Anybody feel like there are no real relationship options?

[DatingSmarts]

ps: Im glad its okay with you to be with an unattractive man...that leaves more of the good looking ones for me.

 

[mina]

whoa! i'm not having sex with anyone! and i'm not getting physical with him! that is for marriage.

I wasn't attracted to him at first and he's not what the world would call "beautiful" or whatever. Basically as I got to know him , he became attractive to me. I think he's handsome. And that's not pathetic at all If i were to marry him I would enjoy having sex with him, because I would love him- body and soul and personailty and looks.

I don't understand why you are so upset.

 

[DatingSmarts]

mina wrote: I don't understand why you are so upset.


that's funny your the one who ripped off my blessings

 

[mina]

mina wrote: I don't understand why you are so upset.


that's funny your the one who ripped off my blessings

what? and I still don't understand why you are upset. If you don't agree with me you don't have to, but I don't see what good flinging insults will do.

 

[DatingSmarts]

if you feel insulted because i don't agree with you that is your problem. at this point you are trolling me...i see you took away another blessing. But i'm a big girl and won't be manipulated to change my views on the matter I posted about. Its my opinion and it stays.

 

[mina]

lol don't worry, it's ok, i'm not insulted. By the way posting adds to your blessings; it doesn't take them away. Your answers certainly do speak for themselfs.

 

[DatingSmarts]

DID you take my blessings away?

 

[msjones21]

DatingSmarts, are you a troll?

 

[DatingSmarts]

ms jones

are you a troll?

 

[Lizzi4Christ]

*mod hat on*

Get this discussion back on topic. I don't want to see people flaming each other.

 

[katelyn]

katelyn said:

Your profile says you are a Christian. Do you want a wife who is a Christian? Or are looks more important to you? What's inside lasts longer (eternally!) than what's outside. Also, looking at a pleasant body will get old after a while if their behavior is atrocious.

katelyn and mina:

i don't think it comes down to choosing between looks and personality. I think BOTH are required. It sounds to me like you are the type to settle for whatever you can get.

My reply was to a post where someone was saying that "fearing the Lord" had little to no value but "hot chicks" are awesome. (Although, the post I was replying to appears to have been deleted.) If you look at my other posts, you will find that I have said that I do think that a certain level of physical attraction is important. I just think it needs to be kept in perspective (that is, looks aren't the most important thing), and that's what I was trying to say in my post.

p.s. I'm not the type to settle for "whatever I can get,"...I'm happily married to a man I find very attractive!

 

[pgmike]

wow i have been without a comp for a few days and come back to see i roundaboutedly started a catfight.

one thing that make a girl beautiful to me is when she chooses purity, whre she is an attractive woman and has had oppurtunities with attractive guys, but chooses to remain pure by choice adn not default.

 

[DatingSmarts]

lol

i have to apologize to mina...I thought she dinged my blessings to zero because she didn't like what I said. so as i was reading her responses i thought she was being sarcastic with me and gloating because i thought she had the 'power' to reduce my blessings to zero again. I thought she wiped them out and I hardly had any to begin with. less than 20 at the time...

So we were not on the same page through that.

SORRY!

 

[DatingSmarts]

one thing that make a girl beautiful to me is when she chooses purity, where she is an attractive woman and has had opportunities with attractive guys, but chooses to remain pure by choice adn not default.

ok pg
you said something interesting here and i'd like to know more of what you mean...
you said that she has had opportunities with attractive men...yet chose to remain pure....

do you mean that she was tempted ie sexually turned on...hormones raging and yet she had the self control to resist and overcome her hormones?

what if these guys were attractive but didn't turn her on like that...they had no affect...would you not want her then?

what are you trying to say exactly...im not sure what you mean and would like to understand your views on this better

 

[DatingSmarts]

also, what do you mean by "CHOICE"

and what do you mean by "and not by DEFAULT"

Thanks!

 

[pgmike]

ok pg
you said something interesting here and i'd like to know more of what you mean...
you said that she has had opportunities with attractive men...yet chose to remain pure....

do you mean that she was tempted ie sexually turned on...hormones raging and yet she had the self control to resist and overcome her hormones?

what if these guys were attractive but didn't turn her on like that...they had no affect...would you not want her then?

what are you trying to say exactly...im not sure what you mean and would like to understand your views on this better

i do mean that she was able to overcome her physical urges. bc she didnt find a guy physically attractive that doesnt mean i dont like her. its if a a guril chooses to be pure by saying no when a guy puts his hands on her breasts for example even when she wants them there. so tahts what i mean by choice. by default i mean that she has never had a guy come on to her in a sexual way for her to have to mae a choice so she is pure bc she has not had a chance not to be.

purity is one of the most attractive qualities in a woman.

 

[DatingSmarts]

Ok so what you are saying is strictly regarding whether a man makes a move on her or not...

it has nothing to do with whether the guy is sexually attractive to her or not.

in other words, just because a guy makes a move, doesn't mean she is interested in him. all it means is that he is interested. so a woman rejecting advances is not a valid criteria.

a woman may reject advances from guys she is repulsed by. she may also reject those advances because she is not comfortable with him doing certain things. i don't think its as black and white as you make it. there are a lot more things that go into it than what you have explained here.

i will say it bothers me that her pleasure is not important to you. i am not at all advocating premarital sex or inappropriate sexual behavior. i just see you as being selfish and ego driven on this point.

 

[DatingSmarts]

I don't like this overemphasis on purity for women and underemphasis of purity for men. Apparently certain kinds of men seem to feel its not okay for a woman to be sexual beings yet it is okay for all men to be sexual beings.

 

[pgmike]

Ok so what you are saying is strictly regarding whether a man makes a move on her or not...

it has nothing to do with whether the guy is sexually attractive to her or not.

in other words, just because a guy makes a move, doesn't mean she is interested in him. all it means is that he is interested. so a woman rejecting advances is not a valid criteria.

a woman may reject advances from guys she is repulsed by. she may also reject those advances because she is not comfortable with him doing certain things. i don't think its as black and white as you make it. there are a lot more things that go into it than what you have explained here.

i will say it bothers me that her pleasure is not important to you. i am not at all advocating premarital sex or inappropriate sexual behavior. i just see you as being selfish and ego driven on this point.

wow you totally do not understand. are you saing i am selfish and ego driven bc i do not want my wife to have sexual pleasures before we are married? that is not being selfish, that is desiring a godly woman. i choose to also not seek sexual pleasure before marriage so i am not expecting me wife to do soemthing i am not willing to do. i am saying active choosing of purity is attractive to me. your post doesnt really make much sense really so i dont really know how to to respond to it.