Quick story for you guys.
I was walking home from church a few months ago and noticed two people (we will call R and D) behind me. I got to the door, R initiated a conversation before I opened it, and we were introduced. It turns out that D lives a few doors down on the same street. Both are choir members and have known each other for half a year. R is 17, funny, smart, has a great voice (I'm a baritone/tenor but i'm not in the choir, she's a soprano) and I think I like her.
There could be a few glitches though. First off, she's "not religious". The reason she goes to church is: 1/ her grandmother, who she lives with drags her along 2/ she enjoys the choir. Second, she's a little bit lassaiz-faire about relationships (she's had 6 partners). My guess is if she wants to go out she might want more out of the relationship and quicker. It's also complicated by the fact that we both go to the same church and I know I've been noticed, so I'm being watched, although her grandmother likes me and wants us to go out but I don't know if she knows what her grandaughter gets up to..
The annoying thing is I'm getting what I think are mixed messages. When R and I (I as in me) were walking around town a month ago she mentioned her gran wants us to go out then semi-dismissed her gran's idea, which could be a bad sign. She also mentions she fancies a bunch of guys. I'm not sure if that's a challenge (like a girly "oh look i like some guys you had better make your mind up") or a message not to try anything.
On the other hand, after the morning palm sunday service we spent most of sunday between 11am and 5pm together. Walked around town, then went back to church mid-afternoon and messed about there talking in the hall, basically alone, for an hour (the choir had a performance at 6pm). We had a ball, at least she laughs at my jokes. She was also quite flirty, but maybe she does that with everyone when they are alone..
I have an "interesting" quirk in that I tend to mess up my friendships with women by either being a total idiot (one of my many major flaws is that talking too much is my defence mechanism) and saying something totally inappropriate or by acting as a kind, nerdy older-brother type (I have 4 sisters, all younger, dad left, no other guy in the house, just me) rather than prospective boyfriend material (and, having been to a boy's school, I have no idea how to act around non-related women). I'm kinda worried about how I act as well. A few of my sisters, female friends and my mum think i'm gay (I'm not) 'cos of the way I act (brotherly around women, english-public-schoolboy chummy around guys) and the fact they have never seen a girlfriend of mine. If R thinks that then basically that's the end of any hope of anything more than a friendship.
Help!!....
I was walking home from church a few months ago and noticed two people (we will call R and D) behind me. I got to the door, R initiated a conversation before I opened it, and we were introduced. It turns out that D lives a few doors down on the same street. Both are choir members and have known each other for half a year. R is 17, funny, smart, has a great voice (I'm a baritone/tenor but i'm not in the choir, she's a soprano) and I think I like her.
There could be a few glitches though. First off, she's "not religious". The reason she goes to church is: 1/ her grandmother, who she lives with drags her along 2/ she enjoys the choir. Second, she's a little bit lassaiz-faire about relationships (she's had 6 partners). My guess is if she wants to go out she might want more out of the relationship and quicker. It's also complicated by the fact that we both go to the same church and I know I've been noticed, so I'm being watched, although her grandmother likes me and wants us to go out but I don't know if she knows what her grandaughter gets up to..
The annoying thing is I'm getting what I think are mixed messages. When R and I (I as in me) were walking around town a month ago she mentioned her gran wants us to go out then semi-dismissed her gran's idea, which could be a bad sign. She also mentions she fancies a bunch of guys. I'm not sure if that's a challenge (like a girly "oh look i like some guys you had better make your mind up") or a message not to try anything.
On the other hand, after the morning palm sunday service we spent most of sunday between 11am and 5pm together. Walked around town, then went back to church mid-afternoon and messed about there talking in the hall, basically alone, for an hour (the choir had a performance at 6pm). We had a ball, at least she laughs at my jokes. She was also quite flirty, but maybe she does that with everyone when they are alone..
I have an "interesting" quirk in that I tend to mess up my friendships with women by either being a total idiot (one of my many major flaws is that talking too much is my defence mechanism) and saying something totally inappropriate or by acting as a kind, nerdy older-brother type (I have 4 sisters, all younger, dad left, no other guy in the house, just me) rather than prospective boyfriend material (and, having been to a boy's school, I have no idea how to act around non-related women). I'm kinda worried about how I act as well. A few of my sisters, female friends and my mum think i'm gay (I'm not) 'cos of the way I act (brotherly around women, english-public-schoolboy chummy around guys) and the fact they have never seen a girlfriend of mine. If R thinks that then basically that's the end of any hope of anything more than a friendship.
Help!!....
In dating this girl, God could show you how commited you are to God and his laws. 
