anyone else find this....?

[GodsLittleDove]

...that sometimes they have an urge to confide in someone about being abused and then when people are willing to listen, you find it really hard to trust them?

i have a longing to share what happened to me, that at times it borders on the frantic but i don't want to have to do that all the time. i want to have less torment in my heart.

when people are kind to me, i feel so ashamed of myself i feel urge to push them away, like i want to run and hide.

 

[goldenviolet]

bless your heart talking with peepers can be so awkward at first. i think the older and more times you talk, it gets easier. trust issues are there too... i'm proud of you for making this post. xo dee

 

[bubblefish]

I know exactly how you feel. But I agree with Dee. As you start to talk more and take the leap to trust people it does get easier.

Would it be easier to write it in a letter or email? Something that takes the confrontation out of it but still allows you to talk to people. Just make sure you warn them first that it is a serious and sensitive topic so it is not out of the blue.

 

[visionary]

Choose wisely.. you have a very good reason for have a trust factor issue. .. Never reveal it all, just what is needed to resolve the issue.

 

[GodsLittleDove]

its goood to know am not "weird" for thinking like this. i hope i can overcome the cycle of self-hatred and shame i feel at times.

bless you

carmen

 

[bubblefish]

Give it time Hun. Be gentle with yourself and take it slow. In time it will get easier

 

[UnitynLove]

Forgive Yourself
YouTube - Broadcast Yourself.

 

[faithful follower]

Not weird at all. When I first began working through my abuse issues, I wanted to tell everyone and did too much revealing. Thank God I outgrew this!! I have learned to be wise about who I reveal my history to and how much to reveal. I pray for God to show you how He sees you--Loving!!! You are lovable, you never deserved to be abused, you will receive goodness for our loving Father. Blessings

 

[One day at a time]

I know it's hard--I'm with you on that one. I had talked about one type of abuse with a few people but the other one only my husband knew until I wrote it on here. It was hard but it really helped me to get it out.
Never blame yourself--it's not your fault...rest in God's loving arms!
I'll pray for you to find the healing that you need.

 

[UnitynLove]

I know it's hard--I'm with you on that one. I had talked about one type of abuse with a few people but the other one only my husband knew until I wrote it on here. It was hard but it really helped me to get it out.
Never blame yourself--it's not your fault...rest in God's loving arms!
I'll pray for you to find the healing that you need.

Excellent post!

 

[One day at a time]

Excellent post!

thanks Unity!

 

[Johnnz]

Abuse instils so much negativity that it is so easy to believe that people will dislike or even reject you if they knew what had happened. Thus, there is a kind of self protective reflex in place that wants to withdraw if someone gets to know a bit more about you.

That barrier can be overcome with some sensitive and wise support from someone you learn to trust.

Bless you
John
NZ

 

[Surviving]

...that sometimes they have an urge to confide in someone about being abused and then when people are willing to listen, you find it really hard to trust them?

i have a longing to share what happened to me, that at times it borders on the frantic but i don't want to have to do that all the time. i want to have less torment in my heart.

when people are kind to me, i feel so ashamed of myself i feel urge to push them away, like i want to run and hide.

Hey there,

I know what you mean. Whilst I was abused I didn't want to tell anyone, but now that I have got through it I feel that I can tell people about it. Telling the right person though is another matter, and sometimes it's hard to know who the right person is.

Every now and then though someone comes along and makes you feel a bit more normal and you feel that you can open up to them, but in some way it is really hard to do so. We're not use to people being nice to us. We are only use to someone abusing us or saying nasty things.

With me, I was sexually abused from the age of 6/7 until I was about 11, and I was bullied quite a bit all the way through school. So, when someone is trying to be nice to me now, I'm not use to it. It takes me a while to accept their friendship. I kind of feel that I don't deserve it either. But, guess what, we do deserve to have a friend. Sometimes it takes a while to find the right one to trust, but there are friends out there like that.

 

[pennsyginny]

It took me from four years of age to 30 to "share" with anyone and that was a therapist. Over the years I've really opened up and now find it easy and even a gift that God allows me to share to help others. We all have to come to it in our own time and way. There is no right way. God bless you for taking the steps you have. People here are kind and supportive.