are there any more virgins left?

mooduck1 · Mar 5, 2007

jonpantomime said:
a question to everyone who in their 20s and regardless of gender, are there anymore virgins, or should i put in christian girls in the church?

seems that most girls in churches are already taken or are not ready, so where do men look to?

furthermore, is it true that majority of girls regardless of religion have already lost their virginity by the age of 24 or even younger?

whats the percentage?

Virgins are hard to come by for 2 reasons :
a: the average girl looses her virginity by 15.6 yrs old boys 15.8
b. as one who was a virgin until i was just Recently married, I can tell you that only in Christian evenagelical cricles was that in any way known of me. If i'd have told that to my Catholic aquiantances or Lutheran ones they'd lookat me like i was insane (some did, very sad )! As such I didn't publicize my business (or lack of it ) to the world.

I suppose a more important question, is-Are there people out there who are ready to RECOMMIT themselves to the lord, become virgins in his eyes again, and become pure, who you'd accept as a potential mate even if they were not scientifically a virgin? That was the case with my wife, who went through a rebellious stage that lasted into her 20's. I have no regrets, and even if I wasn't her technical 'first', becasue of the blood of the lamb, I have become her 'spiritual first'.
is that helpful?

Piedpiper123 · Mar 5, 2007

I'm hesitent in writing this as I realise that traditionally the church values virginity until the marriage bed. But, there is a problem with marrying a virgin and that is that the sex life in a marriage can turn out to be an absolute disaster. This IS important as sex is a very important part of marriage. I realise that there are pros and cons both ways.

Breetai · Mar 5, 2007

mooduck1 said:
If i'd have told that to my Catholic aquiantances or Lutheran ones they'd lookat me like i was insane (some did, very sad )!

Why!?!?! Catholics and Lutheran hold to waiting until marriage, just as any. You should look at your unchaste Lutheran and Catholic friends as being even more insane!

BigNorsk · Mar 5, 2007

I would say this, yes, the majority probably are not virgins. However, if at your age, you don't know any virgins, that probably is a reflection that you are looking in the wrong places and for the wrong type of person.

I would suggest some self-examination is in order for what is attracting you to women and how you are or aren't finding what you really want. Obviously you are doing something wrong.

You aren't trying to find the majority of women, really you are looking for one. So maybe a change away from quantity to quality is in order.

I would also say it is a two way street. Evidently, you are at least somewhat unattractive to the type of woman you are seeking. What would it be about the way you appear that chaste women would not find attractive? Maybe you can honestly say nothing, but I would hope you would know a young woman or two that you could ask, maybe a sister, or some friend.

Marv

IamAdopted · Mar 5, 2007

light_eclipseca said:
I don't know, IamAdopted...I'm not trying to second guess your family's integrity or anything, but I think a lot of people are a little naive about who is and isn't a virgin. I would second guess what you say only because I myself had great godly parents and I never told them when I lost mine. They thought I was pure, that I had never had sex, when in fact I had. It's easy to fool folks. And that was my parents who I lived with during those years that I was doing that. They probably knew me better than anyone, but they had no clue.

Also, there are many who truly love God and seek and desire to follow Him but have given in in a moment of weakness and have sinned by having sex outside of marriage. So even those who are devoted to Him, as nice as they are, are very capable of fornication.

I think that the standard looks too high to some and they give in thinking "no one expects me to be perfect" when really it is true that no one does expect that, but there is the idea that if you remain pure, that you are perfect. It isn't so. This might be a reason why some give in early, it was one of my reasons. Of course, I am a guy.

PS - my back hurts. Please pray that I get better soon. It's been like this for about 3-4 days now.

Also, I don't believe that a woman's worth is diminished even if she has made some mistakes in the past. I wouldn't be too worried about her past, as long as she is devoted to Christ now and is now committed to live pure.

This may be true for youself..I know of many young ladies that have their heart set on the Lord. Not being stained by the worlds sins.. Going off to missions. Not even looking at boys or men. This is not their goal at all. I cannot say all young ladies are this way..But I can say there are those whom are virgins seeking to Glorify God in their lives. Same with the young men.. Seeking to become Pastors or lay leaders.. Seeking only the kingdom of God to flourish.. I am praying for your back.. Praying that the Lord will touch and heal you. Make sure it is not a bladder infection for this will attack your lower back...

Uphill Battle · Mar 5, 2007

Markec said:
NO.
Hehe, seriously, I think they are really rare. Pastor's doughters and some Jehovah Witnesses... Maybe some other girls out there (ugly, asocial...).
That's sad... But if you are a virgin you are not popular and "worth less than others" in today society. And who's guilty? Pop culture, I'd say.

My 31 year old, absolutely Gorgeous, social fiancee has maintained her purity for marriage.

Be careful, your statement, although not intending to, I'm sure, insults our sisters in Christ who maintain purity for that reason alone, not because they are ugly! (and in fact, are more beautiful for it.)

Markec · Mar 5, 2007

Be careful, your statement, although not intending to, I'm sure, insults our sisters in Christ who maintain purity for that reason alone, not because they are ugly! (and in fact, are more beautiful for it.)

Well, that was not seriously meant.. Sisters, take that as a joke to emphasise how rare those girls really are I believe in some circles/churches persons who are determined to stay virgins are not rare - in fact they are in majority. But the whole picture is not that brigt...

Oh and about "ugly girls" - there is no such thing

KarrieTex · Mar 5, 2007

Markec said:
NO.
Hehe, seriously, I think they are really rare. Pastor's doughters and some Jehovah Witnesses... Maybe some other girls out there (ugly, asocial...).
That's sad... But if you are a virgin you are not popular and "worth less than others" in today society. And who's guilty? Pop culture, I'd say.

