Any Good Men out there?

avi8tor · May 18, 2011

DeathMagus said:
If you're not finding the guy for you in your current circles, the first step is to recognize that, for one reason or another, you're not hanging out with the right people. This would seem rather obvious, but it's staggering how many people will keep rooting through essentially the same types of circles that have turned up nothing in the past simply because they assume that those circles are "where the good ones are."

I think what the OP is trying to say is that there is not much of a "circle" to begin with. Regardless of it's with the right OR the wrong people, it's just not there.

avi8tor · May 18, 2011

FirefighterForChrist said:
I seem to be finding myself faced with the same problem involving ladies. Going in to my first year of college I was faced with nothing but impure girls that cared nothing about me spiritually or emotionally. However I've held on to my faith and have chosen to stay away from those women, and hold out for that one girl that I know is right for me.

I'm right there with you. Although some days it is tough. Sometimes I feel like holding out for the right girl, and then others I'm just like "what's the point?"

yourstrulyjulie · May 20, 2011

I feel extremely lucky to have found one when I was 17
They are definitely in short supply.

pressingon17 · May 21, 2011

I think all the time the "good" women are gone. But that's what happens when you grow up in a small town. I'll just wait for God's timing and not mine. I'm sure His Will will be done in His time and when I least expect it. Just an encouraging story, I have a old youth pastor who just got married last June and he is 30 years old and his wife is 32! and they now are expecting a baby 2 weeks before their 1 year anniversary. They waited for God's timing and all I can say is why can't I?

DYOLF · May 28, 2011

broken_one said:
Relatively, we're not bad. I don't think you can complain about men until you have truly looked at yourself, and see if you're worthy to date these "holy men" at all.

I feel as if men get the bum rap because women seem to be looking for things (and people) that do not exist. We're all human.

I would have said the same.Some of these girls need to look in the mirror for a bit.Not the looks but self evaluation is a good thing

DYOLF · May 28, 2011

cloudstrife007 said:
I'm not saying all Christians who are dating or married to Non Christians should immediately pack their bags and run.
There's nothing wrong with people being 'happy together', and I'm sure there are non-Christian/Christian couples out there doing well. Heck, there are aunties/uncles in our church like that. But at the end of the day, it is God's will to call people into his Kingdom. And we are also called to be equally yoked not simply because its a law/rule. But it's to help us stand and remain with God because we can be sure that our spouse is walking in the same direction as we are - to serve God.

Well said because too often people do not want to endure good doctrine.Light & darkness do not mix,how can Christ work with Belial or righteousness with unrighteousness.Christians should not marry non Christians I didn't say that,the bible does.There are many reasons why God does not want that to happen.

People save yourselves the heart ache,ask for God's guidance and he will direct your paths.

Weak&Loved · May 29, 2011

Because all the good guys are take, lol...

I've met plenty of great Christian guys, but they weren't the ones for me. They had different desires and passions, personalities that don't mesh with mine, but they're not bad guys, and plus they weren't interested in me that I know of in that way. I believe those who are meant to marry someday, they'll find the right guy or girl just for them, that God has planned out for them.

darktipper · May 29, 2011

What is "good" to one woman is not "good" to another woman.
Just sayin lol

lindseyk3 · Jun 2, 2011

I believe many of the good ones are taken...but also

Even if you are in a "right circle", oftentimes, the guys are too shy, too pre-occupied and too busy waiting on God to point His magic laser beam down on "the one" that they don't bother putting themselves out there as much. Because "why bother dating to figure out what kind of person you can truly love, tolerate, have fun with, walk alongside the Lord with, etc. when God is going to plant her right in front of your face?"

Sorry, I know that was somewhat of an exaggeration, but when I've been in the right circles and put myself out there, many of the single guys in the same circles were that way.

Don't get me wrong, I do believe in God's perfect timing and that He does have someone out there that He is preparing me for and whom I am being prepared for as well, BUT if we don't allow ourselves the experience of dating b/c of whatever reasons, we are taking away the opportunity to get to know ourselves better.

That's what I feel is the bigger issue: Not that good girls and good guys don't exist, but that there are personal and societal barriers that are keeping us from being vulnerable and open with the opposite sex.

It's like we aren't even trying! And I say "we" b/c it's not just men who aren't taking an initiative, but us young women too. We have to put ourselves out there just as much if not more if we want to have the opportunity to experience a healthy, Godly relationship with a Christian man.

DeaneRenata · Jun 9, 2011

trueluvwaits said:
I don't know about you, but it seems to me like finding a good man is becoming harder and harder to come by. My name is Elle and I am 23, i know this seems silly but i want to believe in fairy tales again.

She has just said my own mind. I don't really want to be single like you hon I was just looking for a boyfriend.

guidobambino · Jun 11, 2011

lol i never understood this. being a christian for about a year now, id say its easy to find a good christian man. where women seem to fall through the cracks is that they dont make themselves appear interested/available. granted, i live in nyc, which might make things different, but a lot of women here just dont seem like theyre looking for a relationship. i go to church, all the girls hang out in cliques..and my point is the only guy who'll dive into there is the guy with too much of an ego.

if you're looking for a good single christian man, i can attest that there are many, and, even though i believe he should pursue you, he has to have some point of entry

my experience could be much different from the average church though (if such a thing exists)

tcwoods91 · Jun 11, 2011

There are good Christian young men out there. Being a Christian young man myself I can tell you that it is somewhat rare to a young man fully devoted to following Jesus, but they are out there. Pray for such a man to come into your life and pursue you! God will bring one into your life in His timing.

inhissteps5 · Jul 7, 2011

It truly saddens my heart that good christian men AND women are hard to come by these days. It seems to me like all of them that are out there are already married lol.

GGstar · Jul 7, 2011

Haha, it's the same over here, all the good Christian guys are engaged or married it seems...

Gista · Jul 9, 2011

trueluvwaits said:
I don't know about you, but it seems to me like finding a good man is becoming harder and harder to come by. My name is Elle and I am 23, i know this seems silly but i want to believe in fairy tales again.

I want to enjoy being single, but long to have a boyfriend. I look to guys like Josh Groban and Shemar Moore and think, "Why are the good guys so out of reach". I mean, am i alone in this or what?

Yes there are good men out there. And most of my friends are the good guy you describe. The type that when they marry their wives, they'll be the ones getting up to tend to the baby so their wives can some extra shut-eye, or the type to the dishes after cooking, the type to endure shopping, and surprise you with little things.

When i get to 50 posts, which is when i can post links, i will show you a youtube vid of my friend seranading his wife for their anniversary.

GGstar · Jul 9, 2011

Gista said:
Yes there are good men out there. And most of my friends are the good guy you describe. The type that when they marry their wives, they'll be the ones getting up to tend to the baby so their wives can some extra shut-eye, or the type to the dishes after cooking, the type to endure shopping, and surprise you with little things.

When i get to 50 posts, which is when i can post links, i will show you a youtube vid of my friend seranading his wife for their anniversary.

You're nearly at 50 now hehe

Gista · Jul 9, 2011

GGstar said:
You're nearly at 50 now hehe

haha you're correct

(not so subtle reply to get within 1 reach of 50 posts)

edit: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GINYWG_Ephw

here is that vid

Hakan101 · Jul 18, 2011

I can relate to your sentiments OP. It seems like all the good women are taken. In fact many of the ones I know are already married and they're only like 22-23. It can be frustrating for me, but I suppose it is only fitting for men and women of their caliber.

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