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I dont want to be a doormat to anyone but are there any man or woman that stays in their marriage no matter what?
I believe I am one of those people. My husband has hurt me in so many ways through unfaithfulness, neglect, physical abuse and playing mind games, just messing my head up.
Can a marriage work if you believe it can. Does God really want a marriage to work no matter what.
I find it difficult to be intimate with my husband because of his behaviour and how he has treated me over the past 8 years of marriage.
He has contacted so many women at the beginning of our marriage and for 2 years after. Im not sure how many women he has met or even slept with. He beat me for 4 years of our marriage but doesnt anymore. He never takes me out but he goes out with friends from work and rugby.
I just feel absolutely worthless. I dont understand why Im with him to be honest.
I do love him but when we are intimate I cant touch him. I dont know why and i cant explain the reason why to him. He says that he wants me to touch him and kiss him but I always shy away from him. Is it because of what he has done to me? Would you find it difficult? We have sex every 3 weeks or so and I only enjoy it because of the frequency. He cant understand why I wont kiss him or touch him and so he said that he doesnt want to have sex with me again. Im not too bothered if he doesnt really but I still love him. What is it thats holding me back, is it fear he may hurt me again?
He says I have a problem and that I should forgive him for his wrongdoing. He said love should allow everything into the marriage, meaning if he does something wrong then the love we have should overcome that but it shouldnt give him a licence to do whatever he wants because he thinks because I love him then I should forgive him. He says I am jealous because he checks out other women when we go shopping on rare occasions and I tell him not to do it when I am with him. Its just embaressing on my part and it hurts.
I believe in marriage so much. I dispise men or women who destroy their own marriage because they cant keep their hands to themselves and this pain hurts other people in the family such as the children. I am strongly against it and it makes me very unhappy. As far as I am concerned he has destroyed our marriage yet I stand by him and because he knows I stand by him he turns the other cheek and carrys on with his life. I feel so neglected. I am so fearful of him hurting me again and thats why I think I cant be intimate with him.
I stay with him because marriage is so important to God. Do I just live this way and try and make the most of it even if the pain is unbearable?
If my marriages works then everything else will work. If he made space for me in his life then again things may change. I may want him in the bedroom if he shows an interest in me.
Do you know of anyone that has stayed in a marriage through thick and thin?
Many Thanks guys.
I believe I am one of those people. My husband has hurt me in so many ways through unfaithfulness, neglect, physical abuse and playing mind games, just messing my head up.
Can a marriage work if you believe it can. Does God really want a marriage to work no matter what.
I find it difficult to be intimate with my husband because of his behaviour and how he has treated me over the past 8 years of marriage.
He has contacted so many women at the beginning of our marriage and for 2 years after. Im not sure how many women he has met or even slept with. He beat me for 4 years of our marriage but doesnt anymore. He never takes me out but he goes out with friends from work and rugby.
I just feel absolutely worthless. I dont understand why Im with him to be honest.
I do love him but when we are intimate I cant touch him. I dont know why and i cant explain the reason why to him. He says that he wants me to touch him and kiss him but I always shy away from him. Is it because of what he has done to me? Would you find it difficult? We have sex every 3 weeks or so and I only enjoy it because of the frequency. He cant understand why I wont kiss him or touch him and so he said that he doesnt want to have sex with me again. Im not too bothered if he doesnt really but I still love him. What is it thats holding me back, is it fear he may hurt me again?
He says I have a problem and that I should forgive him for his wrongdoing. He said love should allow everything into the marriage, meaning if he does something wrong then the love we have should overcome that but it shouldnt give him a licence to do whatever he wants because he thinks because I love him then I should forgive him. He says I am jealous because he checks out other women when we go shopping on rare occasions and I tell him not to do it when I am with him. Its just embaressing on my part and it hurts.
I believe in marriage so much. I dispise men or women who destroy their own marriage because they cant keep their hands to themselves and this pain hurts other people in the family such as the children. I am strongly against it and it makes me very unhappy. As far as I am concerned he has destroyed our marriage yet I stand by him and because he knows I stand by him he turns the other cheek and carrys on with his life. I feel so neglected. I am so fearful of him hurting me again and thats why I think I cant be intimate with him.
I stay with him because marriage is so important to God. Do I just live this way and try and make the most of it even if the pain is unbearable?
If my marriages works then everything else will work. If he made space for me in his life then again things may change. I may want him in the bedroom if he shows an interest in me.
Do you know of anyone that has stayed in a marriage through thick and thin?
Many Thanks guys.