy long and i'm not calvinist but as far as the whole free will predestination thing. i'm guessing when you say arminians you are talking about christians that are not calvinist and believe in free will. personally i think you are misquoting or not understanding the beliefs of us free will christians it's not salvation by works and we aren't taking credit if you ask most people they will usually give credit to the Holy Spirit and then say the accepted it. i also found it quite insulting how people said that those of us who are not calvinists might or will get to heaven but that's in spite of our believes because our beliefs are all wrong. i have never heard a group of christians go and say if you aren't this denomination you are totally wrong. that is so rude. everyone gets different things out of the Bible and interrprets it differently and to say you are right and everyone else is wrong is very hurtful and i personally don't think it's very christian like. it's not your place to say who is right and who is wrong with their beliefs and if you try don't be surprised if someone tells you or someone close to you a young child that their calvinists beliefs are totally wrong. sorry but that really hurts i thought it was God's job to help us understand the Bible and make the descision of who's a christian and who's not. sorry but i've had bad experiences with calvinists before still not over at it at all and thought that maybe the people on here would be nicer when it comes to beliefs. well i'm done with my rant take from it what you will.
First, just let me say that I agree with you that some that call themselves Calvinists are very mean and hurtful. I have been on the receiving end of that type of person too.
But not all people who believe in the "doctrines of Grace" which is what Calvin believed, are mean, and in fact, those truly touched by God's grace are at first at least, greatly humbled by it, and thus avoid being arrogant about what God has shown them.
But, just like Paul, Calvinists are still people with an old nature and they sometimes forget that they are saved by grace alone and get arrogant about what they know. I'm sorry if you have had a bad experience with Calvinist folks and I ask your forgiveness for them.
Second, since you name the name of Christ, I know that you must believe that scripture is what it claims to be, and that is that it is God's Word, it is Pure Truth, all of it, not just parts of it, and because God spoke it and it is Truth, it all makes sense, because God tells us in His Word that "He is a God of order and not confusion". Therefore when something we find in God's Word doesn't make sense to us, it's because we don't see it correctly yet, we don't really understand it. God's Word is spoken by Him through the apostles and prophets, and thus can never be wrong or contradict itself.
Sometimes it may seem to, but that is all it does, it just SEEMS, on first impression to our limited minds, to contradict itself, but it can't. When we really look at it hard and seek to understand it, instead of automatically trying to explain it away, asking the Holy Spirit to show us what it means, and if we really mean it when we ask, then He will do so, and all of a sudden sometimes we see and understand what we never saw before. This has happened to me many times.
Third, what I would respectfully ask you to do is to carefully read the following verses and then try to explain to yourself what they really mean, what God is trying to say to you and to me by telling Paul to write them. If you do this, seeking the Spirit's guidance I think it will clear up, or start to clear up, what real calvinists are trying to say. Heres the verses, which are from Romans chapter 9:
9:10 And not only this; but when Rebecca also had conceived by one, even by our father Isaac;
9:11 (For the children being not yet born, neither having done any good or evil, that the purpose of God according to election might stand, not of works, but of him that calleth
9:12 It was said unto her, The elder shall serve the younger.
9:13 As it is written, Jacob have I loved, but Essau have I hated.
At this point I would ask you to think about why did God hate Essau when as we are told in this verse he hadn't done anything and wasn't even born yet?
This is why Paul asks the question about God being unrighteous in the next verse, because to us spiritually blind humans, at first God SEEMS, to be unrighteous for hating someone that wasn't even born yet. But Paul tells us "God forbid" that we should even think this. Please read on and think about what else God is saying through Paul to us about this whole matter.
9:14 What shall we say then? Is there unrighteousness with God? God forbid.
9:15 For he saith to Moses, I will have mercy on whom I will have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I will have compassion.
9:16 So then it is not of him that willeth, nor of him that runneth, but of God that sheweth mercy.
9:17 For the scripture saith unto Pharaoh, Even for this same purpose have I raised thee up, that I might shew my power in thee, and that my name might be declared throughout all the earth.
9:18 Therefore hath he mercy on whom he will have mercy, and whom he will he hardeneth.
9:19 Thou wilt say then unto me, Why doth he yet find fault? For who hath resisted his will?
At this point Paul again says what pops into the mind of most people before they really understand this whole thing, and that is, "How could God find fault?" How could a loving God hate Essau who hadn't done anything, and how could he "raise up" Pharaoh just for the purpose of "hardening" his heart against God, and then killing him in the Red Sea before before he had a chance to repent? How could God do all those things?
But notice how Paul answers that question. Paul says it isn't even proper for us to ask the questions, and he calls doing so, "replying against God". Paul says that God, being God, can make men for whatever purpose He wants and we have no right to question Him for doing so. Read the rest of the verse now and see for yourself if this is not what God is saying through Paul.
9:20 Nay but, O man, who art thou that repliest against God? Shall the thing formed say to him that formed it, Why hast thou made me thus?
You see, the right question is not the ones asked above which all fallen men ask, because secretly, deep in their own "deceitful and desperately wicked hearts" where they don't even recognize it, they think God is unfair for creating Essau and Pharoh the way he did with an old nature and prone to sin.
But when they do this what they are actually doing is accusing God of being unjust. What they are actually saying is that God owes them grace, He owes them salvation, because they were born with an old nature thus are prone to sin. But grace is not grace if it is owed to someone, rather it is a repayment for a wrong done to them, it is the payment of a debt. But God doesn't owe salvation to anyone.
When they say that what they are really saying is that if they had been in Adam and Eve's shoes, they wouldn't have made the mistake that their original parents made. Thus they flatter themselves that they are better than Adam and Eve who were sinless and perfect from the hand of God. Thus, they call God a liar. True, they may not have thought all this through carefully yet, but the truth is this is what people actually believe until the Spirit shines a light on verses like this one, and they finally "see light, in God's light".
But the Bible says that God is God and He can do anything He wills to do as long as it is consistent with his love and justice. And Essau and Pharaoh, not only would have sinned in the Garden just like Adam and Eve, but they have "spit in God's face" many times since, Essau "selling his birthright for some stew" and Pharaoh ignoring God's many miracles to try and get him to change his mind.
I hope that helps explain this whole matter a little better for you, as it did for me when I read these verses and really thought about them and prayed for understanding into what they meant.
Much Christian love to you,
in Him,
jer3119