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Any secular justification for "Defense of Marriage"?

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That's because slavery isn't as bad as it's deemed today. Liberal guilt has simply made it synonymous to a holocaust.
Oh man, it's like holiday meals with extended family.

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Just kidding. My family isn't nearly that bad.
 
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There's never been a time in history where slavery was abolished for moral reasons, it's always been straight out of necessity, or in America's case, industrial progress.
Now that I'm over my initial shock, I'll move on to the next part of your post. I have no idea how you can think this. It took the South decades to figure out how to function economically without slavery. They weren't ready for it. No one thought they were ready for it. They lost all of their free labor practically overnight. They were forced to change, and rightly so, but it was not a natural progression that occurred when the demand for slaves dropped, or whatever you're thinking.

You could make an argument for this regarding why the North abolished slavery so much sooner, but no one in the North was thinking "Let's abolish slavery in the South because they have so many factories!"
 
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Nonsense packaged into a PDF is still nonsense. Seriously, it's like they took all the worst cliched "arguments" that have laughed at for years and just bundled them together. I think their hoping that the total amount of idiocy is more persuasive than each idiotic statement...

Oh, and if gay men supposedly came from monkeys, then why are their still gay monkeys? Think on that one...
 
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Children need people to raise them as the best possible situation. Studies have shown that same sex parents are just as capable of raising happy, well adjusted kids as opposite sex partners.

And kids can also be raised to be happy and well adjusted by people who aren't their mom and dad. If I had been raised by my parents, I'd either be a heavy alcoholic with a drug problem, or dead. Thank goodness the government stepped in and kept that from happening.
 
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What about children need a mum and dad as the best possible situation for them to grow up happy and well balanced.
Even if research showed this (the results vary), this isn't a reason to ban same-sex marriage. No one is held to these standards. Widows and widowers don't lose their children. Unwed mothers aren't required to give up the baby. Some single people are allowed to adopt. Conversely, opposite-sex couples are allowed to marry even if they have no plans to include children in their household.
 
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Even if research showed this (the results vary), this isn't a reason to ban same-sex marriage. No one is held to these standards. Widows and widowers don't lose their children. Unwed mothers aren't required to give up the baby. Some single people are allowed to adopt. Conversely, opposite-sex couples are allowed to marry even if they have no plans to include children in their household.

Excellent comments. A 15 year old girl can fall pregnant, choose to keep the child and attempt to raise it herself, and somehow this is preferable to a committed, loving, but (gasp!) gay couple raising a child.

Some 'family values'.
 
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Even if research showed this (the results vary), this isn't a reason to ban same-sex marriage. No one is held to these standards. Widows and widowers don't lose their children. Unwed mothers aren't required to give up the baby. Some single people are allowed to adopt. Conversely, opposite-sex couples are allowed to marry even if they have no plans to include children in their household.
Not denying any of that. I'm just saying that research shows that a child needs both a mother and father in their lives in a happy marriage to be in the best possible situation for life.
 
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Not denying any of that. I'm just saying that research shows that a child needs both a mother and father in their lives in a happy marriage to be in the best possible situation for life.


I think it depends who does the research. Psychological things shouldn't really be researched at all on controversial topics imo, it only serves to undermine credibility of all sort of research.
 
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I think it depends who does the research. Psychological things shouldn't really be researched at all on controversial topics imo, it only serves to undermine credibility of all sort of research.
Its only controversial if you make it that way. I dont look at it that way. I,m only relaying what is said about the optimum setup that would be best for a child by the experts. They are just stats and they are not having a go at anyone. But its not good to not acknowledge what is the best thing to do either. If you dont acknowledge things then you can address things either.
 
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"Many studies have demonstrated that children’s well-being is affected much more by their relationships with their parents, their parents’ sense of competence and security, and the presence of social and economic support for the family than by the gender or the sexual orientation of their parents,”

Gay Parents As Good As Straight Ones | BU Today | Boston University
 
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