I'm really getting sick and tired of not eating. I havn't seen my couseler in a long time, and I'm feeling really stressed out. I really do want to eat, but just the thought of food makes me cringe. Every time I eat anything I feel fat and ugly and weak. Help?
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Any advice on how to make myself eat?
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Hello dear!
Try to eat small ratios of food. Don't force yourself to eat big menus. Also, try to eat soft food, containing many fruit and vegetables. Also, fish meat and chicken chest can be an option. These things won't get you fat at all. You can make many combinations of salads. You might try honey with cereal bread or soups.
I really understand you. I had bulimic tendencies for months some years ago and it was awful. Recovery might be slow, a step at a time. I am so happy you want to eat! It is a great step further. Just trust God and don't condemn yourself if you sometimes fail. Remember, step by step! I also think that going to a counselor was a big step! Cograts!
You know that feeling fat, weak and ugly are all lies,no? If you are a Christian, when those thaughts come into your mind, take the Word and fight against them. You are not ugly because you were made in the image of God. God is strong in your weaknesses. Don't give into those feelings. Now of course, at the begining you might fail, but there is enough grace. Get up and fight again. And when you feel no strenght, remember that God fights for us. Just lean on Him and trust Him.
I am really here if you need to talk to somebody. I can relate to you because I felt the same things some years ago. I was purging after every meal. But God got me out of this, little by little. I will pray for you! Please don't doubt to contact me or write here!
Try to eat small ratios of food. Don't force yourself to eat big menus. Also, try to eat soft food, containing many fruit and vegetables. Also, fish meat and chicken chest can be an option. These things won't get you fat at all. You can make many combinations of salads. You might try honey with cereal bread or soups.
I really understand you. I had bulimic tendencies for months some years ago and it was awful. Recovery might be slow, a step at a time. I am so happy you want to eat! It is a great step further. Just trust God and don't condemn yourself if you sometimes fail. Remember, step by step! I also think that going to a counselor was a big step! Cograts!
You know that feeling fat, weak and ugly are all lies,no? If you are a Christian, when those thaughts come into your mind, take the Word and fight against them. You are not ugly because you were made in the image of God. God is strong in your weaknesses. Don't give into those feelings. Now of course, at the begining you might fail, but there is enough grace. Get up and fight again. And when you feel no strenght, remember that God fights for us. Just lean on Him and trust Him.
I am really here if you need to talk to somebody. I can relate to you because I felt the same things some years ago. I was purging after every meal. But God got me out of this, little by little. I will pray for you! Please don't doubt to contact me or write here!
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Thanks for the advice! I've been trying to start eating in small portions, but it's like my mind won't let me. All I think about is all the calories and carbs and everything. Thanks for your prayers!
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When one has an eating disorder she really needs to stay in touch with professional help. This is a serious condition. 
Work on your thoughts. Don't tell yourself offensive things like "I have to eat" because you're right, your mind won't let you believe it.
Work on reframing or rephrasing your thoughts. Say softer things like, "Pretty soon eating won't be so difficult" or "before long I'll realize that eating healthy normal meals won't make me fat".... these can go by the mind-guards that you have erected. It's important to tell yourself these many times a day while at the same time countering any negative thoughts (like I'm sure your doctor has shown you)... when you think or say something that you know isn't healthy or good for you, quickly say to yourself (even out loud if you can) "That's not true!"
But really, contact your counselor even if just to say "Hello" okay?
Work on your thoughts. Don't tell yourself offensive things like "I have to eat" because you're right, your mind won't let you believe it.
Work on reframing or rephrasing your thoughts. Say softer things like, "Pretty soon eating won't be so difficult" or "before long I'll realize that eating healthy normal meals won't make me fat".... these can go by the mind-guards that you have erected. It's important to tell yourself these many times a day while at the same time countering any negative thoughts (like I'm sure your doctor has shown you)... when you think or say something that you know isn't healthy or good for you, quickly say to yourself (even out loud if you can) "That's not true!"
But really, contact your counselor even if just to say "Hello" okay?
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Thanks, drjean! I will try to work on those things. I'll also try to get in touch with my counseler soon.
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Hi Princesspeach,
It's great your reaching out for help!
Thats the first step to recovery!
You didn't mention how long you were ANA
But the sooner you get the help, the easier it will be, altho never easy.
Can i make some suggestions, or maybe observations?
You are hungry, so eat! Thats it. Yup scary as anything but the only way to get better is to just do it!
Yup its going to make you have all those liars going on up in your head, but God did not give us a spirit of fear!
He is right beside you, holding your hand. You just need to fight off the other negative noise going on at the same time. They r all lies!
So yogurt, cottage cheese, fruit, and not just once a day!
Oatmeal...,
Go back to your counsler!
Trust me it is a very long tough road to recovery the longer you delay.
You do know its not about being skinny, right?
It is much deeper then that. Because there is a reason we dont feel worthy enough to eat?
So ask God to help you, reach out to the people in your church,
God Bless you.
I am here if you need to talk.
It's great your reaching out for help!
Thats the first step to recovery!
You didn't mention how long you were ANA
But the sooner you get the help, the easier it will be, altho never easy.
Can i make some suggestions, or maybe observations?
You are hungry, so eat! Thats it. Yup scary as anything but the only way to get better is to just do it!
Yup its going to make you have all those liars going on up in your head, but God did not give us a spirit of fear!
He is right beside you, holding your hand. You just need to fight off the other negative noise going on at the same time. They r all lies!
So yogurt, cottage cheese, fruit, and not just once a day!
Oatmeal...,
Go back to your counsler!
Trust me it is a very long tough road to recovery the longer you delay.
You do know its not about being skinny, right?
It is much deeper then that. Because there is a reason we dont feel worthy enough to eat?
So ask God to help you, reach out to the people in your church,
God Bless you.
I am here if you need to talk.
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Thank you! I will try really hard today to eat when I'm hungry. I'll also try to see my counselor again as soon as I can.
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Remember, don't force yourself to eat a lot, just as much as you can to feel you are not hungry, so you won't purge after.
I am really glad you are going to see your counselor again!
I am really glad you are going to see your counselor again!
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