Katelyn: AMEN!
First let me say that anyone who tells you "Physical attraction isn't important" or any other comment like that is someone who is so afraid that they "don't look good enough" or something of that nature. It's quite simple:
YOU HAVE TO BE ATTRACTED TO THE WOMAN OR MAN YOU LOVE.
I have known people where one person is horribly attractive and the other is horribly unattractive in my mind, yet both look at eachother and see beauty. God makes people beautiful to us, and if you don't look at the person and see someone beautiful then sorry, you will never be completely in love with them.
Remember that guys like all different kinds, as do women. Think about how many times you've been out with someone and you both see someone, one of you thinks they're attractive and the other doesn't know what you see in them.
My church used to run a relationship seminar over the summer for all the high school department. In this they always made it clear that physical attraction has to be present in the relationship. You can't be with someone who you don't find attractive or you'll always be looking around to see what you really wanted.
For me I can tell you that it's the physical beauty that piques an interest, but it is the beauty inside that keeps my attraction. I can remember a lot of girls who I wouldn't even think looked good anymore cause I knew what type of people they were. Even their physical appearance turned sour to me.
My current love is a woman who feels she is not attractive, embarressed by her looks and feels she looked better back when she was a cheerleader and working out, etc. Very typical for a woman, she is self-conscious about her weight that she put on. I would constantly tell her she's the most beautiful woman I have ever known, BECAUSE SHE IS. I know it sounds cheesy but there is no other woman I would want to look at but her, she has always captivated me, and my stare. I have her picture on my desktop and I sit and look at her all the time, there is no model or star that has her beauty in my eyes. But it all started because when I met her I thought she was cute, and had a nice smile, and the more I got to know her, the more I saw her, the more I realized she was not just cute, but beautiful and gorgeous, both physically and in soul and spirit. It's a combination of a beauty on the outside that the Lord gives us combined with a beauty on the inside that the Lord reveals to our mates.
Don't let anyone tell you that "you don't have to be attracted to the `right' one for you" Yes, you do. And yes, you will. "Eye Candy" is just right. God didn't intend for us to spend our lives with some hag who we can't bear the sight of but has a "nice personality"
As for finding the right woman, let God reveal that to you in time. And don't be afraid to follow him. He will reveal great things, and you don't know who will be the one you will find. Remember that throughout the Bible it was women who moved in great faith more often and in greater faith then men, so do not be afraid of a woman who is of great faith, but try to work to be like them. God has great plans for you, and the woman he has for you is out there, but not if you tell yourself you're not worthy somehow of a great woman of God.
"Show me your friends and I'll show you your future" is one thing a pastor told me a long time ago. And that goes for the one you choose to be your wife.
Just follow him, and rejoice when you do not have the right feelings for someone, because maybe that's because God is reserving your heart from being bound to any but the one he has for you. I know parents who pray over their child that their hearts would know only one love for a relationship of this world, and that they would not have heavy hearts of past relationships but a clean Godly relationship that would be fruitful.
Follow him, and pray, and trust in him. But don't be afraid when he tells you to move, because there are great things in store where he will lead you.