SIGH....and is this where I ask if there are any men out there or little boys with answers as yours?

To answer the OP question, I would say yes there are virgins out there. I for one have maintained and am maintaining my virginity until I get married. However, the precentage is very high of those who have not waited.

KarrieTex · Mar 5, 2007

Markec said:
NO.
Hehe, seriously, I think they are really rare. Pastor's doughters and some Jehovah Witnesses... Maybe some other girls out there (ugly, asocial...).
That's sad... But if you are a virgin you are not popular and "worth less than others" in today society. And who's guilty? Pop culture, I'd say.

Virgins aren't worth much?

Perhaps for children and those not mature enough to understand that your teen years are not your adult years.

However virginity is actually respected and looked upon with awe by many people. Perhaps it is only with age and maturity is it realized how important to maintain that purity.

Markec · Mar 5, 2007

Uh you didn't get me right... I'm a virgin myself and I will stay until I marry (if). I was just very pessimistic - that's how I see the situation.

Uphill Battle · Mar 5, 2007

a woman who holds on to her purity for her husband is to be admired. A man who holds on to his purity for his wife is to be admired.

Even more so if they pass through their late teenage years and 20's while mainting God's will for them and their future spouses.

My fiancee has done so, and I feel most blessed by this.

I only regret that I cannot give the same gift. She is worth that gift, and more.

KarrieTex · Mar 5, 2007

Uphill Battle said:
a woman who holds on to her purity for her husband is to be admired. A man who holds on to his purity for his wife is to be admired.

Even more so if they pass through their late teenage years and 20's while mainting God's will for them and their future spouses.

My fiancee has done so, and I feel most blessed by this.

I only regret that I cannot give the same gift. She is worth that gift, and more.

It is a great gift not only for you spouse but for yourself.

savedandhappy1 · Mar 5, 2007

Uphill Battle said:
a woman who holds on to her purity for her husband is to be admired. A man who holds on to his purity for his wife is to be admired.

Uphill Battle said:
Even more so if they pass through their late teenage years and 20's while mainting God's will for them and their future spouses.

My fiancee has done so, and I feel most blessed by this.

I only regret that I cannot give the same gift. She is worth that gift, and more.

Have you asked for forgiveeness from the Lord on the issue? I bet you have, so you are clean, you are a virgin again. The new creature in Christ comes to mind.

Praise His Holy Name!!!!!

Uphill Battle · Mar 5, 2007

savedandhappy1 said:
Have you asked for forgiveeness from the Lord on the issue? I bet you have, so you are clean, you are a virgin again. The new creature in Christ comes to mind.

Praise His Holy Name!!!!!

yes, however, the innocence (knowledge) is not done away with. I know I've had sex, so does she know that I have. It isn't precisely the same, unfortunately.

I don't fee guilt, just regret that I cannot offer the same gift.

savedandhappy1 · Mar 5, 2007

Uphill Battle said:
yes, however, the innocence (knowledge) is not done away with. I know I've had sex, so does she know that I have. It isn't precisely the same, unfortunately.

Uphill Battle said:
I don't fee guilt, just regret that I cannot offer the same gift.

Yes, we all have regrets, I'm sorry to say. I was a virgin when I got married, and my husband was not. The devil used that in the first year of our marriage, but it was no big deal when I gave it to the Lord. Please notice how I said, when I gave it to the Lord.

My husband was not a Christian when he did those things, but the devil really tried to do a job on me. It was I that had the problem not the Lord, He had already taken care of it.

Alot of us go into marriages thinking we need to fix our spouses. Oh how the Lord must laugh when we tell Him our plans.

We need to worry about ourselves, and not fixing them, and then the marriage/love that the Lord has for us is so rewarding, so great in Him.

God Bless You for sharing your regrets!! It helps us remember how we all have them, and if not for Him......let me say it again, if not for Him, oh the condition we would be in.

UberLutheran · Mar 5, 2007

Nope. We sacrified them all in Sinko de Maya.

(Only people in the U.S. Southwest will probably get this pun.)

KarrieTex · Mar 5, 2007

UberLutheran said:
Nope. We sacrified them all in Sinko de Maya.

(Only people in the U.S. Southwest will probably get this pun.)

SINKo....I almost corrected the spelling.

MrsJoy · Mar 5, 2007

Piedpiper123 said:
I'm hesitent in writing this as I realise that traditionally the church values virginity until the marriage bed. But, there is a problem with marrying a virgin and that is that the sex life in a marriage can turn out to be an absolute disaster. This IS important as sex is a very important part of marriage. I realise that there are pros and cons both ways.

what a sad and horrible way to look at it-
and what a good way to excuse sin!!!
if you "Do it" before marriage, you may learn a bit.
but you will be doing so IN SIN.
Not to mention that EVERYONE is different.
what you learn may not even apply to you spouse!
How horrible to learn together after you are married

Assisi · Mar 5, 2007

Uphill Battle said:
yes, however, the innocence (knowledge) is not done away with. I know I've had sex, so does she know that I have. It isn't precisely the same, unfortunately.

I don't fee guilt, just regret that I cannot offer the same gift.

IronWill · Mar 5, 2007

Markec said:
NO.
Hehe, seriously, I think they are really rare. Pastor's doughters and some Jehovah Witnesses... Maybe some other girls out there (ugly, asocial...).
That's sad... But if you are a virgin you are not popular and "worth less than others" in today society. And who's guilty? Pop culture, I'd say.

I happen to know a young, attractive girl in high school who is still a virgin. And she's fairly popular. You're making an unfair characterization.

Oh, and I'm a virgin too.

are there any more virgins left?

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