Quran is revealed to Mohammad not to become a historical book or a ancestry to him . if you check Quran you will notice many wondering points :
1- the name of Jesus for example is mentioned more the name of Mohammad .
2- Quran does not include any personal details about Mohammad's life or his suffering or personal problems . even when there are some mentions about each of these it would be relevant to something more important and related to all Muslims or to religion itself
3- Quran is a true book , never include any deforming facts or contradict with its parts
4- We have a full Surah in Quran entitled " Mary " the virgin mother of Jesus , ,and we have not any Surah with titles like " Fatima " a daughter of Mohammad or " Aisha " his lovely wife .
I think these points are clear enough and if you consider them good you will come out with very important conclusions .
Now let us consider the second point , to explain this idea let me talk about some important issues , and before I say anything let us agree with the way we should follow in this discussion , that is the rational way which based on reason and logic not on bigotry or narrowmindedness . I am not try to lie or to throw something wrong . like you , I studied more about religions not only about Islam - and besides I am a student of English Literature so I know somethings in this field . all what I want is to reach to truth . this truth may come from your side or mine , we dont know yet , and by the rational and intellectual discussing we will come across it .
If we say that Allah loves sinners , we will destroy all the rational principles that any one can come across by using his mind !
Let me give you a small example , if we agree that Allah loves sinners , why we as human act against this concept ??
Why my country and yours build jails and courts ??
Why we have police ??
Why we punish those who steal or murder ??
If the creator of all these humans loves the sinners and never punish them why we go against that ?? we are not a creator or God to do this !!
If we say that God loves sinners , then for God's sake tell me what would be the worth of any good deed in our life ??
Why should I be a good man and try to do good deeds in my life ??
While God loves sinner it will be better to me to be one of them !!
So what will be the scale of the " reward and punishment " concept in the Here after ??
If we agree with this concept , all of us should be sinners or criminals not a good people ! and we dont need to worship God because either we worship Him or not we will go to heaven at the end !!
Another concept you mention and really it is one of the most wondering things I ever met in my life , is the concept of sacrificing of Jesus for sinner's sake !!
This concept in fact is an invitation to incite people to be negative and dependent !
As an educated person you must see some defects in this concept without needing to be religious or not !
This concept contrasts with the simple bases of rational thinking . I dont deny that such thinking is very comfortable ! if I embrace such idea , then I have no thing to worry about because all my sins are beard by another person !! so all what I should do is enjoying life and do whatever I want !!
Is this sounds rational thinking ??
Look at the big difference between what you believe and what our great Prophet says to his own daughter :
" O Fatima , the daughter of Mohammad , do good deeds and do not think that I can do anything for you " !
this is what it should be . even this noble prophet can not do something for his own daughter as " a prophet " . he can advice her , teach her the true religion but she has to work and elaborate her work to be satisfied for her God . she should not depends on her father and think that because he is a prophet she can do whatever she wants without being punished by Allah .
a man came to prophet Mohammad and told him that his wish is just to be with him in the Hereafter life , what did prophet Mohammad tells him ?? does he tells him " ok you have got it ! go and enjoy life "? !!
he told him " if you really want that so help yourself , try to pray more and more " .
prophet Mohammad taught us how we can be close to God , and if we commit sins it is very necessary to repent and ask forgiveness from God not any one else . He told us that " those who do good deeds will be closer to me in heaven " . He claimed for a highly moral society where everybody worship God and tries his best to become good person and obeyed slave of Allah .
dependence is something with no existence in Islam . the only thing you have to depend on is the mercy of Allah and your good deeds .
but let us recorrect these wrong principles you mention .
yes God loves all his creations ( including sinners ) but his love for the good people is bigger than his love for those who commit sins . unless those sinners repent , Allah will not love them .
if it is normal to commit sins then tell me what is the purpose of our existence ? ( I assume that you are not atheist ! ) .
what will be the difference between us and animals if we just eat , drink then sleep ? animals do the same so what is the thing which make us " Humans " ?
let us formulate this concept in a mere mathematical description :
we have a creator and creations , God and us as humans ..He created us of course not for committing sins !
worship God >>> doing good deeds >>> God love us >>> the reward will be the heaven !
disobey God >>> committing sins >>> God dose not love >>> the punishment will be the Hell !
Jesus , was a great and noble prophet who tried his best to convey the message of Allah to his people :
Lo! Allah is my Lord and your Lord, so worship Him. That is a straight path.
3:51
he told them about the truth and never say something like he sacrifices his life to redeem them nor he claims that he is God or a son of God . Quran recorded this fact in a wonderful and effective verses please try to read them carefully :
And when Allah saith: O Jesus, son of Mary! Didst thou say unto mankind: Take me and my mother for two gods beside Allah? he saith: Be glorified It was not mine to utter that to which I had no right. If I used to say it, then Thou knewest it. Thou knowest what is in my mind, and I know not what is in Thy mind. Lo! Thou, only Thou art the Knower of Things Hidden.
5:116
I spake unto them only that which Thou commandedst me, (saying) : Worship Allah, my Lord and your Lord. I was a witness of them while I dwelt among them, and when Thou tookest me Thou wast the Watcher over them. Thou art Witness over all things.
5:117
and by the way this concept is existed too in the your noble books and I read some verses there assert the same meaning .
in conclusion , let me say that it is one and only one God . there is nothing like " God of us " and " God of yours " . This God has sent prophets to us not to worship them but to lead us to the straight way and to teach us how we should worship our Creator . to clarify the important principles to us such as the principle of " reward and punishment " , " good deeds and bad deeds " , " how to be close to God " , " how to organize our life and make it better and transcended".
This is something which my mind can accept , then let us talk about the various ways of it . but please do not tell me that to gain God's love I have to be a sinner . or tell me that another person will bear my own sins !
Forgive me because I had to make this replay very looooong ! I wish you will not sleep during reading !
I am waiting for your rest questions .
May Allah guide you to the right way my sister .
Raja