Some thoughts....
In a sense you're each off in some ways, but for the same reason... one, you attempt to arrive at the intended sense of a passage through Paul's "the Greeks seek after wisdom" type of reasoning through a thing - "might it possibly be..., or maybe what it means is..., or perhaps..."
The Lottery has better odds than the soundness of that system, lol.
That's not a bad question - but it then has to be followed up with seeking the answer through other passages no matter where they lead.
Example, Paul refers to the Body of Christ as one new man - there is a "he." Elsewhere, as in Ephesians 5, where the Greek is in the feminine.
When women say to their female friends "guys, we need to talk," or what have you, are they referring to men? A foreigner might be thrown off by that. There's your problem - the language is still foreign to you.
It is a figure of speech describing a literal sense of comradeship crossed over from one context to another
where, and only
where they both share that same sense
between them.
"Behold the Lamb of God, which taketh away he sin of the world." A figure of speech based on a literal sense in their culture and that, within the context of their animal sacrifices. And if that is not perplexing enough, John does not even know what He means by that, as He is inspired to utter it. Only after the resurrection does anyone
understand He was to die for sin, despite His having told them He would die, etc.
Luke 7:
20. When the men were come unto him, they said, John Baptist hath sent us unto thee, saying, Art thou he that should come? or look we for another?
The answer has to be sought by that means - the multiplicity of passages as to those Things That Differ, as well as to those That Have Concord- and not through our own attempts to reason at a thing until we come up with a solution, on top of which, appears to fit to us because, well it feels right...
And not through the grammar alone, unless it is used to seek out the sense of a word back to its generic sense first, and then to its sense within any passage, an that, in light of an overall perspective, as in, Philippians 3's "work out you own salvation," for example. Its proper understanding itself is based on a proper understanding of the word salvation in both its generic first, and then its specific sense in the passage - in light of Paul's overall perspective on salvation as he preached it.
And all this requires much time in the Word, dealing there with God and His things - not in books supposedly based on the Word, as the truth of the matter on this is that much that is written in books supposedly based on the Word is actually based on the above same errors compounded further with reasoning through a thing that is based on the theology the above errors have resulted in.
Once, may years ago, while dealing with a Pentecostal who hurled several passages from the writer of Hebrews at me, asking me to get back to him, I grabbed an index card, numbered one through fifty and marked off each time I'd read through Hebrews towards my goal of reading it at least that many times before even look into the issue we had discussed.
My "reasoning" was this - when someone asks us about the location of a store in our neighborhood - a store we have never even been in - the reason we know that store is where it is, is due to constant exposure to its presence as a result of every time we have gone through our neighborhood.
Scripture works the same way - the more time in it, the more you know both, where things are, and where their related things, as well as where the Things That Differ are.
As a result, all sort of passages come to your mind when you are attempting to sort a things out - for you having "let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom" Col. 3:16, which how we are "filled with the knowledge of his will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding" Col. 1:8.
Note - one passage desires that for you, the other tells you how to acquire it - a bottomless ocean in 66 seemingly endless Books in one - "instruction in righteousness; that the man of God may be throughly furnished unto all good works" 2 Tim. 3:17.