Hi,
I'm new here, just looking for some solid Christian advice. Been married 15 years and my husband is not full time (paid) in the ministry he leads in our church, but he works full time in a 9-6 and leads the ministry on the side.
But, it seems he has left our marriage behind. I feel very inadequate when I try to speak to him about the things that matter for our marriage, but this weekend, I managed to tell him I felt that he was emotionally available to everyone else but me. I am not normally a selfish person; in fact am someone who can pretty much run on my own, but I feel I am sailing in uncharted waters and am very much out of my depth.
He is patient with others when they bring their problems and concerns to him, but with me is has become impatient and judgemental of my concerns, then he tells me "just listen to God and it will all be ok." Which I don't doubt that, but I need to be able to share my life, my walk, home concerns, etc. with him.
I'm not looking for sympathy; I'm just very concerned about the state of my marriage and that he seems oblivious. I don't want to get in the way of the ministry either.
I'm hoping that someone else here has gone through this and made it successfully to a better place, and that they are willing to share how to do this. I want to have a 50+ year marriage like my parents did also.
Thanks for letting me share and please pray for us.
I'm new here, just looking for some solid Christian advice. Been married 15 years and my husband is not full time (paid) in the ministry he leads in our church, but he works full time in a 9-6 and leads the ministry on the side.
But, it seems he has left our marriage behind. I feel very inadequate when I try to speak to him about the things that matter for our marriage, but this weekend, I managed to tell him I felt that he was emotionally available to everyone else but me. I am not normally a selfish person; in fact am someone who can pretty much run on my own, but I feel I am sailing in uncharted waters and am very much out of my depth.
He is patient with others when they bring their problems and concerns to him, but with me is has become impatient and judgemental of my concerns, then he tells me "just listen to God and it will all be ok." Which I don't doubt that, but I need to be able to share my life, my walk, home concerns, etc. with him.
I'm not looking for sympathy; I'm just very concerned about the state of my marriage and that he seems oblivious. I don't want to get in the way of the ministry either.
I'm hoping that someone else here has gone through this and made it successfully to a better place, and that they are willing to share how to do this. I want to have a 50+ year marriage like my parents did also.
Thanks for letting me share and please pray for us.
